Add this to the list of things I dont understand

[MrTurk]

Maybe someone can shed light on this, because I just dont get it.

 

What is the benefit, when a woman posts pics of herself on her dating profile, and she has a different hair style in each pic? You can tell its obvious that each pic is probably 6mos apart, maybe even longer. And then, some of them even have a different color hair in each pic.

 

Do they not realize how unappealing that is to a guy? How am I supposed to know what the hell she looks like currently? Is she trying to make herself look appealing to a wider audience by showing multiple looks?

 

I'm turned off by that. I think all your pics should be current. So obviously your hair and how you look should be consistent.

Edited September 30, 2013 by MrTurk

[love1336x]

Lol. I never knew it turn off men with my different hair color...

It's only hair color... on less the picture was taken YEARS ago they wont be much of difference when you see her in person, or on less she bald... then yeah.

[hotpotato]

Mr.Turk, I dont think OLD is for you...

[MissBee]

Maybe someone can shed light on this, because I just dont get it.

 

What is the benefit, when a woman posts pics of herself on her dating profile, and she has a different hair style in each pic? You can tell its obvious that each pic is probably 6mos apart, maybe even longer. And then, some of them even have a different color hair in each pic.

 

Do they not realize how unappealing that is to a guy? How am I supposed to know what the hell she looks like currently? Is she trying to make herself look appealing to a wider audience by showing multiple looks?

 

I'm turned off by that. I think all your pics should be current. So obviously your hair and how you look should be consistent.

 

 

Is only her hair color different or is her face, body, everything different too?

 

I don't see the problem if in all the pictures her face/body look the exact same, but she just has different hair color.

 

Some women change their hair A LOT! Some actually change their hairstyle every few weeks/months. It is not "obvious" the pictures aren't current...and if they aren't, again, does SHE, the rest of her that is, still look the same or what?

 

Performer,Rihanna, for example changes her hair like she changes clothes...color, style everything, yet in every picture you know it's her and her body and face are the same. Most regular women don't change up their hair as much as she does but point is, if it's only different hair but the body and face remain relatively consistent in each pic, what's the problem?

Edited October 1, 2013 by MissBee

[MrTurk]

Lol. I never knew it turn off men with my different hair color...

It's only hair color... on less the picture was taken YEARS ago they wont be much of difference when you see her in person, or on less she bald... then yeah.

 

You are not seeing it from my point of view. As a guy...I am looking at women on their profiles. When I see a woman that has 4-5 pics, and EVERY pic has her with a completely different hair style, from long, short, perm, etc.... what kind of message does that send me? How am I supposed to know what she looks like right now?

 

How is what she looked like a year ago relevant to NOW?? Women can tend to look totally different depending on their hairstyle.

[MrTurk]

Some women change their hair A LOT! Some actually change their hairstyle every few weeks/months. It is not "obvious" the pictures aren't current...and if they aren't, again, does SHE, the rest of her that is, still look the same or what?

 

Research shows that many women who go through constant hair color and hair style changes are not happy with who they are, or how people perceive them. How much is too much? Thats up for debate.

 

Theres a lot of women that change their hair as events in their life happen. Ups and downs, good and bad. Because many women live and die in front of that mirror each morning. They are the ones that sit and stare at what they see staring back at them. And they try to change and critique that image.

 

I myself would have no problem if most women wore almost no makeup, or little at all. I think women look just fine without it. And most women look terrible because they use too much, or have no clue what the hell they are doing.

[Ouroboros]

Maybe someone can shed light on this, because I just dont get it.

 

What is the benefit, when a woman posts pics of herself on her dating profile, and she has a different hair style in each pic? You can tell its obvious that each pic is probably 6mos apart, maybe even longer. And then, some of them even have a different color hair in each pic.

 

Do they not realize how unappealing that is to a guy? How am I supposed to know what the hell she looks like currently? Is she trying to make herself look appealing to a wider audience by showing multiple looks?

 

I'm turned off by that. I think all your pics should be current. So obviously your hair and how you look should be consistent.

She's treating her OLD profile like a facebook or photobucket. Mentally she is too scatterbrained and young for you.

[Trimmer]

You are not seeing it from my point of view. As a guy...I am looking at women on their profiles. When I see a woman that has 4-5 pics, and EVERY pic has her with a completely different hair style, from long, short, perm, etc.... what kind of message does that send me?

Clearly, it's sending the message "I'm not the woman for you."

 

Why are you not seeing this as a positive thing? The women with personalities that you would apparently clash with are making it obvious for you to rule them out. Sounds like an ideal screening mechanism, given your preferences.

 

"She's not for me. Next." Isn't this a good thing?

 

Research shows that many women who go through constant hair color and hair style changes are not happy with who they are, or how people perceive them.

Citation please.

[Ouroboros]

It doesn't take a study to tell you if a person is constantly trying to change things about them something isn't right.

[Trimmer]

It doesn't take a study to tell you if a person is constantly trying to change things about them something isn't right.

I'm not necessarily arguing against that. It irritates me when people claim "research shows" to enhance their credibility, if they don't actually have reasearch that shows. So I'm calling him out - if he's got it, then great, it sounds like interesting research and I'd love to review it. If not, then his point may still stand, but his way of arguing it fails, and his credibility suffers.

[MrTurk]

Clearly, it's sending the message "I'm not the woman for you."

 

Why are you not seeing this as a positive thing? The women with personalities that you would apparently clash with are making it obvious for you to rule them out. Sounds like an ideal screening mechanism, given your preferences.

 

"She's not for me. Next." Isn't this a good thing?

 

 

I am not interested in this woman, or any of the women that do that. I simply stated I dont understand it. To me, it does not benefit her as far as putting her best foot forward in a dating environment.

 

I'm not necessarily arguing against that. It irritates me when people claim "research shows" to enhance their credibility, if they don't actually have reasearch that shows. So I'm calling him out - if he's got it, then great, it sounds like interesting research and I'd love to review it. If not, then his point may still stand, but his way of arguing it fails, and his credibility suffers.

 

Yes, its actual research. Not by me, but I have read a few articles on it in the past. If I was able to link it to you I would.

 

And for the record, I never grasp things out of the air, just to sound important or validate. Any time I reference something, I did actually read it or see a documentary on it

[MrTurk]

Mr.Turk, I dont think OLD is for you...

 

 

Probably correct. Because it seems most of the general public is totally fine with a certain amount of flakiness, and people being wishy-washy with each other.

 

I seem to be the 1% that wants honesty and directness.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

You are not seeing it from my point of view. As a guy...I am looking at women on their profiles. When I see a woman that has 4-5 pics, and EVERY pic has her with a completely different hair style, from long, short, perm, etc.... what kind of message does that send me? How am I supposed to know what she looks like right now?

 

How is what she looked like a year ago relevant to NOW?? Women can tend to look totally different depending on their hairstyle.

 

 

 

 

Most of us don't share your point of view.

 

Granted she should disclose which photo is current, but the variety of looks, relating mainly to mere hairstyles, affords much greater clarity about those who are the sorts to vary their hairstyles often.

 

If it is that little old lady who lives down the street, who has worn the same hairstyle and color since Ford was in the White House, then it isn't a big deal.

 

The woman's main goal, as always, should be to avoid at all costs the chance that she indicates (or doesn't specify at all) who will show up, and then turns up with a completely different look (***short of being deemed purposely misleading, I mean).

[candie13]

women like to occasionally reinvent themselves and try a new haircut or hair color. Most people don't do drastic changes, they play more with the "nuances" for the thrill of it.

 

Plus, if a girl posts pics of her with dark hair and with light hair color... she is attracting both men who like blonds and brunettes ! Plus, just like you said, you don't really know what's her look right now... adds more to the mystery, hahaha!

 

Cutting the bs talk, I never did OLD and never will. And that woman is hilarious, cannot believe that people go through this much trouble... One thing's for sure: watch if her weight seems the same, through out the photos. At least one good sign of stability, lol !