sillyanswer Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 I've been using it for a few months. Kind of addicted. Only a few dates out of it. Most matches don't respond or only respond once or twice. Anyone else use it? What's been your experience. The idea of matches being qualified (because they liked you too) is great in theory but spoiled in practice because some people swipe right to everything just to see how many matches they get for whatever reason. As for only responding once or twice, I think it can be hard to get a conversation going and maintain it with a stranger where all you know is what they look like (most people don't seem to bother putting anything meaningful into the profile except perhaps their height). The solution seems to be to ask if they'd like to meet really early on. As for whether it's just for hookups - I think that criticism is overdone now. I see lots of profiles (of women, 30s and 40s) expressly saying they want a relationship or expressly saying they don't want a hookup or ONS. Not sure how the teenage/20s crowd use it. Most frustrating thing: getting a match within 10 miles, only to discover the next day that they are 600 miles away. Some of these are fake profiles, and some of them are just people passing through the international airport that's within my search radius. Link to post Share on other sites
MadJackBird Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 I met my girlfriend on Tinder. I see it as another way to meet new people. Since my divorce I've met people on OKCupid, POF, Being introduced through friends. Most of the meets didn't result in long term relationships. I see them all as a similar method to meet new people. Also,I don't necessarily agree that meeting in person is the best approach for everyone. Sometimes you can be shy and reserved to make that first contact. With online dating you can get over that because it's just typing. Of all the new people I met the one that became the most serious started on Tinder. So not all experiences are the same, but to me it was just a way to meet new people local to me. From their things naturally progressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 What I was referring to is that if you simply cold approach someone, which apparently only 5% of men do, you're less likely to have a lasting relationship with that person than if it was someone from your work, school, church, support group, friends, etc. Not really. Link to post Share on other sites
true-love Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 i really like it Link to post Share on other sites
djcos25 Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 I've had absolutely no luck on Tinder but I keep using it because I find it addicting. One of my best friends - found his current girlfriend on Tinder. He's no sleazeball either, he's a genuine guy. His girlfriend is really nice and down to earth, I love hanging out with all of them. She comes with no drama/baggage. Feels like I've known her for years. One of my other best friends - he's had some moderate luck on there. He's been laid a few times, fooled around with a few girls. Happy for him, and the fact I didn't have to hear him complain anymore lol. Then there's me - no luck. Zero. It's just frustrating to see your friends have luck and get nothing yourself. I'm not a bad looking dude. I've had Tinder for months and the only luck I've had is I met up with 1 person, which ended with a hug and a no text back after. Very frustrating. Then there's the usual girls who flake, match you but don't respond, or I do get numbers and then they don't respond when it gets near the day to meet up. I even photoshopped a picture of me so at the top it says "Match of the day" with the Tinder flames on each side lol. It's weird, I've had luck on okcupid whereas my friends haven't, and for Tinder its reversed. Oh well. I'll keep at it though. Link to post Share on other sites
GTO06 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Hey guys, I just got a smart phone for the first time and was wondering if anyone has had luck on the app called Tinder? I don't have a Facebook and it requires one, but I really don't want to create a Facebook account for it if it isn't any good. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
shaun87 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 (edited) Might depend on your age and on your area. In my area most people are 18-24, I've met a few people who were cool to talk to but a lot of flakey people as well. In general, people probably aren't as serious as they would be on traditional dating sites, but there are definitely some serious girls on there, just takes some searching. I've found it can be pretty easy to meet a few people off of there for the most part. EDIT: I'm not sure what you know about Tinder but I should also say that it's obviously very superficial too though. It's basically "hot or not" but with messaging too. So not much matters besides your pictures so they have to be decent. It doesn't take very long to make a plain facebook account with a couple of pictures if you wanted to tr. I'm thinking there are a lot of different kinds of experiences on there. Edited October 10, 2014 by shaun87 Link to post Share on other sites
ZimboGon Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Yeah you're basically rating people on attractiveness scale. Its very easy to quickly swipe no and move on to the next guy/girl. Link to post Share on other sites
GTO06 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Oh, so there's no profile info on Tinder, just pictures? Is there any info on like whether they have kids or smoke and such? Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 If your looking for a relationship than it absolutely sucks. If your purely just looking for a fling/sex than it's probably your best option in terms of OLD. Link to post Share on other sites
GTO06 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Ok, but are there profile details for people or just pics only? Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Ok, but are there profile details for people or just pics only? Some people have little comments they post on their profiles, but nothing much. A lot of them just put their instagrams on their profile just to get more subscribers. Link to post Share on other sites
GTO06 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Hmm, ok thanks; it doesn't sound like my kind of thing. I have to know certain things about a girl before I even consider meeting up with them. Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Hmm, ok thanks; it doesn't sound like my kind of thing. I have to know certain things about a girl before I even consider meeting up with them. Well, the thing is you have to match with one another first before you could chat. You can't message the girls who don't match with you. Link to post Share on other sites
GTO06 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Ok, how would it know if you match someone if there are no required profile data other than pics? Link to post Share on other sites
yellow_sun Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Ok, how would it know if you match someone if there are no required profile data other than pics? If you swipe right (think she's attractive) and she swipes right (thinks you're attractive), you're a match. That's it. I've met a few relatively decent guys on Tinder, but I'm not looking for anything serious. I'd also like to add that the one and only nightmare date I've been on was with someone from Tinder. Not that that can't happen with other OLD or even real life dating. I thought you were trying to be more open-minded when it comes to differences in lifestyle? I used to think I couldn't go out with a smoker, but I've been on dates with a few and it really wasn't any different that with nonsmokers. And I could only taste/smell it on the breath of one of them Link to post Share on other sites
GTO06 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Wow, that sounds a little too basic IMHO. I am open to meeting all types of people, but I do have a couple of basic requirements that have to be met. Thanks for the info! Link to post Share on other sites
love1336x Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I had one date from there. The man was sweet, but ehh. Tinder is realist to me. It really goes base on your picture and let's race it who ever reads the profile?¡!! We all look at the picture and judge and decide if we want to talk to this person. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Wow, that sounds a little too basic IMHO. I am open to meeting all types of people, but I do have a couple of basic requirements that have to be met. Thanks for the info! You set the age range, gender, and distance from you. It then shows you people who fit that. Like said above you can fill out anything you want to say but not required. Include a few pics. It will tell you if you both have any Facebook friends in common. If you met her requirements, and you both swiped right on each other, you can chat. I had many dates and met my current girlfriend off of it. I'm 43 and she's 35. Your mileage may vary. Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Tinder pisses me off, its such a good idea because it requires female input rather than passively harvesting messages. They have to declare they are interested in the man. Problem I have found is that its been ruined by people using it for a laugh. I must admit I'm pretty picky, so I only swipe right to a very small percentage of women. But of the 10 or so girls I have matched with I have had a sum total of 0 replies to the messages I have sent. I have tried every sort of opener imaginable, from the banal to a hard neg. I playfully asked one girl if she was up for some awkward conversation and not only did she not reply- she blocked me. If she has such a problem with being messaged by random guys who she declares an interest in then maybe she shouldn't have a Tinder account in the first place? From my point of view, I can't believe guys even manage to hook up on it. It's like dating with the difficulty set to 'Nightmare' mode. Link to post Share on other sites
Kid_Charlemange Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 If she has such a problem with being messaged by random guys who she declares an interest in then maybe she shouldn't have a Tinder account in the first place? Yeah... it can be very strange. I've been on it since the spring. Really it's more for a laugh when I'm out with one of my married buddies; they love to live vicariously through their single male friends. "Ohh! Swipe right for her!" First conversation I got into seemed to have potential. We texted back and forth quite a bit, and had agreed to meet. I headed to the bar she suggested, said the GPS estimates I'm 10 minutes away. Then I got the text. "You didn't think right now, did you?" After a few more conversations, I found out that she's a hard-core Christian looking to "save" men using such a wicked tool of the Devil as Tinder. Yikes. I did meet one other woman, but we'd also been matched on OKC. Lots of fun, wickedly smart, she's very up front about being casual about sex... just not with me No hard feelings. Then I met a woman who was in town visiting her grown daughter. I was literally driving through the bar district where she was. Long story short, she had just loaded the app -- at her daughter's suggestion -- and we hit it off. Had some drinks, I dropped her off at her daughter's condo, but we kept in touch. Last weekend she got comped at a suite in Vegas (that's where she lives) and after a few back-and-forths, we both said, to hell with it, and I cashed in some SWA points and flew out there. We had a great time. She's a wonderful lady, we're both widowers, both worked hard all our lives and have never done anything like this before. And since neither of us really have any expectations, we just enjoyed ourselves for the weekend. That is an exceptional story, I realize But Tinder is, from what I can tell, enormously popular as a hookup app for 20-somethings. People my age, well a lot of them thing it's just another dating site, or are playing games (as you describe above). I found a rare gem of a woman who I was very compatible with, and who was looking for the same thing as me. A little excitement and danger for the first time in a long time. So I have to give props to Tinder 1 Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Hahaha you make it sound so easy! I take my hat off to you though, sounds like you have got quite a return so far for your time investment. I just wish there was a catch all magic bullet opening line I can use to give myself the best chance of a response- I don't really know what works as all the advice I've read hasn't worked for me. Tinder also has a far better selection of women in terms of numbers and who I am interested in compared to traditional OLD so I would love to make it work for me...but it doesn't look likely that it will. Link to post Share on other sites
Kid_Charlemange Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I just wish there was a catch all magic bullet opening line I can use to give myself the best chance of a response- I don't really know what works as all the advice I've read hasn't worked for me. I wouldn't worry about it too much. of course, I'm the last person anyone should take dating advice from, but... I'd suspect that the same kind of tactics that work in other OLD setups work best here: Make it personal and interesting. "What up" doesn't make you stand out from the crowd, but "Nice cowboy hat, did you lose a bet with your friends? :)" can show that you've actually looked at the photo. And FFS, read the text, if she has any, and comment on that. This alone will set you apart from 90% of the guys who message her. At least, that's my theory. Good luck! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I wouldn't worry about it too much. of course, I'm the last person anyone should take dating advice from, but... I'd suspect that the same kind of tactics that work in other OLD setups work best here: Make it personal and interesting. "What up" doesn't make you stand out from the crowd, but "Nice cowboy hat, did you lose a bet with your friends? :)" can show that you've actually looked at the photo. And FFS, read the text, if she has any, and comment on that. This alone will set you apart from 90% of the guys who message her. Yes. Plus it is a numbers game. You can't swipe on 10 girls and get discouraged that none of them like you. Swipe anyone you could be remotely interested in, and find girls to chat with. Even if you start chatting with one and it goes nowhere, it counts as practice. Not that I know anything about Tinder! It didn't exist back in the day when I was dating. Link to post Share on other sites
greenman77 Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I'm really curious to hear about all your experiences on Tinder and please state your age and gender so I can have an idea. I've been using it a few days and its been awful so far.. I get a few matches every day but they are all girls with automatic messages saying stuff like "Hey there cutie. If you would like to experience the full girlfriend experience its $60 1/2 hour and $100 the full hour. Visit me at tinderhookups.com/profilename" It's insane! All my matches so far have been like this. I am a 22 y/o male. Are 99% of the profiles like this? How has it been for you? Link to post Share on other sites
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