drew232 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Signed up yesterday.... I am VERY surprised at how many attractive women are using this app, compared to the trash that is on the actual dating sites in my area. Maybe online dating is already starting to die off and people are progressing to the apps? The apps are a condensed version of online dating profiles. So I guess it feeds the "instant gratification" that society wants nowadays. I have had more women "like" my pics and show interest in me on this app in a 24hr period, than I have in the past month or so on a dating site. More proof that dating sites are mostly overloaded with losers, trash, and catfish. I can confirm..I had no idea how many good looking girls live around me..well maybe i knew but I had no idea how to find them. Maybe it has something to do with wealth. The women who have their sht together also have smartphones. I actually don't have a smartphone but I use an emulator...it's worked fine so far. I'm actually talking to a girl who went to my HS right now. I NEVER see anyone i know on OKC. Link to post Share on other sites
Mo_Do Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 How do you guys deal with the awkward situation where as you're chatting with someone you realize you just don't want to take it any further for any variety of reasons... (one of my relationship dealbreakers has come up, and yes I know it's Tinder, and really I am not taking it seriously but this is a no comprimise dealbreaker). I don't like to do the fade out, and since I am now chatting on BBM with this guy he will know when I have read his messages anyways... Thoughts on how to back out? Seeing somebody else, that's what I use to do Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 The key to using Tinder is to get off Tinder as soon as you can. Once you start a conversation with a girl you're interested in, take the conversation off Tinder and onto the phone. Women in particular feel less creepy chatting via text than on Tinder. It's also a good way to weed out lukewarm interest. I always make some mention of not really liking to chat on Tinder, and then give my number and tell them to shoot me a text. Any girl that doesn't want to meet you isn't going to text you. And if a girl does text you, that's essentially an implicit agreement to meet up. And do this quickly. Not after a few days of messaging, but almost right away. Establish some rapport, and then give the #. If I have a good feel about the girl and there's a nice vibe, I will give my number within 15-20 total messages. And again, once you're texting, just assume you will meet up. And do that quickly, too. Don't wait weeks unless you have to. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BradJacobs Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 The key to using Tinder is to get off Tinder as soon as you can. Once you start a conversation with a girl you're interested in, take the conversation off Tinder and onto the phone. Women in particular feel less creepy chatting via text than on Tinder. It's also a good way to weed out lukewarm interest. I always make some mention of not really liking to chat on Tinder, and then give my number and tell them to shoot me a text. Any girl that doesn't want to meet you isn't going to text you. And if a girl does text you, that's essentially an implicit agreement to meet up. And do this quickly. Not after a few days of messaging, but almost right away. Establish some rapport, and then give the #. If I have a good feel about the girl and there's a nice vibe, I will give my number within 15-20 total messages. And again, once you're texting, just assume you will meet up. And do that quickly, too. Don't wait weeks unless you have to. The other trick is to be on it late at night. I've had a ton of luck with things after 1am. Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 The other trick is to be on it late at night. I've had a ton of luck with things after 1am. Yep. The girls at the bar aren't seeing anything they want at the bar. Then it's Tinder time. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
BradJacobs Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 Is it only used for casual sex though? (I didn't read the whole thread) It can be whatever you wish it to be. I've dated women from Tinder and I've hooked up with women from Tinder. The great thing is that your settings (distance, age, etc.) are all private. They see your pics, they start conversations and then you take it from there. So you can hook up with young ones if you want (and I have) and you can date age appropriate ones if you choose to do so (which I also have). It is like the swiss army knife of anonymous online dating and it's free! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 Recently, I spoke to a 37 year old woman who just got engaged to a guy she met on Tinder 5 months ago. She said she has done all the dating sites and found nothing and this guy from Tinder and her just clicked I am yet to try Tinder.. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I tried tinder for two weeks and while I "liked" virtually every woman I cam across, I never got any matches. Haven't been back since. Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I tried tinder for two weeks and while I "liked" virtually every woman I cam across, I never got any matches. Haven't been back since. When will men realize women want to feel effing special? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
man_in_the_box Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 Oh yeah, the way to meet Prince Charming is by using Tinder. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 When will men realize women want to feel effing special? Do you even know what Tinder is or how it works? Or are you just trying to talk trash about me? Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 Do you even know what Tinder is or how it works? Or are you just trying to talk trash about me? I never said a word about you. I quoted you only to make a point about the attitude you and millions of other men have. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I never said a word about you. I quoted you only to make a point about the attitude you and millions of other men have. Sorry, I'm not buying that. When you quote somebody, you're specifically talking to or about them. Even then, do you know what Tinder is or how it works? It's not built upon making anybody feel special. Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 Sorry, I'm not buying that. When you quote somebody, you're specifically talking to or about them. Even then, do you know what Tinder is or how it works? It's not built upon making anybody feel special. I'm sorry, maybe I was a little hostile, but I see this mentality (I'm gonna hit on 100 girls, someone will eventually fall) so often and I find it so wrong that I just wanted to express my frustration. Definitely not against personally you though, that's for sure. And I know it was off topic with tinder conversation. Sorry again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I'm sorry, maybe I was a little hostile, but I see this mentality (I'm gonna hit on 100 girls, someone will eventually fall) so often and I find it so wrong that I just wanted to express my frustration. Definitely not against personally you though, that's for sure. And I know it was off topic with tinder conversation. Sorry again. When you "swipe" someone on Tinder they don't find out unless they swipe you back. So its not really hitting on anyone. I do agree with your premise (that having low standards is a turnoff to those with high standards) but its not germane to this conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 (edited) Recently, I spoke to a 37 year old woman who just got engaged to a guy she met on Tinder 5 months ago. She said she has done all the dating sites and found nothing and this guy from Tinder and her just clicked I am yet to try Tinder.. I dated a woman I met off it for two months, it fizzled out, but I wouldn't have met her otherwise. I had a first date Sunday with someone I met last week and seeing her again. And have another first date tonight with someone I connected with yesterday. I also started chatting with another girl yesterday who wants to meet next week. It takes more than just getting a match and it's NOT just about casual sex. I don't look like Ryan Gosling but I am a good looking, athletic guy in his early 40's meeting women between 30-40. It's really just about knowing how to pique their interest on the first message and carry on a fun and interesting text conversation to quickly move it in to wanting to meet this person. Edited April 2, 2014 by organizedchaos 2 Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I dated a woman I met off it for two months, it fizzled out, but I wouldn't have met her otherwise. I had a first date Sunday with someone I met last week and seeing her again. And have another first date tonight with someone I connected with yesterday. It's not just about making a match and it's NOT just about casual sex. But knowing how to pique their interest on the first message and carry on a fun and interesting text conversation to quickly move it in to wanting to meet this person. Yeah, I'm going on date #6 this Friday with someone I met on Tinder. She's great, great in le bed might I add, and I'm probably too attached already but F it. People on here are so obsessed with labels like "long term relationship" or "hookup" but reality is usually somewhere in between, and you have to try to find out. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
RogerWallace111 Posted April 3, 2014 Share Posted April 3, 2014 Lord knows I wouldnt want some chick who finally gave up on trying to reform bad guys. The girls who constantly chase those dudes are rarely quality, and usually drama. Thats why men see it as an insult when women try to tell has how these women will one day come around and settle on some nice guy. lol...no thanks, thats word Link to post Share on other sites
SoonMyFriend Posted April 3, 2014 Share Posted April 3, 2014 This past week I've been the "victim" of a lot of fade outs. One guy in particular I thought for sure we'd at least go on a date after we had a lot in common/live close by/etc. He's pretty cute so really I was just curious to see our chemistry in person. Anyways... Do you guys notice that Tinder has a higher "fade out" rate than maybe other OLD? Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 This past week I've been the "victim" of a lot of fade outs. One guy in particular I thought for sure we'd at least go on a date after we had a lot in common/live close by/etc. He's pretty cute so really I was just curious to see our chemistry in person. Anyways... Do you guys notice that Tinder has a higher "fade out" rate than maybe other OLD? Women seem a lot less flaky on Tinder, at least in my experience. Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 Recently, I spoke to a 37 year old woman who just got engaged to a guy she met on Tinder 5 months ago. She said she has done all the dating sites and found nothing and this guy from Tinder and her just clicked I am yet to try Tinder.. Tinder >>>>>>> all other OLD. And it's not even close. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 I'm sorry, maybe I was a little hostile, but I see this mentality (I'm gonna hit on 100 girls, someone will eventually fall) so often and I find it so wrong that I just wanted to express my frustration. Definitely not against personally you though, that's for sure. And I know it was off topic with tinder conversation. Sorry again. That's not how Tinder works. It is a numbers game though, as the more women you 'like', the greater the probability that some will 'like' you back. There's no way to make a girl feel special in the 'swiping' stage, because unless there's mutual interest, she wouldn't even have any way of knowing you saw her profile. I've said it before. It's much more natural than any other dating as a function of it's basal nature. 'There's a woman I'm attracted to. I'm going to go talk to her'. Other forms of OLD are far more like sending out job applications and then interviewing with potential employers. Link to post Share on other sites
SoonMyFriend Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 Anyone else notice weird things with the "last active" timestamp? I was chatting with a guy last night, and looked over his profile again and noticed the timestamp said "Last active 16 hours ago" but I was chatting with him right then & there! When does it calculate you were last active then? Another thing not to trust on Tinder LOL Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 Anyone else notice weird things with the "last active" timestamp? I was chatting with a guy last night, and looked over his profile again and noticed the timestamp said "Last active 16 hours ago" but I was chatting with him right then & there! When does it calculate you were last active then? Another thing not to trust on Tinder LOL Chatting on it doesn't count as activity. Only swiping through profiles. The last time he was swiping people was 16 hours before. Link to post Share on other sites
SoonMyFriend Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 Chatting on it doesn't count as activity. Only swiping through profiles. The last time he was swiping people was 16 hours before. Thanks!! I always assumed it was like most other online dating apps and counted "activity" as anytime you had the app open. Link to post Share on other sites
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