littlelaxer Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 Sorry this is so long but i need some help ok so last night i got online..................i saw my ex bf on. I was totally shocked because he is never online, he doesnt have it at home. I went invisible because i didnt want him to see me home at 8 30(haha) i watched though. Every so often he would come back from being Idle of 40 mins and then go right back into. Almost like he was seein if someone was on......not that i have been thinkin to much into it. I came online around 11:45ish 12 and he IMs me. Hes all talking to me and junk. i ask how everyhihng is and he said he got a new car, besides that everythings horrible. He got introuble for some stupid stuff. he tells me all about that and stuff. After talkin for a little bit i said it was nice talking to him but i was gonna get to bed. so i did. Today i sign on around 1ish and he was on again but in idle. A few m ins tobeing on he IMs me and says "you know u dont have to be a stranger, unless thats what u want to be" and signs off right away i had been doing no contact for sometime other then the times i would randomly see him or he would text me and such. So i texted him "i really dont know what u expect from me" and says back "nevermind, all i wanna be is friends. ive changed a lot since when, but we dont ever talk so how would u know" so i called him up and we started argueing cause he said he called me a while ago and i never answered. I was like well i was tryin to move on, and he was like u never called me back. I said u know u could of tried again. In the end the conversation got better and we started talking about junk. He told me his whole story of getting introuble, and he said to me "i was talking to the chief(hes in the military)and he asked where my gf was, and i said we broke up, and he said u know none of this would of happend if u were still with her" thne he responded saying "yeah i know thats not really what i want to hear right now" im like whoa ok why u sayin this junk. Then he asks who my new bf was cuase he heard i had a bf. ANd i said i didnt i was just seeing somene and he wanted to hear all about him and i said no i dont want to talk about it thats all. Cuase i mean its none of his businesss i dont want in intruding in my personal life. But he kept asking questions about him nad i would anser the ones he ask. Then he was like well u should know im not seeing any girls. i was like ohh ok. Then when we were gettin off the phone he says "hey me and rob(his roommate) want u to come over and make breakfast for us cause no one does that for us anymore,would u plleease come over??" i was like uhh no laughing. He was like well think about it ok? and we ended it. My bf and ibroke up a little over 2 months ago cause he said he didnt know wht he wanted and wasnt ready for a long term relationship.................what is he doin all this stuff for???????????? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 It sounds like he's just checking to see if you are still around in case he decides he needs a back up plan. Two months ago, he told you that you were not the person that he wanted to be in a long term relationship with. Then he told you that he didn't know 'what he wanted'. He did make it pretty clear what he didn't want when he broke up with you. He sounds non-commital now and not too serious about it. Maybe he does miss you, and wants to see you/talk to you/sleep with you but I seriously doubt he's had a major change of heart about the relationship in general. If you want to pursue it though, maybe you could communicate from a friendly distance and take it slowly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 28, 2004 Author Share Posted November 28, 2004 do u think i played it good though. Like did i do anything that would of messed me up if he was missing me, or re-thinking things???? cause when he was making a big deal about how i never responded to him back awhile ago when i started NC and he was texting and calling me i told him i just needed time, and that i was not about to come off as the crazy exgf who calls all the time and junk. And he was like yeah well u could of like called me. why did he have to say that stuff about his chief saying that if he was still with me none of this would ofhappened??? him gettin in trouble i mean. i dont getit Link to post Share on other sites
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