Struggling with being insecure

[Zoyalover]

I have been struggling with being insecure for most of my adult life and have had trouble maintaining relationships with men. When things get good is when I start to sabotage. I search for things that are not there, have crazy thoughts like I'm not good enough, and that maybe he wants someone else... Since my last relationship though, I have decided to change and to no longer allow myself to let fear, anxiety and worry run my life. I have decided to work hard and change so I can become a better person and to possibly get married someday. I have faith that I can be better and really want to be. Has anyone else suffered from being extremely insecure and have any tips on how I can improve?

 

-Z

[MrCastle]

What reasons do you have for feeling that way? I'm sure you're a beautiful woman who just needs to see it for herself.

 

Never doubt yourself. Never tell yourself you're not good enough. Especially if you have no actual reasons to feel that way.

 

Tell yourself you're a catch and any guy would be lucky to have you

[HorseLuck]

I have been struggling with being insecure for most of my adult life and have had trouble maintaining relationships with men. When things get good is when I start to sabotage. I search for things that are not there, have crazy thoughts like I'm not good enough, and that maybe he wants someone else... Since my last relationship though, I have decided to change and to no longer allow myself to let fear, anxiety and worry run my life. I have decided to work hard and change so I can become a better person and to possibly get married someday. I have faith that I can be better and really want to be. Has anyone else suffered from being extremely insecure and have any tips on how I can improve?

 

-Z

 

Yes, I relate. Best suggestion is therapy. You need to dig deep to figure out where the root of your low self-esteem and anxieties stem from. Only then can you work on building self-love and worth up.

[LookUp]

What are the things that make you feel unsecured? Is it more aesthetics or personality wise? I ask these questions because it's important to address the roots of your insecurity. Addressing these things can help you set a plan for moving forward.

[Zoyalover]

What are the things that make you feel unsecured? Is it more aesthetics or personality wise? I ask these questions because it's important to address the roots of your insecurity. Addressing these things can help you set a plan for moving forward.

 

My insecurity comes from being in the middle of my father's infidelity and because of a condition that I have that has caused unexplained infertility and menopausal symptoms. I have been in and out of therapy for years but since my last relationship, I have really started to make a drastic change. I wanted to be with him and only him for the rest of my life but life had a way of showing me that things don't always work out the way you would like them too.

 

Even though I have been in therapy for all these years I feel like I haven't wanted to change so badly since I have lost who I felt was the love of my life and I really don't know why... perhaps that's just the way it is...

[LookUp]

My insecurity comes from being in the middle of my father's infidelity and because of a condition that I have that has caused unexplained infertility and menopausal symptoms. I have been in and out of therapy for years but since my last relationship, I have really started to make a drastic change. I wanted to be with him and only him for the rest of my life but life had a way of showing me that things don't always work out the way you would like them too.

 

Even though I have been in therapy for all these years I feel like I haven't wanted to change so badly since I have lost who I felt was the love of my life and I really don't know why... perhaps that's just the way it is...

 

It seems like you believe in a soul mate. You know that there's more than 1 person for every person. If you have lost, what benefit would it provide to you to hang on to that one person when there's so many other potential guy available?

 

Tell me more about how your father's infidelity would have an impact on your life. We all make choices in life, so you are placing a huge burden on yourself for your father's choice. It isn't fair to you.

[Zoyalover]

It seems like you believe in a soul mate. You know that there's more than 1 person for every person. If you have lost, what benefit would it provide to you to hang on to that one person when there's so many other potential guy available?

 

Tell me more about how your father's infidelity would have an impact on your life. We all make choices in life, so you are placing a huge burden on yourself for your father's choice. It isn't fair to you.

 

I think I may have misrepresented how I feel about the idea of "the one". I don't believe in soul mates and "the one" I feel that people chose who they want to be with... I really love him so much, and am having a difficult time letting him go emotionally. It has been 4 months and I have had a lot of good days and bad days too. I think a big part of the reason why I struggle so much with this one is because I moved in with him thinking that we would get married (stupid mistake I know) and because I feel like we relate so well and he accepts me for me I have not felt so close to anyone else other than him... love is crazy.

 

In terms of my dad's infidelity, I have developed major insecurity due to him having a child out side of his marriage with my mother and sneaking me to go see him and his now wife. Also my dad would talk to his now wife on the phone around me when I was a kid and in H.S. I found a condom in his van and... So long story short, I'm screwed up because my dad cheated on my mom, hid it from us, broke up our family and got a divorce. After experiencing that as a kid and trying to have quality life long relationships with men, it has been a challenge for me. My first example of love from a man was crushed and turned into this untrustworthy, arrogant, butt hole of an example. My ex has not cheated on me at all, but he has not always respected me. He has a lot of female friends and toward the end of our relationship would (withdraw from me because of being depressed) what seemed like constantly text these friends and talk to them on the phone away from me and when I would come around hang up. That caused me to be triggered because my dad would do similar things. For my ex he was trying to maintain autonomy and told me that he wanted to keep things to himself and that somethings were private. Thus, since he triggered me so bad, and because he felt like he could not give me what I needed due to his depression, we agreed to break up. Hope I did not over explain...

Edited October 5, 2013 by Zoyalover

[happydate]

I think I may have misrepresented how I feel about the idea of "the one". I don't believe in soul mates and "the one" I feel that people chose who they want to be with... I really love him so much, and am having a difficult time letting him go emotionally. It has been 4 months and I have had a lot of good days and bad days too. I think a big part of the reason why I struggle so much with this one is because I moved in with him thinking that we would get married (stupid mistake I know) and because I feel like we relate so well and he accepts me for me I have not felt so close to anyone else other than him... love is crazy.

 

In terms of my dad's infidelity, I have developed major insecurity due to him having a child out side of his marriage with my mother and sneaking me to go see him and his now wife. Also my dad would talk to his now wife on the phone around me when I was a kid and in H.S. I found a condom in his van and... So long story short, I'm screwed up because my dad cheated on my mom, hid it from us, broke up our family and got a divorce. After experiencing that as a kid and trying to have quality life long relationships with men, it has been a challenge for me. My first example of love from a man was crushed and turned into this untrustworthy, arrogant, butt hole of an example. My ex has not cheated on me at all, but he has not always respected me. He has a lot of female friends and toward the end of our relationship would (withdraw from me because of being depressed) what seemed like constantly text these friends and talk to them on the phone away from me and when I would come around hang up. That caused me to be triggered because my dad would do similar things. For my ex he was trying to maintain autonomy and told me that he wanted to keep things to himself and that somethings were private. Thus, since he triggered me so bad, and because he felt like he could not give me what I needed due to his depression, we agreed to break up. Hope I did not over explain...

 

There's an old saying and it seemed to always ring true.

 

We tend to date our parents. With you, you tend to date men who resemble closely to your father because that's what a man you will feel the most comfortable with and will be the men you will be attracted the most and willing to sleep with. In fact, if you date a man who was brought up in a balanced loving family, then you will find him boring and unexciting because of the absence of drama -- the nice guy when in fact, he's the kind of guy you've always looked for in the first place. A guy who can provide loyalty and respect to you with warmth and security which will be the opposite of who you are now and your father. Since like attracts like, that is what you will expect at this moment in time.

 

Can it change? The answer is YES.

 

Some form of therapy only addresses your trouble on a surface level and for you, it may require an obscene amount of will power to overcome it. For some people, this is a impossible task. Many people go into therapy only to relapse again and again and form a self-destructing relationship in the process. Men and women alike are in the same boat.

 

You need to address the cause. The root cause is with your dad and I don't think you had forgiven for what he's done to you and to your mother as a family. The betrayal and loveless relationship with you and your dad needs healing. This is something you need to look into in order to heal the wounds inside of you. By healing means by talking to your dad in a civilized way in a presence of a therapist and express your anger, betrayal etc to him and let him know what he did to you. By talking, you are releasing any repressed emotions that you held SO TIGHT within you that you were unwilling to let go. And your many exes were simply the means to re-affirm your repressed emotions. Sometimes this healing process can go both ways. It helps heal your psychological imbalance and also your dad's own psychological imbalances as well.

 

You will need to look at your own friends too, because the tendency for people with psychological imbalances is to associate themselves with friends who have similar traits because you will feel most comfortable with. When you are looking seriously at healing yourself though, you will have to make a choice to start disassociating yourself with them. Rest assured that you will eventually meet new friends who are more balanced and when you do, you will meet their male friends who have similar traits. And then you will meet and date them, but they will challenge and re-affirm your balanced psychological state and to make sure you won't relapse back to where you were.

 

So in my experience with my own self is this is that I tend to use to date insecure girls (people pleasers) and am attracted to them. The insecurity came from my childhood days as a people pleaser. I went for EFT treatment and after a few years, I am no longer a people pleaser. I lost a lot of friends during that time, but then all of them were people pleasers anyhow. But I gain new friends who ARE NOT people pleasers and they assure me to always be authentic.

Part of the challenge is taking the leap of faith. The willingness to change is to abandon the old ways of doing things and embracing the new. That was a challenge for me because I've always done so well getting laid and to throw all that and start new was scary. The What-if scenarios.. The fear then was unjustified looking back. Life is better now with women now than before.

 

You can too. Start with source of your issues and begin healing. My source was with my mother. She was a people pleaser.

Edited October 5, 2013 by happydate

[Grumpybutfun]

There's an old saying and it seemed to always ring true.

 

We tend to date our parents. With you, you tend to date men who resemble closely to your father because that's what a man you will feel the most comfortable with and will be the men you will be attracted the most and willing to sleep with. In fact, if you date a man who was brought up in a balanced loving family, then you will find him boring and unexciting because of the absence of drama -- the nice guy when in fact, he's the kind of guy you've always looked for in the first place. A guy who can provide loyalty and respect to you with warmth and security which will be the opposite of who you are now and your father. Since like attracts like, that is what you will expect at this moment in time.

 

Can it change? The answer is YES.

 

Some form of therapy only addresses your trouble on a surface level and for you, it may require an obscene amount of will power to overcome it. For some people, this is a impossible task. Many people go into therapy only to relapse again and again and form a self-destructing relationship in the process. Men and women alike are in the same boat.

 

You need to address the cause. The root cause is with your dad and I don't think you had forgiven for what he's done to you and to your mother as a family. The betrayal and loveless relationship with you and your dad needs healing. This is something you need to look into in order to heal the wounds inside of you. By healing means by talking to your dad in a civilized way in a presence of a therapist and express your anger, betrayal etc to him and let him know what he did to you. By talking, you are releasing any repressed emotions that you held SO TIGHT within you that you were unwilling to let go. And your many exes were simply the means to re-affirm your repressed emotions. Sometimes this healing process can go both ways. It helps heal your psychological imbalance and also your dad's own psychological imbalances as well.

 

You will need to look at your own friends too, because the tendency for people with psychological imbalances is to associate themselves with friends who have similar traits because you will feel most comfortable with. When you are looking seriously at healing yourself though, you will have to make a choice to start disassociating yourself with them. Rest assured that you will eventually meet new friends who are more balanced and when you do, you will meet their male friends who have similar traits. And then you will meet and date them, but they will challenge and re-affirm your balanced psychological state and to make sure you won't relapse back to where you were.

 

So in my experience with my own self is this is that I tend to use to date insecure girls (people pleasers) and am attracted to them. The insecurity came from my childhood days as a people pleaser. I went for EFT treatment and after a few years, I am no longer a people pleaser. I lost a lot of friends during that time, but then all of them were people pleasers anyhow. But I gain new friends who ARE NOT people pleasers and they assure me to always be authentic.

Part of the challenge is taking the leap of faith. The willingness to change is to abandon the old ways of doing things and embracing the new. That was a challenge for me because I've always done so well getting laid and to throw all that and start new was scary. The What-if scenarios.. The fear then was unjustified looking back. Life is better now with women now than before.

 

You can too. Start with source of your issues and begin healing. My source was with my mother. She was a people pleaser.

 

I wish I could give this more "likes" because it is so true. Good advice.

[Zoyalover]

There's an old saying and it seemed to always ring true.

 

We tend to date our parents. With you, you tend to date men who resemble closely to your father because that's what a man you will feel the most comfortable with and will be the men you will be attracted the most and willing to sleep with. In fact, if you date a man who was brought up in a balanced loving family, then you will find him boring and unexciting because of the absence of drama -- the nice guy when in fact, he's the kind of guy you've always looked for in the first place. A guy who can provide loyalty and respect to you with warmth and security which will be the opposite of who you are now and your father. Since like attracts like, that is what you will expect at this moment in time.

 

Can it change? The answer is YES.

 

Some form of therapy only addresses your trouble on a surface level and for you, it may require an obscene amount of will power to overcome it. For some people, this is a impossible task. Many people go into therapy only to relapse again and again and form a self-destructing relationship in the process. Men and women alike are in the same boat.

 

You need to address the cause. The root cause is with your dad and I don't think you had forgiven for what he's done to you and to your mother as a family. The betrayal and loveless relationship with you and your dad needs healing. This is something you need to look into in order to heal the wounds inside of you. By healing means by talking to your dad in a civilized way in a presence of a therapist and express your anger, betrayal etc to him and let him know what he did to you. By talking, you are releasing any repressed emotions that you held SO TIGHT within you that you were unwilling to let go. And your many exes were simply the means to re-affirm your repressed emotions. Sometimes this healing process can go both ways. It helps heal your psychological imbalance and also your dad's own psychological imbalances as well.

 

You will need to look at your own friends too, because the tendency for people with psychological imbalances is to associate themselves with friends who have similar traits because you will feel most comfortable with. When you are looking seriously at healing yourself though, you will have to make a choice to start disassociating yourself with them. Rest assured that you will eventually meet new friends who are more balanced and when you do, you will meet their male friends who have similar traits. And then you will meet and date them, but they will challenge and re-affirm your balanced psychological state and to make sure you won't relapse back to where you were.

 

So in my experience with my own self is this is that I tend to use to date insecure girls (people pleasers) and am attracted to them. The insecurity came from my childhood days as a people pleaser. I went for EFT treatment and after a few years, I am no longer a people pleaser. I lost a lot of friends during that time, but then all of them were people pleasers anyhow. But I gain new friends who ARE NOT people pleasers and they assure me to always be authentic.

Part of the challenge is taking the leap of faith. The willingness to change is to abandon the old ways of doing things and embracing the new. That was a challenge for me because I've always done so well getting laid and to throw all that and start new was scary. The What-if scenarios.. The fear then was unjustified looking back. Life is better now with women now than before.

 

You can too. Start with source of your issues and begin healing. My source was with my mother. She was a people pleaser.

 

Thank you happy date... I know this was true, and I had thought about bringing my dad to therapy with me, but then quickly talked myself out of it because I thought that would be outrageous. I have told my ex, my dad and my therapist that he reminds me of my dad and am slowly making the steps I need to to get better. Everyday is different and it's like I'm working on two things at once, getting over my ex and working on myself.

 

Anyway, since I have embarked upon this change I have been wanting to make more friends as you have said and noticed that some of my current friends (male) have not been able to understand me since the break up or understand what I'm going through and have left me feeling friendless if that makes any sense. Then there is this girl I met at my exes church. I genuinely like her but feel that I am having trouble connecting with her since she goes to my exes church even though he stopped going and she doesn't talk to him. Does that sound crazy?! (That was a side bar)

 

Thank you for instilling hope and for sharing your personal experience.

 

-Z

[happydate]

Thank you happy date... I know this was true, and I had thought about bringing my dad to therapy with me, but then quickly talked myself out of it because I thought that would be outrageous. I have told my ex, my dad and my therapist that he reminds me of my dad and am slowly making the steps I need to to get better. Everyday is different and it's like I'm working on two things at once, getting over my ex and working on myself.

 

Anyway, since I have embarked upon this change I have been wanting to make more friends as you have said and noticed that some of my current friends (male) have not been able to understand me since the break up or understand what I'm going through and have left me feeling friendless if that makes any sense. Then there is this girl I met at my exes church. I genuinely like her but feel that I am having trouble connecting with her since she goes to my exes church even though he stopped going and she doesn't talk to him. Does that sound crazy?! (That was a side bar)

 

Thank you for instilling hope and for sharing your personal experience.

 

-Z

 

The best way for change is to make new friends and gain a new perspective on things. Do your best to connect with the girl at your exes church. There is nothing to fear about your ex. It's kind of also funny that you guys met in church? One of the things the bible teaches about love is that, to love a person is to accept all of his or her flaws and refrain from judging someone even if he or she has baggage. Perhaps he's not very keen in attending Sunday school?

Despite what you might think of him; forgive him for what he has done to you or what you had done to him because it's not as though you're the only one that needs fixing. He does to and perhaps him attending church is to find his own answers within. But the key part is this; fix yourself and teach yourself how to love yourself first. When you are able to love yourself, then you can love others. You will gain a different perspective about your dad, your mom, your friends and your future lover. This perspective might lead to dissociating with your current male friends because they are starting to feel different to you and you will connect more to females. You are a female so you are more connected to the feminine energy. That's not to say that you can't have male friends. But if you are used to having male friends, why not seek a change and have a female friend for counsel for a change?

 

In the bible, it said specifically that if you heal yourself enough and become a better person, the kingdom of God is within you and more things will be added on to you as you become a better person. What's important to remember is that in your current state of mind, a loving and caring man will not want to date you or will find you annoying. You have to change and improve yourself to a point where these men will want you but you shouldn't consume your time looking for him. When God thinks you've healed and improved yourself enough, great men will literally fall right in front of your doorstep. Then you get to pick who shall be your lover. As a man, this has been my experience but I have to do the approaching.

 

Last but not least. The therapy with your dad is an essential part of healing, because what happens if you do marry a great guy that is the opposite of your dad? I think you have not found the right therapist yet to create a safe environment for you and your dad. That day will come and you will intuitively know it. You see that as you improve yourself, the people you attract will be different than what you are used to be friends with and that also includes your therapist. In my case, it wasn't until a few years later that I found the perfect match. A therapist who actually mirrored my experience and who knows how to create a safe environment for me and my family to fail. When we all fail is when we can start to heal. It's was extremely emotional and heart felt, but it felt good. One day, you will meet this person. The time frame of healing differs from person to person as my therapist told me. I had ego issues I had to deal so that slowed down the progress. Perhaps it will be quicker for you. Who knows?

 

As long as you have the desire and the will to heal, you will be healed.

 

Blessings!

Edited October 6, 2013 by happydate

[Zoyalover]

The best way for change is to make new friends and gain a new perspective on things. Do your best to connect with the girl at your exes church. There is nothing to fear about your ex. It's kind of also funny that you guys met in church? One of the things the bible teaches about love is that, to love a person is to accept all of his or her flaws and refrain from judging someone even if he or she has baggage. Perhaps he's not very keen in attending Sunday school?

 

I am still considering what you said about connecting with her, I have not reached out to her in a while and am unsure when and if I will anytime soon... He and I actually met through a mutual friend that we share, not at church and no, he is no longer going...

 

Despite what you might think of him; forgive him for what he has done to you or what you had done to him because it's not as though you're the only one that needs fixing. He does to and perhaps him attending church is to find his own answers within. But the key part is this; fix yourself and teach yourself how to love yourself first. When you are able to love yourself, then you can love others. You will gain a different perspective about your dad, your mom, your friends and your future lover. This perspective might lead to dissociating with your current male friends because they are starting to feel different to you and you will connect more to females. You are a female so you are more connected to the feminine energy. That's not to say that you can't have male friends. But if you are used to having male friends, why not seek a change and have a female friend for counsel for a change?

 

All this is true happydate... I am working hard on becoming a better me, but he on the other hand has not quite started his journey. I have forgiven him, but I just need to forgive myself, be strong and move forward with my life. It's interesting that you say that about connecting more to females than males... most of my life I have felt more comfortable with guys and with my male friends but since this break up I have been clinging to some of my positive female friends.

 

In the bible, it said specifically that if you heal yourself enough and become a better person, the kingdom of God is within you and more things will be added on to you as you become a better person.

Where does it say that at??

 

What's important to remember is that in your current state of mind, a loving and caring man will not want to date you or will find you annoying. You have to change and improve yourself to a point where these men will want you but you shouldn't consume your time looking for him. When God thinks you've healed and improved yourself enough, great men will literally fall right in front of your doorstep. Then you get to pick who shall be your lover. As a man, this has been my experience but I have to do the approaching.

 

This has not been my full experience happydate. There are guys who have been trying to pursue me since the break up and I have found them extremely annoying, and void of understanding to my current situation. It was so bad that I just blocked one of them from calling and texting me :/ thank you for the last part and for being so encouraging

 

Last but not least. The therapy with your dad is an essential part of healing, because what happens if you do marry a great guy that is the opposite of your dad? I think you have not found the right therapist yet to create a safe environment for you and your dad. That day will come and you will intuitively know it. You see that as you improve yourself, the people you attract will be different than what you are used to be friends with and that also includes your therapist. In my case, it wasn't until a few years later that I found the perfect match. A therapist who actually mirrored my experience and who knows how to create a safe environment for me and my family to fail. When we all fail is when we can start to heal. It's was extremely emotional and heart felt, but it felt good. One day, you will meet this person. The time frame of healing differs from person to person as my therapist told me. I had ego issues I had to deal so that slowed down the progress. Perhaps it will be quicker for you. Who knows?

 

As long as you have the desire and the will to heal, you will be healed.

 

Blessings!

 

I am also still thinking about this response in terms of finding a new therapist... Thanks so much!!

Edited October 9, 2013 by Zoyalover

[happydate]

I am still considering what you said about connecting with her, I have not reached out to her in a while and am unsure when and if I will anytime soon... He and I actually met through a mutual friend that we share, not at church and no, he is no longer going...

 

 

 

All this is true happydate... I am working hard on becoming a better me, but he on the other hand has not quite started his journey. I have forgiven him, but I just need to forgive myself, be strong and move forward with my life. It's interesting that you say that about connecting more to females than males... most of my life I have felt more comfortable with guys and with my male friends but since this break up I have been clinging to some of my positive female friends.

 

 

Where does it say that at??

 

 

 

This has not been my full experience happydate. There are guys who have been trying to pursue me since the break up and I have found them extremely annoying, and void of understanding to my current situation. It was so bad that I just blocked one of them from calling and texting me :/ thank you for the last part and for being so encouraging

 

 

 

I am also still thinking about this response in terms of finding a new therapist... Thanks so much!!

 

You are doing the right things. Please be patient and trust your gut feelings and what it feels right to you. Do not be afraid to OPEN your heart again bit by bit and share that with your positive female friends. You need their feminine energy and their support as you heal. Do not be afraid to connect with the female that has a feel in your heart. Whatever you feel in your heart is God communing with you as your guide.

 

In regards to the multiple of Gifts, it is in Matt 13:10-13

 

The disciples came to him and asked, “Why do you speak to the people in parables?” 11 He replied, “The knowledge of the secrets of the kingdom of heaven has been given to you, but not to them. 12 Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him.

 

If you read below, this rings true in the Parables of the Talents. Meaning that if you truly open your arms to the Lord and embrace him as his servant with an OPEN HEART, you will be blessed and in so doing with patience you will be given more, shown more AND MORE IMPORTANTLY those who does not embrace God had a gift of a kind strong man that she did not appreciate will then be, a God well put it, take from her and be given to you that he can appreciates and you can be happy with. Sometimes it could be anything other than a man. God truly knows how to make you truly happy. Trust him.

 

Every day is a journey and please maintain the frame that you are to heal yourself and be as authentic as you are, love yourself and last of all, be happy!!

 

Many blessings!!

[Zoyalover]

Thank you happydate

[todreaminblue]

I have done the therapy thing...for years...many many sessions to the point of tears with going over things i seem to have to repeat over and over again to a new therapist....

 

 

i accept i am pretty mixed up..... but with that mix ups and experiences i have had that have made me this way ...there is no one like me, i am special.....goofy but special

 

 

i know i am deserving(as mr castle so eloquently pointed out you are deserving of love) may not be everyones cup of tea and not everyone is my cup of tea i am a selective herbal tea drinker.....i know without a doubt i am not easy to handle...i am a woman of substance whod eserves a man who has substance.....and strength ...lots of it.......but underneath all the scars underneath the skin i am in which is soft btw....lol........beats an ever living heart with the capacity to make someone feel special in so many ways....i deserve to have that too....in spite of my glaringly obvious flaws.....i dont only suck ...i rock as well..and i can rock soem ones life...they would never regret being with me....no one ever has....maybe one.....;0)..so thats hwo i look at it....i rock more than suck.......therapy didnt teach me that...prayer did.....and it is my mantra when i feel yuck..........deb.......

[Zoyalover]

Thanks Deb

[mea_M]

Yes. I think its only human to be insecure at certain times in our life. Life is filled with many surprises leaving us scrambling now and again to question our own worth. Best advice I can offer is to get to know your own worth. Then the bumps along the way won't feel so bumpy because you will have enough self love to know that you are enough. And you are enough. Believe it.

 

Mea:)