Tinder dating app

[barcode88]

Yeah true. I mean, I had heard that, the hookup thing. But I really like the concept. And I decided to use it as I saw fit. If I don't want to hookup, I won't.

 

To me, it's so brilliant. A picture, a blurb. Do you fancy them? It's really no different than someone you might meet out in real life. You certainly don't know everything about the attractive stranger you met last night. The "legit" dating sites like OKC were too information-heavy! I am an overthinker and these sites made me anxious. Sure it was cool to see how we matched in questions, but going on a few dates made me realize that the match percentage meant SQUAT! In fact, I started to actively refuse men with 90% ranges because of bad experiences. It just seemed like it meant nothing in terms of real compatibility.

 

At least with Tinder I can go on a date with NO expectations (but the algorithm said we were 99% matched, wtf?!).

 

Yeah OKC is too specific and I overthink the questions sometimes...

 

I like Match because the criteria it matches you on are very basic like if you want kids, smoker or non smoker,etc. It's nice leaving the rest to your imagination.

[TheBathWater]

No real horror stories. I've had an overall positive experience with Tinder. Funny story though - I tried the power swipe strategy once after hearing so many guys rave about it, and a woman who has been pursuing me for ages that I don't like matched with me.

[joseb]

I'm a self described power swiper. I swipe right all the time the sort later.

....

She comes over and asks if I recognize her to which I say no. She then proceeds to sit down at the table and berate me for not recognizing her face. After she left I made sure to unmatch. Too bad she wasn't cute

 

Yeah I think that's exactly why this behaviour is counter productive - whats the point in having the functionality to select people you like if people abuse it and create fake matches all the time?

 

If you actually payed attention and swiped to people you liked you would have recognised her (if you had swiped).

 

All this matching means you will lose track pretty quickly. Better to have 1 or 2 matches you actually like than 20 that you have no interest in seeing. It's like junk email. Why would you want it? And think about it from the other persons point of view. Now I know why women complain about matches and no follow up.

[joseb]

RE: the original question, no horror stories yet.

 

I'm sure I will have some at some stage!

 

I am quite surprised by how many matches have FB friends in common - others seeing this, or are you using the fake FB method?

[Gary S]

Yeah OKC is too specific and I overthink the questions sometimes...

 

I like Match because the criteria it matches you on are very basic like if you want kids, smoker or non smoker,etc. It's nice leaving the rest to your imagination.

 

- yup, I agree

[Arieswoman]

No experience of Tinder but something similar in UK.....

 

1. This guy said he had worked in Area 51 at Roswell and had very high security clearance ( ! ) but was very cagey about what he did in UK ( he was British ). He sounded interesting so I agreed a dinner-date.

This turned out to be a big mistake.

He spent the whole meal telling me in a loud voice that aliens lived near the earth's core and came out of special holes in the ground. He said that the aliens that people had seen were really extra-terrestial in heat resistant suits....

 

2. This guy told me he wrote screen plays for TV and I agreed to meet him for lunch. He turned up in the scruffiest clothes I had ever seen with ripped denims and a car covered in mud.

It turned out he'd written lots of plays but none had been accepted.

After 20 mins I suggested we get the menu and he said he didn't want to eat. I said that I though we had agreed to a lunch meeting? He got cross and shouted " I'm not going to force down food if I'm not hungry !" I said, "Well, I'm hungry and I'm going to the chippy, you do what you like" and I walked out.

 

3. This guy had written "well-built" on his profile. I asked him specifically if he was heavy build. At that time I was very slightly built and wasn't interested in big men and told him that. He said no, he wasn't heavy build.

He insisted on meeting me for dinner to a really posh place. I agreed. Another mistake.

When his car rolled up in the car park the suspension was down on one side. When he got out it went up again as he was at least 300lbs. When we were shown to a table he couldn't get into his seat as it had arms and he was too big. They had to go and look for another one and all they could find was a stool from the kitchen. He sat on that for the meal with his @r$e hanging down on both sides. It was all very embarrassing.

 

 

After this I learned the wisdom of short "coffee dates" for a start.....

[SomeDude16]

Yeah I think that's exactly why this behaviour is counter productive - whats the point in having the functionality to select people you like if people abuse it and create fake matches all the time?

 

If you actually payed attention and swiped to people you liked you would have recognised her (if you had swiped).

 

All this matching means you will lose track pretty quickly. Better to have 1 or 2 matches you actually like than 20 that you have no interest in seeing. It's like junk email. Why would you want it? And think about it from the other persons point of view. Now I know why women complain about matches and no follow up.

 

Not counter productive at all. It saves lots of time. I can't be looking at the app every 20 min to see who I match, so there should not be an expectation of recognition.

[joseb]

Not counter productive at all. It saves lots of time. I can't be looking at the app every 20 min to see who I match, so there should not be an expectation of recognition.

 

Well I guess if the way you are using it works for you then keep doing it.

 

Personally I'd rather take a few seconds and actually process the people I'm looking at, rather than trying to sort them all later like cleaning out my inbox.

I would probably only swipe right a handful so I wont be looking at my phone every 20 mins anyway, as I will only match 1 or 2 in a day.

 

And I don't piss people off ignoring them either because if they match, it means I like them and will message them.

[organizedchaos]

Well I guess if the way you are using it works for you then keep doing it.

 

Personally I'd rather take a few seconds and actually process the people I'm looking at, rather than trying to sort them all later like cleaning out my inbox.

I would probably only swipe right a handful so I wont be looking at my phone every 20 mins anyway, as I will only match 1 or 2 in a day.

 

And I don't piss people off ignoring them either because if they match, it means I like them and will message them.

 

That's how I used it when I was on Tinder too. I only swiped right on girls I could actually see myself wanting to go on a date with. Otherwise there is no point.

[Natalie8]

No real horror stories. The last guy i was about to have a date with claimed to be 34. Call me creepy or just with too much time on my hands, but i googled his name and job title and found his linkedin profile..he graduated from uni in 1998! I did the maths..he is 39. I know some people have the wrong birthyear set on fb, and since tinder is linked to fb it displayes the wrong age. But then you can mention your real age in the text.

[Hyperfocal]

So, I have been on OKC and Match and considering Tinder.

 

Is there a strong presence in the US among 27-37 y.o. women on Tinder (or is it more the young crowd)?

 

Does it require attaching to my Facebook data ( I haven't updated FB in over a year, I don't FB, don't want FB.)? Can I just run it with content I build?

 

Does the user put any specifics "has kids," "Divorced," etc on it, or just photo(s)?

 

How geocentric is is? I don't want my immediate neighbors popping up because they are within 1000 feet, and I don't want to date them.

 

Is the population on Tinder similar (same people) as you find on Match/OKC, or is it a significantly different set?

 

I checked their site, and youtube videos, my answers to this were not clear. Thanks.

[TheBathWater]

On Tinder, your search preferences are based on three things:

 

1. Age

2. Search Distance (within how many miles radius do you want to search?)

3. Search for men or women

 

That's it.

 

It links to your Facebook account, so you can pick your photos from your facebook and also your interests will be displayed. If you have mutual friends in common with whoever you match with, that will show too. A little strange, but I haven't had anything bad come of it in the year I've been using it. Yes, you WILL need a facebook to Tinder.

 

No one will know if someone has kids or not. I guess you could mention it in your 'profile', which is more like a 120 character text box to accompany your photo.

 

I do believe you can uncheck a box called 'Discovery' and that doing so will prevent other Tinder folks from seeing YOU, but you can still see them, and I assume if you swipe yes to them then they will see you. This does limit your ability to get noticed, but on the other hand, if you're male then most of the time you're the one swiping yes first anyway.

 

I find most of the people on Tinder are not on Match or OKC, but most of the people who are on OKC or Match are also on Tinder.

 

Hope that helps.

[Hyperfocal]

Is the maturity level of 30 year old women on Tinder similar to the others, or distinctly different?

 

I find most of the people on Tinder are not on Match or OKC, but most of the people who are on OKC or Match are also on Tinder.

So Tinder is a very large population?

 

I will have to set up a fake FB profile. I have a family relative who is a bit of a FB stalker; so I keep FB dormant. Hmm, a new FB with my name misspelled, hope that works.

 

Thanks.

[TheBathWater]

Is the maturity level of 30 year old women on Tinder similar to the others, or distinctly different?

 

 

So Tinder is a very large population?

 

I will have to set up a fake FB profile. I have a family relative who is a bit of a FB stalker; so I keep FB dormant. Hmm, a new FB with my name misspelled, hope that works.

 

Thanks.

 

You may have to use a real FB profile. I believe that Tinder wants your FB profile to have so many friends (like 50+, I'm not sure of the exact number, but just a guess-timate). They do this to weed out Tinder posers. I would just use your actual Facebook. No one on your facebook will know, unless they see you on Tinder, and even if they do they won't care to be honest.

[Hyperfocal]

It took with my FB profile, which is sparse. Anyhow, what I found was 20% of the women there are on Match or OKC, and about 30% seem to be my type: cheerful, bright, mature, etc. I was expecting a more hookup environment (even though I want a more rel. oriented experience). So based on looks alone, far more on Tinder look "Right." compared to the other sites. I am interested in more than looks alone...

 

So the quantity is great. Odd one, it tells me I ran out of people, in 1/2 hr I log on again, and it has another 30. Did this 3 times. There is some sort of dosaging of candidates on it. We shall see

[nadine5]

I met a guy on tinder who was REALLY super hot (red flag, lol). The first couple of hours went well, then he started digging into me about my "agnostic" status on Facebook. Next thing I knew, I was being preached at about hellfire and brimstone and he even tried to get me to sign up for a baptism.

[Maleficent]

Yeah true. I mean, I had heard that, the hookup thing. But I really like the concept. And I decided to use it as I saw fit. If I don't want to hookup, I won't.

 

To me, it's so brilliant. A picture, a blurb. Do you fancy them? It's really no different than someone you might meet out in real life. You certainly don't know everything about the attractive stranger you met last night. The "legit" dating sites like OKC were too information-heavy! I am an overthinker and these sites made me anxious. Sure it was cool to see how we matched in questions, but going on a few dates made me realize that the match percentage meant SQUAT! In fact, I started to actively refuse men with 90% ranges because of bad experiences. It just seemed like it meant nothing in terms of real compatibility.

 

At least with Tinder I can go on a date with NO expectations (but the algorithm said we were 99% matched, wtf?!).

 

 

I loved the Tinder concept. It removed the 'Am I contacting someone who will just ignore my message' aspect of OLD - cause you know, he swiped me right after all. It means he is at least interested in talking to me.

 

fail...

[joseb]

I loved the Tinder concept. It removed the 'Am I contacting someone who will just ignore my message' aspect of OLD - cause you know, he swiped me right after all. It means he is at least interested in talking to me.

 

fail...

 

Maybe Tinder need to make two versions of the app.

One where people us it like it is intended, and you get this benefit of knowing the person is interested.

And another, for all these swipers who just want to match anyone - cut out the swiping, just match them with x random people whenever the log on.

 

Everyones happy.

[Maleficent]

Maybe Tinder need to make two versions of the app.

One where people us it like it is intended, and you get this benefit of knowing the person is interested.

And another, for all these swipers who just want to match anyone - cut out the swiping, just match them with x random people whenever the log on.

 

Everyones happy.

 

Haha! I love it!

 

Tinder -original and Tinder validations.

[string of letters]

May be a long shot, but here goes....

 

I'm pretty nomadic during 2015, and have decided to give Tinder a whirl. However, I don't do smart phones, I just have a laptop.

 

I've tried looking online at various third-party PC apps that allow one to run Tinder on a PC, and got kind of overwhelmed.... At this point, having a hard time keeping track of what I've seen where.

 

Is it correct that Tinder itself uses your 'current town' location from Facebook and doesn't allow you to change it (unless you change your FB location) unless you pay, or something like that? But I thought I'd read elsewhere that Tinder uses your IP address location, now I'm really confused...

 

So, anyway (you probably saw this coming ), my question is whether any of these third party apps will run on a PC with Windows and allow one to change one's location, independently of one's FB location (I don't currently have a location set on FB, and that's not going to change for several months). Thanks!

[Philosopher]

Over the past month I have been trying out Tinder. Over that time I have had several matches and have messaged quite a few girls. Great you might think. However I have got a grand total of zero replies from my messages, let alone dates . A couple of girls have disappeared entirely soon after I have messaged them, suggesting to me that they blocked me. My conclusion is that either most people on it are either swiping right somewhat randomly or are just using it to boost their ego.

 

On the other more traditional online dating sites I have used, for all their flaws, at least when you get favorited or liked and then message them, in my experience you do usually get a reply back.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, have any of you had better experiences of Tinder, or have your experiences been a similar disappointment?

[fitnessfan365]

Think realistically for a second. Do you realize how often girls are right swiped and messaged? We're talking endlessly on a daily basis. Let's say you send a message at 1pm and she opens the app at 3pm. Your message could already be 100-200 deep in her inbox. So a lot of the time, your messages probably aren't even read. I mean do you realize how long it would take to go through and read that many emails?

 

I was in a FWB set up w-a HOT law student once. She was also doing online dating. I'd always been curious how many messages women received, the types of messages, etc.. So she showed me her inbox. Within 24 hours of joining, she already had 500 emails. Also, she'd devote maybe 10 seconds to each email and if they didn't catch her attention instantly, she'd delete. Why? She had so many options at her disposal. On a free service like Tinder, it's even worse. So their attention spans are going to be shorter than ever and that's why they disappear on you. I mean she doesn't know you personally, So she's not rejecting you. To her, you're just another random guy clogging up her inbox that wasn't quite as interesting as another guy she was dealing with. Just try to be more indifferent and treat it like roulette.

Edited July 25, 2015 by fitnessfan365

[organizedchaos]

Over the past month I have been trying out Tinder. Over that time I have had several matches and have messaged quite a few girls. Great you might think. However I have got a grand total of zero replies from my messages, let alone dates . A couple of girls have disappeared entirely soon after I have messaged them, suggesting to me that they blocked me. My conclusion is that either most people on it are either swiping right somewhat randomly or are just using it to boost their ego.

 

On the other more traditional online dating sites I have used, for all their flaws, at least when you get favorited or liked and then message them, in my experience you do usually get a reply back.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, have any of you had better experiences of Tinder, or have your experiences been a similar disappointment?

 

Yes. My gf and I met on Tinder a little over a year ago and are still madly in love with each other.

[Philosopher]

Think realistically for a second. Do you realize how often girls are right swiped and messaged? We're talking endlessly on a daily basis. Let's say you send a message at 1pm and she opens the app at 3pm. Your message could already be 100-200 deep in her inbox. So a lot of the time, your messages probably aren't even read. I mean do you realize how long it would take to go through and read that many emails?

 

I was in a FWB set up w-a HOT law student once. She was also doing online dating. I'd always been curious how many messages women received, the types of messages, etc.. So she showed me her inbox. Within 24 hours of joining, she already had 500 emails. Also, she'd devote maybe 10 seconds to each email and if they didn't catch her attention instantly, she'd delete. Why? She had so many options at her disposal. On a free service like Tinder, it's even worse. So their attention spans are going to be shorter than ever and that's why they disappear on you. I mean she doesn't know you personally, So she's not rejecting you. To her, you're just another random guy clogging up her inbox that wasn't quite as interesting as another guy she was dealing with. Just try to be more indifferent and treat it like roulette.

 

I could understand this making sense on sites like OkCupid and Match, but surely on Tinder because only people whom mutually like each other can message each other, women will not be so bombarded with hundreds of messages, unless of course they have swiped right hundreds of times in the last couple of days. If a women did not want loads of messages all they would have to do is not swipe right too many times. However from my experience so far, clearly the mutual matching does not make getting dates any easier.

 

The impression I am getting from Tinder is that it like other dating sites, but with an additional hoop to jump through, that is you have to get a mutual match first before being able to message them. This in effect makes it harder than other dating sites.

[ppo88201]

Tinder is a joke. You are not alone in your findings, I had like 100 matches and not one message. Its an ego boosting app that lets people know other people think they are cute, nothing more. Do not let it effect your self image or dating potential.