salparadise Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 It's verification of the 95/5 praxis. Ninety-five percent of the women fawning over the same tiny handful of men. The OK Trends blog fleshed out the statistic that women judged eighty percent of men to be of below average attractiveness. It's a wonder that anyone ever gets laid... other than that handful of top fiver's of course. So the rest of us are looking for a needle in a haystack- one of the five percent of women who don't subscribe that paradigm. Link to post Share on other sites
impatiently_patient Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 (edited) It's verification of the 95/5 praxis. Ninety-five percent of the women fawning over the same tiny handful of men. The OK Trends blog fleshed out the statistic that women judged eighty percent of men to be of below average attractiveness. It's a wonder that anyone ever gets laid... other than that handful of top fiver's of course. So the rest of us are looking for a needle in a haystack- one of the five percent of women who don't subscribe that paradigm. I'm aware of that result. It's bizarrely true... but at the same time, their ascertation of what was feasible was only marginally above what they where they were rated at (based on messaging behavior). American women, as a collective demographic, appear to be a bunch of picky defeatists for lack of a better term. Additionally, I wouldn't say any of my successful cohorts were anything but decent looking, and rather run-of-the-mill, to boot. Nothing standout until you'd get to know their respective personalities (and even then, one guy, Dave, is the only one I would really say was interesting in that respect). Edited June 15, 2015 by impatiently_patient Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Tinder the a lottery share a lot in common! Give it a few weeks and see what comes of it. Link to post Share on other sites
impatiently_patient Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Tinder the a lottery share a lot in common! Give it a few weeks and see what comes of it. Insightful. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 On Tinder all women are doing is making a snap judgement of a photograph, and photographs are at best a subjective facsimile, not objective reality in any sense. So a guy should be able to optimize by choosing the photos that are most appealing and conversely, to use Tinder as tool to measure the effectiveness of various photographs. So, if he's motivated to take it a step further and create new photographs designed to maximize response rates, it's probable that he could dramatically increase results simply by showing women sets of pixels that are strategically arranged to mak'em wet. Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 put only few good pictures.. 2 or 3 are enough. however even matching someone doesnt guarantee you that you are gonna chat with them. sometime its a huge waste of time. if you are looking for a relationship i would suggest you to try other websites. for a lot of people Tinder is just a passing time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Justanaverageguy Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 My tip is this. What you classify as "good pics" and what are girl classifies as a good pic are more often then not too different things. As you said you are matching 75% of the girls on there - it stands to reason that good looking girls and even average looking girls get a ton of matches to choose from. A "good head shot" is not what you are looking for. What you want is something that makes you stand out. A picture that actually makes a girl stop from the endless left swipping and go NO, NO, NO .... OH ? Stop trying to be a card board cutout like everyone else. Instead put something funny, interesting and even absurd. Make it uniquely you. Oh and failing that get yourself a picture with a really cute dog. Seriously when I experimented with Tinder and added a really funny picture with my dog . It increased my matches by 75%. Ultimate wingman Link to post Share on other sites
RedButton Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Tinder is a weird beast. I started it up and got a couple of matches in my first 24 hours, and a steady rate since then until it just suddenly fell of a cliff and for days on end I got absolutely nothing. I actually sent a help ticket because I thought something must be wrong with my account I went for so long getting no matches haha! Then a couple of days later I was just bored and browsing and suddenly got a torrent again. I only ever actually met two women from tinder IRL but both were really nice girls. I only stopped using Tinder because I got into a relationship with the second one I met. I was glad to see not everyone on there is looking for cheap hookups, but bear in mind that the match rate is really random. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 such a huge waste of time, and further poisons the dating world of 2015. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 It's verification of the 95/5 praxis. Ninety-five percent of the women fawning over the same tiny handful of men. The OK Trends blog fleshed out the statistic that women judged eighty percent of men to be of below average attractiveness. It's a wonder that anyone ever gets laid... other than that handful of top fiver's of course. So the rest of us are looking for a needle in a haystack- one of the five percent of women who don't subscribe that paradigm. Wow so it went from 80/20 to 95/5 lmao. I'd agree that women can be way more picky online but not by those #s. OP take a pic with some cool shades and a hat on backwards. Hell, put an Affliction shirt on too. IE, get some "douche gear", I guarentee you you'll get more matches. IME women online are more into mainstream types than in the general population. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 such a huge waste of time, and further poisons the dating world of 2015. Sounds like it. Wish I was the guy inventing this garbage and making stacks of cash off it! Link to post Share on other sites
RedButton Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Eh, I don't think it's that bad. No worse than other dating sites. Maybe I was in the minority in having a very good experience with it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Justanaverageguy Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Eh, I don't think it's that bad. No worse than other dating sites. Maybe I was in the minority in having a very good experience with it? I agree. Its like anything in life - it is what you make of it. The cool thing about tinder is that it literally has no parameters. Its just a match app. Something to connect two people. What you do once you connect is up to you. If you are looking for random casual sex you will find it. If you are looking for something more you will find that too. Link to post Share on other sites
sampled Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 be attractive. don't be unattractive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 be attractive. don't be unattractive. This. It applies to every form of digital dating. People like to paint the entire thing as a one size fits all, but the experience is not the same, can not be the same for every man and every woman. There are lush paradises and barren deserts As far as experiences go. What worked for one person will not work for another. Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 I found stange that I am having more match in my small new town than the big town I was living. Link to post Share on other sites
impatiently_patient Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 be attractive. don't be unattractive. Not sure I get this. Pretty sure I'm a good looking guy. I get told it on a regular occasion, girls will hit on me unsolicited. My photos are alright. Maybe I just need a $500 camera and diffuser kit or something. Link to post Share on other sites
marylittleton Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 Hey guys, I know there's already another Tindr thread here, but I was wondering if any of you have had some noteworthy Tindr experiences? I'm writing an article about it and would love your input on the average types of people you have met on there (creepy, sexy, hilarious, etc) Thanks <3 Link to post Share on other sites
toscaroscura Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 Well, it wasn't super terrible, but the very first Tinder date I had: I met him at a local pub. He was friendly and handsome, and it looked promising. But then I noticed the ring on his finger. Turns out he was a pilot, not even from my town, but staying at the Radisson down the street, and he was married with small children. When I balked at that, he tried to sell me some cock-and-bull story about how he's not trying to cheat or anything (heavens no!) but that he just likes to meet local people where he goes to pass the time. Sure. "Local people". Women, chiefly. On Tinder. I stayed classy and finished my cider. We had a nice conversation and when I was done my drink I GTFO of there. He walked me out, and as I got into my truck he was already on the phone to, perhaps, a more promising prospect than myself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 Well, it wasn't super terrible, but the very first Tinder date I had: I met him at a local pub. He was friendly and handsome, and it looked promising. But then I noticed the ring on his finger. Turns out he was a pilot, not even from my town, but staying at the Radisson down the street, and he was married with small children. When I balked at that, he tried to sell me some cock-and-bull story about how he's not trying to cheat or anything (heavens no!) but that he just likes to meet local people where he goes to pass the time. Sure. "Local people". Women, chiefly. On Tinder. I stayed classy and finished my cider. We had a nice conversation and when I was done my drink I GTFO of there. He walked me out, and as I got into my truck he was already on the phone to, perhaps, a more promising prospect than myself. Tinder was originally designed as a hook up app and that is what a lot of people still use it for. So it would make sense that a pilot in town wanting to have discreet NSA sex would be on Tinder. Still though, it was pretty stupid for him to show up wearing his wedding ring. Tinder is the one "dating" app where it's probably a good idea to clear up intentions before getting together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
barcode88 Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 I met a girl off tinder, then it turned out she had a BF or something and it turned into some huge drama... I would stop responding to her texts and just ignored her, and then a day later she would keep texting me and trying to start ****. Then she got her boyfriend to even start texting me. Thankfully I just ignored them both and they stopped. Oh and this girl wanted to come over to my place for our first meet, thankfully I said NO and met her at a bar first -- She came off as really stupid (yeah not too smart), and had drama written all over her.. Plus i'd only give her a 6/6.5 for looks. #bulletdodged Link to post Share on other sites
mongo Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 i had a coffee date. she didnt show up. Link to post Share on other sites
toscaroscura Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 Tinder was originally designed as a hook up app and that is what a lot of people still use it for. So it would make sense that a pilot in town wanting to have discreet NSA sex would be on Tinder. Still though, it was pretty stupid for him to show up wearing his wedding ring. Tinder is the one "dating" app where it's probably a good idea to clear up intentions before getting together. Yeah true. I mean, I had heard that, the hookup thing. But I really like the concept. And I decided to use it as I saw fit. If I don't want to hookup, I won't. To me, it's so brilliant. A picture, a blurb. Do you fancy them? It's really no different than someone you might meet out in real life. You certainly don't know everything about the attractive stranger you met last night. The "legit" dating sites like OKC were too information-heavy! I am an overthinker and these sites made me anxious. Sure it was cool to see how we matched in questions, but going on a few dates made me realize that the match percentage meant SQUAT! In fact, I started to actively refuse men with 90% ranges because of bad experiences. It just seemed like it meant nothing in terms of real compatibility. At least with Tinder I can go on a date with NO expectations (but the algorithm said we were 99% matched, wtf?!). Link to post Share on other sites
joseb Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 Yeah true. I mean, I had heard that, the hookup thing. But I really like the concept. And I decided to use it as I saw fit. If I don't want to hookup, I won't. To me, it's so brilliant. A picture, a blurb. Do you fancy them? It's really no different than someone you might meet out in real life. You certainly don't know everything about the attractive stranger you met last night. The "legit" dating sites like OKC were too information-heavy! I am an overthinker and these sites made me anxious. Sure it was cool to see how we matched in questions, but going on a few dates made me realize that the match percentage meant SQUAT! In fact, I started to actively refuse men with 90% ranges because of bad experiences. It just seemed like it meant nothing in terms of real compatibility. At least with Tinder I can go on a date with NO expectations (but the algorithm said we were 99% matched, wtf?!). Yeah I must say I'm weary of OLDating after a few weeks of it (!) and was reticent to try Tinder, but I do like the concept. It does come closer to real life I think - someone catches your eye, and if they show you some signal (swipe) you try to chat them up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SomeDude16 Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 I'm a self described power swiper. I swipe right all the time the sort later. Well one time I was eating lunch with my buds at a local coffee shop and low and behold, one of my matches who I missed filtering recognized my face. She comes over and asks if I recognize her to which I say no. She then proceeds to sit down at the table and berate me for not recognizing her face. After she left I made sure to unmatch. Too bad she wasn't cute 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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