Tinder dating app

[hasaquestion]

With Tinder, I'd say when you get a match, you aren't actually going to get anywhere by saying "hi" or something like that.

 

Most people who have it aren't "serious about it" like I assume online dating sites are. And just because someone swiped right on you doesn't mean they're so interested in you that they'll actually want to talk.

 

Best thing to do is have some smartass comments lined up. Drop a funny comment, then when she says "hahahaha", wait half a day and drop another one, then do it one more time. Then she'll have an incentive to talk to you when you actually try to say hello - you make her laugh.

[Mo_Do]

With Tinder, I'd say when you get a match, you aren't actually going to get anywhere by saying "hi" or something like that.

 

Most people who have it aren't "serious about it" like I assume online dating sites are. And just because someone swiped right on you doesn't mean they're so interested in you that they'll actually want to talk.

 

Best thing to do is have some smartass comments lined up. Drop a funny comment, then when she says "hahahaha", wait half a day and drop another one, then do it one more time. Then she'll have an incentive to talk to you when you actually try to say hello - you make her laugh.

 

Might work on an 18-25 year old that's just on there to see how many guys think she's "hot". In this case is doesn't matter what dumb stuff you send her, or in whatever screwed up way - she's never gonna meet up with you so what's the point.

[kaylan]

With Tinder, I'd say when you get a match, you aren't actually going to get anywhere by saying "hi" or something like that.

 

Most people who have it aren't "serious about it" like I assume online dating sites are. And just because someone swiped right on you doesn't mean they're so interested in you that they'll actually want to talk.

 

Best thing to do is have some smartass comments lined up. Drop a funny comment, then when she says "hahahaha", wait half a day and drop another one, then do it one more time. Then she'll have an incentive to talk to you when you actually try to say hello - you make her laugh.

Dunno.

 

Had a woman today match with me, message me first, and I quickly was given her number after only a few messages. She seems very thirsty for a hookup. But I dont know if I could go through with it. She just seems tooooo eager.

 

Granted I do have a nice body shot up as my last pic. Im sure I could be waking up next Sunday morning in her bed. But my brain conflicts with my hormones, so unlikely.

[kaylan]

Yeah, I've looked through my pictures, and I just look really bad.

 

Trouble is, I just look horrible in all of my pictures. I can't seem to take any good ones.

 

I went to the beach last week to take some of me using the timer, and my camera fell in the sand and died.

 

So I'm stuck with a bunch of bad pictures and nobody is biting. What do I do?

 

I have absolutely no idea what to put in the about me.

The bolded made me laugh. It feels like a sitcom moment

[fortyninethousand322]

Dunno.

 

Had a woman today match with me, message me first, and I quickly was given her number after only a few messages. She seems very thirsty for a hookup. But I dont know if I could go through with it. She just seems tooooo eager.

 

Granted I do have a nice body shot up as my last pic. Im sure I could be waking up next Sunday morning in her bed. But my brain conflicts with my hormones, so unlikely.

 

You sure she isn't a bot? You should tell her you saw two ghosts procreating, just to make sure she's human...

[kaylan]

You sure she isn't a bot? You should tell her you saw two ghosts procreating, just to make sure she's human...

Did you miss the part where I got her phone number? We were texting and I got more pics from here while texting as well.

[fortyninethousand322]

Did you miss the part where I got her phone number? We were texting and I got more pics from here while texting as well.

 

You didn't specify whether or not you had determined it was a real number.

 

It must be nice to be one of those select few men who can get lucky on Tinder...

[kaylan]

You didn't specify whether or not you had determined it was a real number.

 

It must be nice to be one of those select few men who can get lucky on Tinder...

If you read the tone of my previous post, you would see that Im not that into the girl. The behavior seemed desperate and over eager. I wouldnt jump into that risky sexual situation.

 

And no, women arent banging down my door on that app, or in real life.

[somedude81]

The bolded made me laugh. It feels like a sitcom moment

Yeah I guess it does.

 

And then I took it home and tried to fix it but I kept on making it worse.

 

Then I took it apart, touched something I shouldn't have and got a nasty shock.

 

What sucks is that none of the pictures I got were any good. So my camera died for nothing.

[RonaldS]

I don't know what was going on this weekend, but I got a ton of matches. Probably 30 for the weekend. Weather is getting nicer? I have no idea. Not going to complain though.

 

Here's how I look at Tinder: it's like a checking account. You just make deposits, and if you need some cash, you make a withdrawal. It's pretty much that simple. Mutual interest is there in some capacity, so everybody you match with is potential date (vs traditional OLD). Now I have some cash in my account, but I don't feel any pressing need to spend any of it. But if there's a boring Friday night or something, I'll just head to the 'ATM'.

 

So, given that I live in a big city and meeting women, I have been able to put a lot into savings. What that has done is put me in a position where I don't have to message anybody. And for the most part, I don't. The only conversations/meetings that ever happen occur because a woman that I'm interested in started talking to me. It's a good position to be in. I don't have to give a crap if any particular interaction ever goes anywhere, because there are literally hundreds of other options.

 

I'm liking Tinder more and more.

[JamesM]

When women enjoy their sexual freedom, they tend to be labelled "sluts". Plenty of threads have been here (and been locked) where some men have talked about not wanting women who have had friends with benefits situations, or engaged in one night stands. Those same men tend to be the ones to tell everyone that men need to spread their seed, and that women should just get used to that. I've also never had a good experience when approaching a man - they tend to think a woman is desperate if she's doing the asking.

 

It is a catch-22. Men want women to ask but when they do, then they may consider them to bold to be relationship material.

 

Personally, I have not had a problem with it, but then I can say that the woman who is bold in the beginning will always be assertive throughout the relationship.

 

Guys simply need to ask...can you handle a strong woman or not?

 

(btw, Anela...clean your inbox. )

[hasaquestion]

Might work on an 18-25 year old that's just on there to see how many guys think she's "hot". In this case is doesn't matter what dumb stuff you send her, or in whatever screwed up way - she's never gonna meet up with you so what's the point.

 

I've met a whole bunch of people in that age range on Tinder. You won't get a one night stand out of it but you get to meet up for coffee and going out as friends is pretty easy.

 

As long as you don't come off as desperate or creepy (tall order for some guys I guess) you're fine. There's a reason they swiped like for your picture, they won't think you look that bad.

 

It is a catch-22. Men want women to ask but when they do, then they may consider them to bold to be relationship material.

 

Personally, I have not had a problem with it, but then I can say that the woman who is bold in the beginning will always be assertive throughout the relationship.

 

Guys simply need to ask...can you handle a strong woman or not?

 

Catch-22 is a nice way to say it. I like hypocrisy more.

[kaylan]

If you read the tone of my previous post, you would see that Im not that into the girl. The behavior seemed desperate and over eager. I wouldnt jump into that risky sexual situation.

 

And no, women arent banging down my door on that app, or in real life.

Lol Im going to take this back. I talked to her some more...shes actually pretty chill. The convo became more flirty, some more suggestive pics were exchanged and we have a date tomorrow. A quick bite, and if that goes well...maybe other things.

 

Still unsure. Still cautious. Still kinda feel like bailing. But ill see how it goes.

[Marks]

Have you guys considered that maybe only certain types of girls use Tinder? I don't exactly see a lot of down-to-earth girls using the app. More like the sorority type, judging by the pictures. So if you're an average looking guy, I wouldn't really expect them to "swipe right".

 

I initially had quite a few matches when I started using the app, and even got a girl's number (although we never met up), but now things have dried up. All I'm getting now are the aforementioned sorority type girls, and so far none of them are matching with me.

 

I have also noticed that later in the night more girls show up as having been active within the past few minutes...

 

And finally, FWIW, a cousin of mine met a guy via Tinder back in September, and they're now engaged to be married o.0

[organizedchaos]

Have you guys considered that maybe only certain types of girls use Tinder? I don't exactly see a lot of down-to-earth girls using the app. More like the sorority type, judging by the pictures. So if you're an average looking guy, I wouldn't really expect them to "swipe right".

 

I initially had quite a few matches when I started using the app, and even got a girl's number (although we never met up), but now things have dried up. All I'm getting now are the aforementioned sorority type girls, and so far none of them are matching with me.

 

I have also noticed that later in the night more girls show up as having been active within the past few minutes...

 

And finally, FWIW, a cousin of mine met a guy via Tinder back in September, and they're now engaged to be married o.0

 

Well you just contradicted yourself with the last comment.

 

All depends on the age range you're searching on.

 

My experience has been the exact opposite, with only one exception, in the many matches and dates I've gotten through it. But I'm searching on girls 30-43. So they're more mature and looking for something more.

 

Just had a fourth date with a girl from it last night and things are looking really good. She's 33.

[Marks]

Well you just contradicted yourself with the last comment.

 

All depends on the age range you're searching on.

 

My experience has been the exact opposite, with only one exception, in the many matches and dates I've gotten through it. But I'm searching on girls 30-43. So they're more mature and looking for something more.

 

Just had a fourth date with a girl from it last night and things are looking really good. She's 33.

 

How did I contradict myself? What, do sorority types not want to marry? My cousin is of the same type, and the guy she's engaged to is pretty much the type of guy I'd expect her to want to marry. Good looking, a little rugged but a little metro at the same time...pretty much nothing like me, haha. I'm just shocked that they'd want to marry after only knowing each other for five months.

 

But yeah, both my cousin and I are in our mid 20's, so your mileage may vary depending on what age range your looking in.

[fortyninethousand322]

Have you guys considered that maybe only certain types of girls use Tinder? I don't exactly see a lot of down-to-earth girls using the app. More like the sorority type, judging by the pictures. So if you're an average looking guy, I wouldn't really expect them to "swipe right".

 

I initially had quite a few matches when I started using the app, and even got a girl's number (although we never met up), but now things have dried up. All I'm getting now are the aforementioned sorority type girls, and so far none of them are matching with me.

 

I have also noticed that later in the night more girls show up as having been active within the past few minutes...

 

And finally, FWIW, a cousin of mine met a guy via Tinder back in September, and they're now engaged to be married o.0

 

I don't know. I sometimes see women on Tinder with whom I'm friends with on Facebook. Some of them are pretty down to earth. Actually a lot of them are. So who knows...

[jcm101]

I'm 21 and met up with a 19yr old frosh Wed for coffee on campus. I like her. Solid convos and I texted her that night say how it was nice meeting her and she was responsive. I'd like to ask her out possibly bowling. Was thinking texting her tomorrow and asking her out, but not sure what day. I thin next Fri would work, but a week in advance always makes me wonder what will happen or what do I do withing that week until the date. Continue texting? We've only met each other once, how do I know she won't just lose interest in that time frame? I'd like to ask her out sooner, but with both of our class schedules, it would be tough.

[jcm101]

I'm 21 and met up with a 19yr old frosh Wed for coffee on campus. I like her. Solid convos and I texted her that night say how it was nice meeting her and she was responsive. I'd like to ask her out possibly bowling. Was thinking texting her tomorrow and asking her out, but not sure what day. I thin next Fri would work, but a week in advance always makes me wonder what will happen or what do I do withing that week until the date. Continue texting? We've only met each other once, how do I know she won't just lose interest in that time frame? I'd like to ask her out sooner, but with both of our class schedules, it would be tough.

 

Anyone with advice?

 

 

Thinking to text her soon.

[Marks]

I'm 21 and met up with a 19yr old frosh Wed for coffee on campus. I like her. Solid convos and I texted her that night say how it was nice meeting her and she was responsive. I'd like to ask her out possibly bowling. Was thinking texting her tomorrow and asking her out, but not sure what day. I thin next Fri would work, but a week in advance always makes me wonder what will happen or what do I do withing that week until the date. Continue texting? We've only met each other once, how do I know she won't just lose interest in that time frame? I'd like to ask her out sooner, but with both of our class schedules, it would be tough.

 

Setting up a date a week in advance seems pretty reasonable. In my view, setting up something sooner might come off as a little too eager. Especially since you've only met her once, I'd give her some space. As for contact in between, I'd keep it light...though honestly I'd only get in touch again as the next date approached just to confirm the details. Again, you don't want to come off as too eager...especially with 18/19yr old girls who tend to be very fickle.

 

Btw, people still say "frosh"? Seems like such an old-school term.

[Iguanna]

As a guy we are F*CKED no matter what. Ask 10 women and they will all give you a different opinion. If we wait too long, we arent confident enough, if we make a move too soon we are too eager just out for one thing.....its a total cluster f*ck no matter what we do, what we say, or anything.

 

And as far as confirming the details.....good luck with that. There have been many women on this very forum and women from other sources that have admitted they see it as a sign of low self confidence when they guy contacts her right before the date to "confirm it".

 

You cant F*cking win no matter what!!!!

 

I appreciate honesty. I don't think it's lack of confidence if a man confirms the date or if the man admits he is not really sure what to do to make me happy and ask for my help. In fact I prefer men who are able to show their insecurities and their human side than the ones who act like they are the one and nobody can beat them. For me it's sweet and sexy for a man to admit he is only human and he has insecurities like we all do, I feel closer to him this way and I feel he can understand my insecurities as well and he doesn't expect me to be the wonder woman.

 

In my opinion no man should follow some rules to be accepted and liked by a woman. Keep being yourself, you will definitely have some rejections, but one day a woman will actually appreciate you for who you are. Isn't it great to be accepted for who you are and not for what you pretend to be in the hopes of the women will prefer it?

[Iguanna]

Thats awesome that you are like that......but do you realize how very few women actually feel the same way as you?

 

Most women have a lot of insecurities that they hide.....and the last thing they want is to see insecurities in the man they choose.

 

They are more accepting of it once the relationship is established.....but during initial contact.....they have unrealistic expectations, expecting the man to do and say everything just right.

 

Its exactly why players have so much success......they use all of that to feed on the womans perception that he is something special and better than other guys.

 

A guy doesnt have to be anything special.....he just has to make her think he is.

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So why would you continue this bad rule and be something you don't like? Just to have any woman? Isn't it better to be patient and find the best woman who will accept you the way you are?

 

I just want to make something clear, when I say, be yourself and some woman will appreciate it one day, I don't mean of course having bad habits or being abusive etc. I can accept a man's insecurities but I don't accept him being abusive or alcoholic or doing drugs etc. I think this is self explanatory. I'm not saying I'll accept to be with an alcoholic just cause he had the honesty to tell me he's an alcoholic from the start. I think you get the difference.

[Iguanna]

they use all of that to feed on the womans perception that he is something special and better than other guys.

 

A guy doesnt have to be anything special.....he just has to make her think he is.

 

What bad rule are you talking about?

 

The fake thing that you seem to dislike. Men hiding their insecurities, pretending to be something else than what they are in order to satisfy a woman.

[Iguanna]

I dont do that....I'm simply stating what many other guys do.

 

The only thing I do is be myself.....thats exactly why I cant get a date. Because when a woman goes on dates with different guys.....she will most likely pick the guy that seems to be the most fun, the most exciting, and makes her feel like everything is great when shes with him. Shes not going to pick the guy that is a regular Joe.

 

But 9 times out of 10.....a few weeks, or months down the road.....she realizes that great guy she picked was fronting a facade, and isnt all that anymore.

 

I assure you with all my heart that there ARE women out there who have gone past the "bad guy syndrome" and they are ready to appreciate a good guy and keep him. What is your age, if I may ask? If you are around 30, I will tell you, hang in there. It will happen. You will find her. And then you will be happy that you never tried to be fake, cause pretending ALL the time is the most exhausting thing to do. I know I sound cliche, but that's my advise.

[hasaquestion]

This past week my matches have increased dramatically! Funny though, out of the 8 matches only 1 woman replied. She replied with only 3 words, and that was 2 days ago.

 

I really believe more and more people are just clicking "like" on every profile as I said earlier, and then if a match pops up they deal with it as they choose.

 

Why else would I keep getting match after match, and then no reply when I send a message? If they purposely clicked on my profile, they wouldn't ignore me when I contacted them.

 

That's what I do. Its easier.