DSLR Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 Most guys use tinder for hook ups, but the girls I have met went a step further. In the past two years I met between 40 - 50 girls. 90% of them just got dumped by their boyfriends, so they want to get over it fast. They use guys as rebounds. In the beginning I didn't mind at all, after awhile it was pissing me off. The mindset towards tinder depends from country to country. Surprisingly in Europe its is less for hook ups (most countries). In Asia, depends on the country (Singapore=more serious, Japan=hook ups, Thailand=more serious, Filippines=hook ups, etc.), Australia = hook ups, etc. I was using tinder a lot, seeing it made it even easier to meet girls. Unfortunately the quality went down a lot. Nowadays everyone is on tinder, posting pictures of their cats, food, etc. on it, annoying as hell. My last tinder date was half a year ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 This just confirms my belief that dating and relationships were better when you actually went out and met somebody. Social media is killing dating and also killing night life in general. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 I'd be begging to hang out with this girl. Unfortunately, and based on the difference in our physical appearance, I'm not surprised, we didn't match. Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Studies show that humans are less satisfied when presented with more choices. We always kinda second guess ourselves I suppose. With that being said, why on earth would Tinder even be an option for anyone? It's basically just grindr for straight people. Even if I met the girl elsewhere, if I found out she was a tinderella, I'd just the nope the eff outta there. Only you can set standards for yourself. If you're grindr/tindering, let's not pretend you're setting those standards very high. There's too many good people out there to waste time with people who shop online for hookups. However, if you're super thirsty and can't get it any other way, by my all means. Otherwise, gtfo tinder. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Lol, tinder is just another facet brah. It's like being in 20 places at once. Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Lol, tinder is just another facet brah. It's like being in 20 places at once. Or like sharing one vagina with 20 penises. Metaphors are awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Don't know how old you are, but at my age, we've all slept with more than 20 people. Unless you were the married at 21 type. Anyway, only insecure men would have a problem with a woman's sexuality. As long as she is STD free, numbers don't matter to me. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Anyone else find it ironic that a magazine called vanity fair does an article about a looks only dating app? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Don't know how old you are, but at my age, we've all slept with more than 20 people. Unless you were the married at 21 type. Anyway, only insecure men would have a problem with a woman's sexuality. As long as she is STD free, numbers don't matter to me. So you're saying the ONLY reason a man would feel that way is because he's insecure? I call BS. My opinion on this doesn't stem from insecurity. Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 I dunno, people used to go out and meet people. NOW they live behind their phones. So i dont think there is a difference. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 oh please, it's such a retarded article. I live in a small city in Switzerland and everyone's on Tinder. Sure, some people are on it for sex, but those are easy to identify and weed out. I would say around these parts, it's almost a social network, as it gives a lot of access to a lot of people. Some are funny, other interesting, other smart... they're still complete strangers and yeah, having chemistry with complete strangers is tough. But from here to demonizing this app, oh please, get a life. Guess what, women sleeping really easily on Tinder sleep really easily in real life. It ain't all that different. It's just an app putting people into contact. Whatever happens after that is up to those 2 people. I've actually made some really cool male friends and we hang out regularly. I've met a stunning man who took me out on a date and reminded me how beautiful life is. I've met my ex whom I dated for 4-5 months. It is what you make of it, nothing more, nothing less. People have slept around before Tinder and will sleep around after it. Men looking for easy tail will look for easy tail on Tinder and outside it. I weed those guys out online and in real life. I just don't care for hook ups. Oh, and yeah, I've been on it for like an year and I do get interesting dates. Not a lot of dates, but I do have guys chatting me up and asking me out regularly. Taking their time. It's exactly like in real life. Only here, you can actually hear the guy out - on text. In real life, you get the bloody attraction and you forget to look at the signs and actually hear the guy out. I'm better at weeding losers on Tinder than on real life. And I sense when there's potential attraction too, on Tinder. Female intuition. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 My personal experiences and opinions are thus; Tinder - I will not use it. Everyone I have met who has in my local area has done so purely for hook ups, casual sex and an ego boost. I know others else where have had a better time of it with tinder but where I am its like sticking a neon sign on your head saying "Please use me for sex". OK Cupid - I did have some lovely dates. I had some awful dates. I spent most of my time fending off young men wanting a cougar and older men who on paper seemed suitable who in actual fact were not worth my bother or time. PoF - See OK Cupid. My comments may not be very relevant as in the past 6 or so months that I have been on there I have probably spent more time with my profile deactivated or hidden than I have active. On the whole I would say around 95% of the men are unsuitable for me on these sites for whatever reason. The 5% that were left either didn't want to get to know me better or were so jaded by the experience (as I have ended up - hence my current break) that they were in no fit state to date and have fun as they were constantly waiting to be hurt. Oh the irony. I am not bad looking, I am adventurous, I am kind and thoughtful. I work hard. I am imaginative. But no one seems to want to find that out for themselves. Instead they just view it as shopping on Amazon... I am pretty sure that the vast majority of people on these sites are just lonely and crossing their fingers to find someone special. They just forget that it takes time and effort to actually achieve that. Sometimes curiosity does get to me and I think about going back but then I remember the stress of it all... In my current frame of mind its just not worth it. All of these site are just tools to meet people. Thats all. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 We are over-saturated with bad options, and many can't find a real relationship anymore. This says it in far fewer words. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 So you're saying the ONLY reason a man would feel that way is because he's insecure? I call BS. My opinion on this doesn't stem from insecurity. Dude, she's not dating anyone at the time, who am I to judge her for what she is doing? I don't own her vagina, it's hers. If a dude had 20 chicks in rotation, I think half the dudes here would be like "WHAT A MAN!". So yes, I think it's seriously some weak **** to judge women with a different scale. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Someone at Tinder sent out a stream of defensive Twitter messages in response to the article, and for some reason, there are now tons of articles commenting on that. I agree with most of the commentary, that it just makes Tinder look childish and lacking substance. They could have handled it much better. Reacting in such a defensive, almost angry way just gives fuel to the flames. Even if I met the girl elsewhere, if I found out she was a tinderella, I'd just the nope the eff outta there. That's how I feel about it. I would be repelled by anyone who had used Tinder at all. I get that it has a different connotation in different countries, but in the U.S., it has the firm reputation as a shallow hookup app and has from the beginning. And at least 95% of the Tinder stories I've heard from people online and otherwise are about hookups. So I guess it would be possible to meet a guy who had used it for genuine dating only, but I think it's pretty unlikely, so I would regard him with a heavy dose of skepticism. Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon_Dude Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 I find Tinder completely useless. The few girls that have "liked" me back, don't even respond when I message them. Also, it's rare that I find the ones who like me attractive. It seems to exist simply for ego validation and emotionless sex. That said, I have hooked up with one girl from there, last year, who's a nice person but apparently incapable of orgasm. So, there's that. OKCupid I find similarly disheartening. I'm engaged in a few convos on there, but 90% of the women I message (after reading their profile and alluding to something they've written) don't write me back. Seems like a lot of the women on there are damaged, overweight or have kids. Not trying to be mean, just my perspective. I also question why a sane, normal woman would be on there at all. I have a date this Saturday from OKC, but have low/no expectations. I'm sure it's because I just got dumped, but man, does it seem like there is crazy everywhere. Link to post Share on other sites
40 Fonzarelli Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Do people actually read the profile on Tinder? Mine is blank. Link to post Share on other sites
usernametaken Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Someone at Tinder sent out a stream of defensive Twitter messages in response to the article, and for some reason, there are now tons of articles commenting on that. I agree with most of the commentary, that it just makes Tinder look childish and lacking substance. They could have handled it much better. Reacting in such a defensive, almost angry way just gives fuel to the flames. That's how I feel about it. I would be repelled by anyone who had used Tinder at all. I get that it has a different connotation in different countries, but in the U.S., it has the firm reputation as a shallow hookup app and has from the beginning. And at least 95% of the Tinder stories I've heard from people online and otherwise are about hookups. So I guess it would be possible to meet a guy who had used it for genuine dating only, but I think it's pretty unlikely, so I would regard him with a heavy dose of skepticism. My ex-h has used Tinder to find successful relationships in the past. He said that he found it to be better than match because there was a larger pool of candidates. And he wasn't just on there to get laid. Maybe it's generational. He's in his mid-30s; so perhaps for people in their early 20s, it's more of a sex and STD buffet. Link to post Share on other sites
usernametaken Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 I find Tinder completely useless. The few girls that have "liked" me back, don't even respond when I message them. Also, it's rare that I find the ones who like me attractive. It seems to exist simply for ego validation and emotionless sex. That said, I have hooked up with one girl from there, last year, who's a nice person but apparently incapable of orgasm. So, there's that. OKCupid I find similarly disheartening. I'm engaged in a few convos on there, but 90% of the women I message (after reading their profile and alluding to something they've written) don't write me back. Seems like a lot of the women on there are damaged, overweight or have kids. Not trying to be mean, just my perspective. I also question why a sane, normal woman would be on there at all. I have a date this Saturday from OKC, but have low/no expectations. I'm sure it's because I just got dumped, but man, does it seem like there is crazy everywhere. I used OKC after my divorce. Why? Because I don't have an available pool of single meant to choose from - where else do you meet people if you have a career and kids? OLD, that's where. I just filtered through the nasty folks. There were some decent guys on there. Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 (edited) I used OKC after my divorce. Why? Because I don't have an available pool of single meant to choose from - where else do you meet people if you have a career and kids? OLD, that's where. I just filtered through the nasty folks. There were some decent guys on there. Women and men do not have the same online dating experience. I would totally recommend match or maybe even okstupid for a woman after a breakup, but I would tell my male friends to stay far, far away. Edited August 14, 2015 by HereNorThere Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 As far as the articles goes, baloney.........plenty of people still fall in love and are monogamous........ it's been that way for thousands of years and a new website is not going to come along and change human nature. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NewBeginning72 Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 (edited) I find Tinder completely useless. The few girls that have "liked" me back, don't even respond when I message them. Also, it's rare that I find the ones who like me attractive. It seems to exist simply for ego validation and emotionless sex. That said, I have hooked up with one girl from there, last year, who's a nice person but apparently incapable of orgasm. Soo, I am just starting the divorce process and will at some point enter the dating cesspool. I am a nice person, with only a slight ability to have an orgasm with a toy. Many women have this problem, but I know some of them fake it. I don't like to fake anything, but perhaps I will have to. But on the other hand, I don't want to be with someone who feels this to be a deal breaker. It sounds like an ego issue. Edited August 14, 2015 by NewBeginning72 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 Tinder was OK a few yrs ago. At least for people late 30s early 40's. But I deleted my account a few months back. Seemed like too many married women or women with live in bfs looking for attention. They show up for a night then disappear after some quick flirting. Got bored with the app. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 WOW! I had a friend of mine on FB post actual screen shots of some of the people's most disturbing profiles. One was a pic of a dude in spandex, aimed just at his croch with a "bulge" showing throw. Another dude with a full beard with flowers in it. Another dude on his roof took a picture of a vent pipe on the roof, that's it. Picture of just a guy's eye, but he's forcing his lids open with his fingers One just had a pic of his pistol with skull gun grips. A picture with a caption of the dude saying, "To all those who've I've offended, yeah, f**k you too!" A dude at the fair with a huge turkey leg in his hand. The list goes on! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 What? Don't crazy people deserve to find love and happiness on the wacky world wide web? (but yes, it takes all kinds) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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