truth_seeker Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 If you have good pics, it will work for you. Just keep in mind there are a lot of trashbags on there. They're just out to mess with people for attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 For dates? Yes. For relationships? Hell ****ing no. Link to post Share on other sites
bene Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I laugh at the women who try to convince you that they're on Tinder NOT for a hook up. Women just need people to believe they're not whores when they're whores. Well, I'm on Tinder and I'm not a whore. In fact, I have never hooked up with anyone in my life. I've had dates from Tinder though. It's really in the eye of the beholder how you look at it. If you are looking for whores you will probably see them everywhere but this kind of general statements about "men" or "women" are ridiculous. Link to post Share on other sites
Kid_Charlemange Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Or is it similar to the same old dating sites? I would say that on the continuum of dating sites/apps, on the one end is eHarmony, which is for people asking "Where do I find my next spouse?" On the other end is Tinder, which is for people asking "Where do I find my next hookup?" In between are all the others. Which isn't to say that people don't try eHarmony for hookups, or Tinder to find an LTR. The first woman I ever chatted with on Tinder turned out to be a hard-core Christian who was, most definitely, using the wrong app.. I've only met one woman that I met on Tinder, because we also got matched on OKC. Had two nice dates, but she's not really my type and I doubt I was hers. My good-looking friends love it. Literally scoring every weekend, with very little effort as compared with approaching women in bars; IRL, you don't know what she's looking for until you spend some time and effort. With Tinder, you have a pretty good idea that she's looking to meet you. A lot of the preliminaries are out of the way. But it doesn't work for average or below average guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 I've been using it for a few months. Kind of addicted. Only a few dates out of it. Most matches don't respond or only respond once or twice. Anyone else use it? What's been your experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Space_dandy Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 The only rule for tinder is that there is no rules! No one really takes it very seriously and some don't have any intention of meeting people. It's more like drunk amusement. But I've had 4 or so dates from it and most of the girls were only interested in hooking up and Im not really into quick/random hookups. Granted I have a shirtless pic so could be sending the wrong message lol. For sure a crapshoot but I actually met someone I like on it recently. Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 A lot of women are into casual sex these days. While its great for men.. it also sucks in a way. I can sleep with much better looking girls than I can date and its annoying. Link to post Share on other sites
SugarLips72 Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 A lot of matches, very few men initiate contact. Mostly hookups esp for out of state business travelers since its easy to change locations and it looks for people local. A lot of hookups. A lot of people just use it for shameless self promotion and to network and plug their business. Any super hot woman on there is likely a hooker. Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 A lot of matches, very few men initiate contact. Mostly hookups esp for out of state business travelers since its easy to change locations and it looks for people local. A lot of hookups. A lot of people just use it for shameless self promotion and to network and plug their business. Any super hot woman on there is likely a hooker. True. Lots of prostitutes. Link to post Share on other sites
Supernatural Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 Tinder sucks. Conversations are terrible - if they even respond - which makes no sense because they swiped right on you. I found it more frustrating than anything. I think people just use it to inflate their ego. "Look at all these people who think I'm attractive". It's an instant gratification app. And it's rare you will find anyone worthwhile on there. If you want to separate yourself from 95% of men... Approach in person sober and not in a bar/club. Anyone can swipe right or make a dating profile. Few can approach in public with their head held high, chest out and shoulders back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 Tinder sucks. Conversations are terrible - if they even respond - which makes no sense because they swiped right on you. I found it more frustrating than anything. I think people just use it to inflate their ego. "Look at all these people who think I'm attractive". It's an instant gratification app. And it's rare you will find anyone worthwhile on there. If you want to separate yourself from 95% of men... Approach in person sober and not in a bar/club. Anyone can swipe right or make a dating profile. Few can approach in public with their head held high, chest out and shoulders back. I was a PUA for several years. I know all about approaching in person sober during the day. I also know how to talk to women. However, I stopped doing the PUA thing because it was fake and based on BS. Sure it works.. but its still BS. I've grown tired of all the games and gimmicks. I just want to be real for a change and be rewarded for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Destined2B Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 In my experience, women who are attractive have plenty of options for casual sex without needing to resort to an app to meet a stranger. If you want to separate yourself from 95% of men... Approach in person sober and not in a bar/club. Anyone can swipe right or make a dating profile. Few can approach in public with their head held high, chest out and shoulders back. I've heard of many dates starting up that way. Relationships? Not so much. If there's no common social network to tie two people together, a meaningful relationship is unlikely to happen between two complete strangers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_K Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 I've heard of many dates starting up that way. Relationships? Not so much. If there's no common social network to tie two people together, a meaningful relationship is unlikely to happen between two complete strangers. Really? Someone better tell that to match.com, they've been helping it happen for years! Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 Tinder - The Eff App. Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 to me its a waste of time. all my right swipe were "apparently" matches but I have never met anyone and all conversations I had were either lame or/and too short - I have decided to cancel the app. Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 In my experience, women who are attractive have plenty of options for casual sex without needing to resort to an app to meet a stranger. I've heard of many dates starting up that way. Relationships? Not so much. If there's no common social network to tie two people together, a meaningful relationship is unlikely to happen between two complete strangers. You don't need a common social network to like someone. That logic if false. Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 to me its a waste of time. all my right swipe were "apparently" matches but I have never met anyone and all conversations I had were either lame or/and too short - I have decided to cancel the app. From my experience all the conversations are lame. The women expect you to do all the work while they sit in judgement. With the dates I got from it, the women acted totally different in person compared to on the app. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 Tinder reminds me of the Underwear Gnome business plan from South Park: 1. Go on Tinder 2. ????? 3. Score Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 Oh, so that is what "Tinder" is? I've heard a while back about a "hook-up" app, is Tinder the app? Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 Tinder is the bottom of the barrel for online dating. It's mainly for casual hook ups, ego boosts, conversation if you're bored, or the addiction to the swiping. Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 Tinder is the bottom of the barrel for online dating. It's mainly for casual hook ups, ego boosts, conversation if you're bored, or the addiction to the swiping. I would say all online dating is equally pathetic. But at least Tinder is the most honest. People are shallow and all online dating sites are just Tinder with fluff. Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 I would say all online dating is equally pathetic. But at least Tinder is the most honest. People are shallow and all online dating sites are just Tinder with fluff. I know some people who have gotten married all because of online dating. I wouldn't say all sites are equally pathetic at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 I know some people who have gotten married all because of online dating. I wouldn't say all sites are equally pathetic at all. I'm sure some people have gotten married after going to a strip club. What's your point? And many marriages are shallow too. Link to post Share on other sites
Destined2B Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 You don't need a common social network to like someone. That logic if false. What I was referring to is that if you simply cold approach someone, which apparently only 5% of men do, you're less likely to have a lasting relationship with that person than if it was someone from your work, school, church, support group, friends, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
NJBoss Posted September 12, 2014 Share Posted September 12, 2014 I found Tinder a waste. The responses you get never respond or aren't in it for dating. I'm not a guy that's into casual hook ups so I didn't dig it. Not sure what online site is the best, would like to get more thoughts on it. But common sense would tell me a paying site would be best because people are invested into finding a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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