NiCoLe20 Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 ok my b/f was a different person when we met back in april.... ever since he got his own apartment about 4/5 months ago-everyone goes there to hang out b/c there's basically no where else to go.. his friends are into drugs like coke, weed, k, and more... now they've gotten him to do it b/c they all just sit around and do it together... he was never like this till he got his own place...now people buy a huge stash, leave it at his house for him to sell it b/c like i said everyone goes there. i do not approve of this and i told him this... i do it sometimes but its only on weekends , but on the other hand he will stay up all night w/ his boys doing coke... i dont know what else to do i love him to death - and dont want him to do this to himself. i told him i want him to stop or im gone. i told him my feelings for him are fading b/c of all this crap... he said he loves me and doesnt want to loose me and he will stop in a month after the holidays. he's basically selling to make extra cash to pay for attorneys and for court b/c he was arrested for posession a few weeks ago. its ruining his life and he doesnt realize it. he knows he's in a lot of trouble but his problem is he doesnt see how bad it is. he knows i dont like it and i dont want this to ruin our relationship. everything is PERFECT except the drugs which are way out of control. i get mad at him when i see him doing it and i will just leave...i told him it hurts me to see him like this...he says it willstop but who knows? what should i do? i cant control how he spends his money or makes it so anyone have any ideas? i guess just wait to see if it stops in a month and ifnot then im gone Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 Whatever you do, don't get involved with selling or receiving any of it, as a matter of fact, you even being seen there is huge risk. If you really love him, leave. Seriously. Maybe it'll make him wake up. Otherwise, you'll just have to sit back and watch him crash. He'll have to hit rock bottom in order to start recovering. It's hard to sit back and watch, but that's all you can do besides leaving him. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 Any place where there is alot of traffice partying ect is bound to get busted.... make sure you arn't there.... tell him you don't want to be at his apartment anymore and see if he chooses his druggie friends or you. Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 exactly how often does he do it? Only on the weekends? There's a wonderful phrase "Don't her high on your own supply" If he's using his own supply then it WILL get worse. He's going to blow all the coke and not have any money to pay the dealer back. Then he's going to be a wanted man. If i were you i would give him an ultimatum. Either he kicks that or you leave him. Then if he doesn't, you know which meant more to him. Its OK to just do it on the weekends. I do. But thats it. If its a 4 time a week thing than yeah...its getting worse since he never did it until a few months ago. And i think that his friends aren't helping wither. They need to go also. He's got a place now where it can be on the kitchen table and no one can say Sh*t about it. Thats was us 20 year old want. Freedom to do that. So his friends are also taking advantage of that. It there anyway you can move in with him and put your foot down? Or get him out of there and back with his parents or what's not ( I'm not really sure the situation) Link to post Share on other sites
Spira Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 To serious drug users, nothing is more important than the drugs. Unless he's not a complete addict, leaving him probably won't make him clean up his act, but it will certainly be good for *you* to keep yourself out of that situation. If he's a casual user, you can probably stick around to help him out of the situation. If he's addicted, it will be a long hard road and like Moose said, he'll have to hit rock bottom. Maybe more than once. I have seen drugs destroy everything around a person. It is really sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 Of course the dealers are going to bring coke to his hoouse, that way they don't have to move it, they don't have to keep comming back and he is responisble. what happens if he gets robbed? Witch is likley when coke is involved.... who's the dead man then? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 Originally posted by NiCoLe20 what should i do? What should you do? I think you should do what you told him you'd do if he didn't stop. Originally posted by NiCoLe20 i told him i want him to stop or im gone He didn't stop. Why are you still hanging around? Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 Originally posted by tiki What should you do? I think you should do what you told him you'd do if he didn't stop. He didn't stop. Why are you still hanging around? AFreakinMEN!!! Link to post Share on other sites
shawty Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 I dont understand why you wont leave him! He is digging himself in a bigger and bigger hole, and your just gonna go down with him. So what if he has his own apartment? Which would you rather pick... a guy who lives at home and is drug-free.. or a guy who has an apartment and is a drug addict? He already got caught! Wake up call!! The police probably know him, so stay away from him! He wont stop if his friends dont stop. You probably heard him and his friends saying it thousands and thousands of times that they'll stop... they wont! You need to leave him and his friends and find other people to chill with. Link to post Share on other sites
Soon2bsngl Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 Leave him. He's going to go spiraling out of control and drag you down with him. If he really loves you and the relationship is strong enough he will clean his a** up and come back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Taerie Posted December 16, 2004 Share Posted December 16, 2004 Coming from a reformed addict. Get out of there....he'll take you down with him, without giving you a second though. Link to post Share on other sites
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