sweetey147 Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 I was just wandering what are some good signs of tying the big knot? the reason i ask is because my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years has been talking about it, as in "when we get married we'll have this" and so forth. i just dont know if this is a figure of speech but he really means it when we talk about it, i'm just wandering WHEN? i graduate from Dental school in one year and when he found out i'll be getting out earlier than expected he was excited and said, "that means we can have a house and things together earlier!" but the only thing is, is i'm not moving in with a guy unless i'm married to them, because in my opinion (notice opinion) i think that's what marriage is about, is coming together as one and learning to love each other and each others ways, but he knows this and how i feel soooo hhhmmmmmmmmmmmm????? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 The BEST sign of a pending Marriage is... when he gets on that knee, gives up the rock, and asks! Link to post Share on other sites
binturong Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 My husband started in on that early on in our relationship...at around the 1 year mark. We got engaged around 5 years and we got married after being together for 6 years. So in my opinion, those comments don't mean much. Link to post Share on other sites
katie79 Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 She is right! You absolutely know he's serious when "he actually proposes marriage and sets a date"! The best answer. As for what Bintrong said, I had the same experience. My fiance kept talking about marrying me, what our children would be like, our future, etc after only 2 months of being together. He talked like he was going to propose soon. My family is very realistic and practical and they thought he was going to do it a couple months down the road! He didn't pop the question until after 3 1/2, almost 4 years of being together! Just because he talks about marrying you doesn't mean anything at all. His intentions most likely are to marry you, but if he isn't proposing, it's not a reality just yet. You've been together a significant amount of time, however, he may be waiting for you to finish dental school to give you a little breathing room to establish your career. I don't know if you are just curious about this matter in your relationship, or if you are at the end of your ropes here. All I can say is "seeing is believing" or "what a man says and what a man does are two very different things". If you are questioning if he is really serious, ask him. Don't do what I did. I hung around like an idiot wondering if he was full of sh*t or not. Turned out he was full of sh*t, until of course, I dumped his a$$! He sh*t a cat when her realized he wasn't ever going to do any better than me and he would never find someone a quarter good as me who put up with his sh*t for that long. Bottom line, be upfront with him next time he brings up the fantasy of marrying you someday. Ask him when and if it's not within the next year, start looking elsewhere (if you want marriage soon of course. Don't walk away if you are happy with waiting another couple years-and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that!). Be assertive with your goals involving your relationship. Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 Originally posted by katie79 He sh*t a cat when he realized he wasn't ever going to do any better than me Damn! I must write down that expression! Link to post Share on other sites
katie79 Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 That's a quote I got from the movie, "Folks" with Tom Selleck. You should watch it, it's very funny! Link to post Share on other sites
lydiamarie Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 thought this was going to be a 'how to tell he's married' thread...but i suppose it would have been in the OM/OW then... good luck to you and if all else fails, propose to him Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetey147 Posted November 30, 2004 Author Share Posted November 30, 2004 Thanks for all the responses you guys! we are in a very serious relationship but i guess 2 and 1/2 years isn't enough which is okay....it's not the end of my hopes! i would never give up on him this early....or ever.....just curious! Link to post Share on other sites
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