DArtagnan2 Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 I have a Tinder account but don't use it for much more than entertainment. It's rare that I will talk to a woman on Tinder, and if I do, it's because she messaged me first. Well, a really cute woman with a sweet body messaged me about a week and a half ago. We exchanged #s right away, and had been texting a lot since then. We're both busy and both have kids, so although we live in the same neighborhood, it has been a lot of back and forth trying to get a meet-up scheduled. I'm not out cruising for some big relationship, so I don't usually sweat that. Anyway, we established a good rapport, as we're both from the same part of the same state. Lot of good text banter, lot of interest, etc. Yeaterday, I was working out with a good buddy. I had introduced him to Tinder a few months back, so we're always exchanging Tinder stories. We were at the gym, and he was telling me he met a girl last week on Tinder, met up with her at some street fest thing, and ended up going back to her place and hooking up. Then he asked me if I had any action going. I start describing this girl, and telling him I was supposed to meet up with her this weekend. He asks me her name, I tell him, and he says 'That's the name of the girl I just hooked up with!'. Well, we're in a city of almost 10,000,000, so what are the odds it could be the same girl? Turns out, pretty good. Yep. Same chick. Now, here's what's hilarious. In all of the conversations I've had with this woman, she always painted herself as a goodie-goodie. Helped out at the church, wasn't somebody who dated much after her divorce, sweet, innocent, etc. OK, except you met my buddy who is a sh*tbag and banged him 3 hours later, hahaha! Holy crap. So hilarious. My buddy was like, 'Oh dude, you'll get her in bed for sure'. Mmmmm....no I won't. Because you just hit it and regardless of how cute and sexy she is, you just totally killed it for me. Can't do it. My buddy said he left his hat at her house. When she gets ahold of me to set up a time to get together, I'm thinking about saying 'Cool. And John told me he left his hat at your place, so can you bring that with you?'. Oh my God, that would be hilarious. Effing Tinder....wow. I think you should say that for sure. That would be hysterical. As for her saying what a goodie-goodie she has been since her divorce, I don't know how many times I have heard that and then on the first meet, they are quick to jump in to bed and get upset when I take them home instead. Link to post Share on other sites
DArtagnan2 Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 Tinder did nothing. Tinder is an app. A woman did all of that. I am sure he wasn't being so literal that the application itself is to blame. Link to post Share on other sites
Marks Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 I have a Tinder account but don't use it for much more than entertainment. It's rare that I will talk to a woman on Tinder, and if I do, it's because she messaged me first. Well, a really cute woman with a sweet body messaged me about a week and a half ago. We exchanged #s right away, and had been texting a lot since then. We're both busy and both have kids, so although we live in the same neighborhood, it has been a lot of back and forth trying to get a meet-up scheduled. I'm not out cruising for some big relationship, so I don't usually sweat that. Anyway, we established a good rapport, as we're both from the same part of the same state. Lot of good text banter, lot of interest, etc. Yeaterday, I was working out with a good buddy. I had introduced him to Tinder a few months back, so we're always exchanging Tinder stories. We were at the gym, and he was telling me he met a girl last week on Tinder, met up with her at some street fest thing, and ended up going back to her place and hooking up. Then he asked me if I had any action going. I start describing this girl, and telling him I was supposed to meet up with her this weekend. He asks me her name, I tell him, and he says 'That's the name of the girl I just hooked up with!'. Well, we're in a city of almost 10,000,000, so what are the odds it could be the same girl? Turns out, pretty good. Yep. Same chick. Now, here's what's hilarious. In all of the conversations I've had with this woman, she always painted herself as a goodie-goodie. Helped out at the church, wasn't somebody who dated much after her divorce, sweet, innocent, etc. OK, except you met my buddy who is a sh*tbag and banged him 3 hours later, hahaha! Holy crap. So hilarious. My buddy was like, 'Oh dude, you'll get her in bed for sure'. Mmmmm....no I won't. Because you just hit it and regardless of how cute and sexy she is, you just totally killed it for me. Can't do it. My buddy said he left his hat at her house. When she gets ahold of me to set up a time to get together, I'm thinking about saying 'Cool. And John told me he left his hat at your place, so can you bring that with you?'. Oh my God, that would be hilarious. Effing Tinder....wow. WOW. Comes to show that you can't always believe the facade that people make of themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 WOW. Comes to show that you can't always believe the facade that people make of themselves. And I just looked and it looks like she took her account down. Hmmmm....weird chick. Link to post Share on other sites
soyou Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 I'm single and yeahh I do have my physical needs once in a while. I'm not 18 anymore so I cant go clubbing or hanging in the bars every single weekend to get laid. Tinder has come to my life till today exactly one week. After my 1st day at Tinder I got hooked up with a handsome Scottish man. On my 2nd, I was hooked up with a handsome Israeli man and just yesterday I got a gentleman from the UK... In general, Tinder is working well for my casual dating ;-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 Follow up to the story I posted above: Well, after my friend told me that, I sorta lost interest. She didn't return my text about meeting up, then took her Tinder account down. I wrote it off as 'case closed'. A few days later, she texted me saying she got freaked out, because my friend was texting her sort of interrogating her about going out with me. I didn't respond for a few days, because really, I'm not trying to get my buddy's sloppy seconds. Finally though, to be a decent guy, I responded and we chatted a little. Then I figured, 'well, I might as well meet up with her', and I can fall back on not wanting to date her b/c she banged my friend. So, we met yesterday for coffee during the day. Crap. Mistake. She is TOTALLY hot, cute, amazing body, intelligent, successful, funny. Like, I was shocked. So now, the attraction is coming back big time. And we had great chemistry, and when I finally had to take off to go back to work, I gave her a hug and then we did the face-to-face while hugging, which is usually a prelude to a kiss. I think she was waiting for me to kiss her. But I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Here's the problem. She inferred that nothing happened between them. Now I don't know what to believe, because my friend is kind of a sh*tbag. And her recanting of their text conversation about me was that he was being really accusatory and passive/aggressive and jealous. So, I wonder if my buddy was just trying to be cool and saying that he hooked up with her, or I wonder if she's trying to save face and deny anything happened. There is NO way I'm going to get involved with this girl if she banged my sleaze-ball buddy. Link to post Share on other sites
jbelle6 Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 I had a friend tell me his friend has slept with 3 girls off there. You just use it late at night around all the bars (chicago) and they will meet you out at the bars and it eventually ends in sex. LOL, gross. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 haha just downloaded this app. FUN Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 HAHA that moment when you see someone you know on TINDER ... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nofeelings22 Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 My wrist hurts from all the "left swipes" on there. Might be the area I'm in, but there are zero attractive girls on Tinder. Link to post Share on other sites
djcos25 Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 I've had zero luck with tinder. The matches I do get, I'll message them and they won't respond. I've had tinder for months, and 2 weeks ago I met my first person from it. We grabbed dinner, I paid, was a gentleman. What do I show for it? A hug and a no text back after. I've had more luck with okcupid. Link to post Share on other sites
SoonMyFriend Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 I just have a Tinder story. So last week I developed a skin infection/blister on my wrist. At the peak of it's grossness I decided it would be hilarious to start a fake Tinder account of just blister photos. I figured it would be a hilarious way to either meet guys or become an internet meme. Well... within MINUTES of setting up the profile I was instantly matching with EVERY guy. And most of them sent messages. Some guys were just like "WTF IS WRONG WITH YOUR ARM" others actually sent pretty sexual things. One guy flat out asked me if I was into butt stuff right off the hop. One guy just opened with "can we bang please." I had over 240 matches as a blister, and this was less than 24 hours after setting up the profile and maybe spending 20 minutes swiping with every profile. Then when I went to log on the next night I discovered I could no longer login. Tinder shut down my profile. This kind of pissed me off since I am aware of other parody Tinder accounts NOT TO MENTION I HAVE SEEN PENIS ON TINDER. But a blister on a wrist is too much...| *sigh* 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 (edited) OMG I love Tinder! MAJOR ego booster. So far, I've matched up with nearly every guy I "like." Whenever it goes, "IT'S A MATCH!" I basically act ridiculously full of myself and get all excited. haha I've also had quite a few of them message me. Nice! Lol I know it's so dumb, but I kinda feel like a baller. BTW, these guys are total HOTTIES! I mean, good grief. I know I'm attractive, but I must say I've lost sight of my own 'hotness' since my BU and this really made me feel a lot more confident. Edited June 2, 2014 by me85 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 I did block one guy though. He was way too cocky. He was quickly trying to make a beeline straight to my panties and just doing it with absolutely no class what-so-ever. We all know that's the name of the game but dang! Have some tact. Please. He wasn't even a hottie. He was just a cutie! I "liked" him because his profile 'about me' seemed sweet and he looked all innocent in his pictures...boy was that decieving! I have other, actual HOT guys messaging me & being very DTE, cool & respectful. Gota be tasteful. Even if I am just looking for FWB. I'm still no sleezy slut bag. But obviously some folks are. Keep it classy San Diego. Link to post Share on other sites
DArtagnan2 Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 between responses on LS about Tinder and the like and finally trying online dating, I am finding myself being turned off towards trying in general. Knowing what is said or done behind the scenes and the judgemental'ness (I know its not a word), its definitely a turn off for me. I am finding myself going more and more towards not dating at all unless I meet someone by chance on the street. Its all rather unattractive and off putting to know. But at least, I got what I was looking for; more education and facts on dating in 2014. Link to post Share on other sites
DArtagnan2 Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 I just have a Tinder story. So last week I developed a skin infection/blister on my wrist. At the peak of it's grossness I decided it would be hilarious to start a fake Tinder account of just blister photos. I figured it would be a hilarious way to either meet guys or become an internet meme. Well... within MINUTES of setting up the profile I was instantly matching with EVERY guy. And most of them sent messages. Some guys were just like "WTF IS WRONG WITH YOUR ARM" others actually sent pretty sexual things. One guy flat out asked me if I was into butt stuff right off the hop. One guy just opened with "can we bang please." I had over 240 matches as a blister, and this was less than 24 hours after setting up the profile and maybe spending 20 minutes swiping with every profile. Then when I went to log on the next night I discovered I could no longer login. Tinder shut down my profile. This kind of pissed me off since I am aware of other parody Tinder accounts NOT TO MENTION I HAVE SEEN PENIS ON TINDER. But a blister on a wrist is too much...| *sigh* Yeh it appears as long as you are uploading soft porn pics, its all good. I actually don't know what to say ... smdh Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 OMG I love Tinder! MAJOR ego booster. So far, I've matched up with nearly every guy I "like." Whenever it goes, "IT'S A MATCH!" I basically act ridiculously full of myself and get all excited. haha I've also had quite a few of them message me. Nice! Lol I know it's so dumb, but I kinda feel like a baller. BTW, these guys are total HOTTIES! I mean, good grief. I know I'm attractive, but I must say I've lost sight of my own 'hotness' since my BU and this really made me feel a lot more confident. Not to rain on your parade, but most guys "like" almost anyone. Guys use it to just chat too. If they ask you out, then you've reached baller status. Must be nice to be able to just sit back and get messages Half the time I'll match with a girl, but she'll be so god damn boring, I can't even feign interest enough to send a first message. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 To anyone who has used this to hook up: So I swapped numbers a 19 yr old chick on Tinder who's home for the summer (I'm 24). She's quite boring, but I guess this is a hook-up app, so yeah. I have no idea how to approach this. Do you have a meet up in the day or just skip to the "let's watch a movie?" Awkward: because of the age, bars can't happen. Link to post Share on other sites
orangetree Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 Got Tinder on my phone yesterday and I have to say I LOVE it! Well, I haven't met anyone yet in person and I'm not sure if I ever will, but so far I find it great. First of all, I see much more attractive guys on Tinder than I ever saw on other dating websites (let's say on Tinder I find 1 out of 20 attractive, on other online dating websites just 1 out of 100). It saves a lot of time and you can instantly start chatting. Also, for me it is great for this reason: I'm not the clubbing type, so I usually don't meet guys in bars or clubs. And if I do, most of the times they're not my type (on Tinder guys who aren't my type cannot talk to me). I do a lot of sports but I haven't met anyone yet who I'd like to date. Still, not sure if in the future I would have the balls to meet someone in person.. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 I did that a while back. It's purpose was to introduce the strait people's version of Grinder. Does it work? Honestly, no. Grinder's success aside, Tinder really didn't do much for me. I hear stories about people who use it for random sexual encounters. If that's what you're into, go for it. Personally it's just a bunch of nonsense. I met one guy who was divorced with four little kids all under age 10 on it (which he did not tell me about until after our second encounter). I told him there was someone else after he told me that. It was the truth, it wasn't an excuse, I really did want to be with someone else other than him and I was with someone else. Otherwise it was/is just a bunch of chatter that doesn't go anywhere. Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 HAHA that moment when you see someone you know on TINDER ... Yeah, puts me in a dilemma of sorts. Out of politeness I should swipe right, no? Not that I'd really hook up with my cute funny ex-coworker, but what if she swipes me right and never gets a match? We hang out from time to time... Link to post Share on other sites
SoonMyFriend Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Yeah, puts me in a dilemma of sorts. Out of politeness I should swipe right, no? Not that I'd really hook up with my cute funny ex-coworker, but what if she swipes me right and never gets a match? We hang out from time to time... Swiping right doesn't mean you want to hook up necessarily. Some people swipe right on EVERYONE just to see who they match with. You could always send a quick message saying something like "Haha funny to see you here!" and keep the banter VERY friendly. Also cut it short and after a few messages say "Well good luck on this place! Talk soon" then end it so she doesn't get the wrong idea. I would swipe right on anyone I knew. I found it hilarious, and often laughed about it with my guy friends. If you never swipe right, and if she ever asks you about it, just say you never saw her profile. Link to post Share on other sites
Lipitor11 Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Or is it similar to the same old dating sites? Link to post Share on other sites
oberkeat Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 For me, the problem with Tinder is that it requires you to have a facebook account. I'm not into facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Or is it similar to the same old dating sites? Yes. It's worked extremely well for me and not for just a hookup either. There's a large thread about it on here that will give you a lot more input. Link to post Share on other sites
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