willpower654 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 How exactly do all of you successfull marriages and partnerships effectively communicate with your partners what is exactly wrong or how u are feeling about something? I am having a lot of difficulty right now as a lot of you have seen in another post. But I am seeing a counsellor and she suggests the largest problem in my relationship is that there are no boundaries. What exactly does that mean? You need to sit down and say okay this is what I expect and need etc.. Or what? Is something like a conversation such as this even going to be effective? Especially trying to talk to someone who appears to be selfish for the first time in the relationship I am actually seeing it? Any input is appreciated, as always. Link to post Share on other sites
Aquarius Guy Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 (edited) How exactly do all of you successfull marriages and partnerships effectively communicate with your partners what is exactly wrong or how u are feeling about something? I am having a lot of difficulty right now as a lot of you have seen in another post. But I am seeing a counsellor and she suggests the largest problem in my relationship is that there are no boundaries. What exactly does that mean? You need to sit down and say okay this is what I expect and need etc.. Or what? Is something like a conversation such as this even going to be effective? Especially trying to talk to someone who appears to be selfish for the first time in the relationship I am actually seeing it? Any input is appreciated, as always. Boundaries are thing each of you like or don't like, generally. You might start with writing down boundaries for yourself. If you are going to be late, then call and let your woman know you are running late. There are boundaries you might like. Communication with your spouse usually means listening to your spouse's ideas for 15 minutes, before you try to present any of your own ideas. Do you have good skill for encouraging your spouse to vent? Have you helped your fiancé learn how to encourage you to express random ideas, to think things out aloud? // Edited October 5, 2013 by Aquarius Guy Link to post Share on other sites
Cococbel Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Communication is a lot to do with listening. Not judging. This is something we struggle with in our marriage, its very tough. Link to post Share on other sites
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