i sent a letter to my ex girlfriend. poured my heart into it. things just got worst.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

i'm still taking it all in. i need to take a step back and reassess everything. i was watching 500 days of summer and theres a line that reached out to me..."Look, I know you think she was the one, but I don't. Now, I think you're just remembering the good stuff. Next time you look back, I, uh, I really think you should look again."

 

First...its Friday night. Why in the hell are you watching movies???

 

Until you learn to actually listen, you won't go anywhere.

[Purepony]

First...its Friday night. Why in the hell are you watching movies???

 

Until you learn to actually listen, you won't go anywhere.

 

 

 

Yeah wth!? Why are you watching movies!

[Bandito]

why am i watching movies? hmmmm, hmmmm, maybe because the woman i use to go out with on friday nights dumped me, i'm depressed & i have no one to hangout with?!?! why are you guys on the computer, its friday night, you should be out with your boyfriends/girlfriends....oh yeah i forgot, you're in the same position i'm in.

 

 

don't get cocky guys, don't act like you have all the answers. i'm getting advice from a "confused human being" for f*cks sake. most of you are broken like me. try to understand my pain and give me time to process sh*t, changes don't happen overnight.

Edited October 5, 2013 by Bandito

[Bandito]

Time for some friends. Meetup.com. I went to a darts night last night. Never thrown a dart in my life before - I went along for some drinks and a laugh, and ended up uncovering a hidden talent. The league player teaching us was thrilled. He took me aside and gave me a few pointers, and by the end of the night, I was grouping darts with good accuracy and had won a couple of games.

 

Time to get out there, even if it's not dating. Go out for a drink for an hour, you never know what you might realise about yourself!

 

I'm home tonight because I'm going out tomorrow. I wanted a night in with the guitar. I'm far from broken. I'm just here for the lolz. :-)

 

 

 

hanging out with my friends won't do me any good, they have problems just like me. i need some solitude at this point, i'm tired of the ppl in my life, too much drama.

 

you shouldn't be on here for the 'lolz' people here have problems, and need support, not to be made fun of.

[Bandito]

How much solid, practical advice have I offered in my just over 1200 posts?

 

I doubt many on here would think I'm "making fun".

 

If you fail to let go of your girlfriend, you are in for far more hurt than what you're going through now. I and many others far wiser than you ate attempting to sister you from it. As for drama, you are perpetuating it.

 

You think you're at rock bottom? Oh honey... you don't know rock bottom. Not yet.

 

i have far more problems in my life besides my ex. things are so bad, to the point where i think about wanting to end my life, i think i know when i've hit rock bottom.

[Bandito]

Sitting at home by yourself is not going to start fixing it. That is most definitely, the opposite of what you should be doing...

 

i'm not at home alone, hence why i need solitude.

 

don't get me wrong, i get out. i enjoy traveling, but nothing seems to make me happy. believe me i tried to find it, but i'm dead inside. someone told me i'm a lost soul.

[Bandito]

Then perhaps some counseling is in order.

 

But if not, you must, must stop talking to your ex. That should be your first step.

 

i know you're right. i'm looking at the big picture here, and i'm starting to resent her.

 

it's not a good feeling you know, someone who cared so much about me, then all of the sudden they lose love, and don't give a sh*t.

 

all i want to do is speak my mind to her so she could see how much i'm suffering. the b*tch needs to know her guilt.

[JDPT]

She won't hear you. Silence is better.

 

 

Absolutely true, you can scream until your lungs collapse and she will hear nothing. When someone is determined there is absolutely no going back, no hesitation, no change of mind. Her plan is se forth vigorously with no impunity. As stated previously, counseling is a must at this point in your life. You need someone who on a one on one basis will assist you in analyzing and dissecting it all form an objective and most importantly professional stand point. Hang tight, you will make it out of this dark hole you are in.

[reddragon588]

hanging out with my friends won't do me any good, they have problems just like me. i need some solitude at this point, i'm tired of the ppl in my life, too much drama.

 

you shouldn't be on here for the 'lolz' people here have problems, and need support, not to be made fun of.

 

Solitude will only keep you stewing over the thoughts in your own mind. You need something to distract you.

 

Try joining meetup.com. You'll meet new people and that will help keep a new and positive energy around you. I joined and have found a new circle of friends to hang out with and it has improved my mood bunches.

[Bandito]

Solitude will only keep you stewing over the thoughts in your own mind. You need something to distract you.

 

Try joining meetup.com. You'll meet new people and that will help keep a new and positive energy around you. I joined and have found a new circle of friends to hang out with and it has improved my mood bunches.

 

i'll think about it. i have a bad attitude right now, i don't think new ppl would enjoy my company.

 

i'm content with being by myself for now, i just need to get away from everybody for a while.

[reddragon588]

i'll think about it. i have a bad attitude right now, i don't think new ppl would enjoy my company.

 

i'm content with being by myself for now, i just need to get away from everybody for a while.

 

That won't help you, you're just going to recycle the negative energy you're emitting right now. Even if you aren't positive now, being around others will eventually bring a positive attitude to you.

[reddragon588]

We're a two person Meetup spruiking team, lol :-)

 

Haha yeah. It's been really good for me. I have never been great at meeting people and finding ways to meet them. It has really boosted my confidence.

 

To OP, I was in a bad mood when I started going to Meetups, but like I said, the companionship has really improved my mood tons.

[Bandito]

how's it going bandito... Just wanted to ask you... when you're feeling down about your ex... is it usually all the time, or does it come in waves?

 

all the time..

[Bandito]

I'm sorry to hear that man. You need to think very carefully whether you want her back or not.

 

But as a word of advice from previous experience (i was in a similar position once too), and 99.9% of the time this is how it is... try not to appear 'weak' or that your 'begging'.

 

It might sound harsh, (maybe you already know this i'm not sure) but attraction for men and women works very differently. It's OK to be upset, but try not to show too much of that in front of her. You told her how you feel, and it took courage to do that, believe me... it's not easy when you think they might reject you/say no etc. But now, she knows how you feel - you've put the ball in her court basically.

 

I'm not sure about the nature of how your spoke to her (what you said etc), but when you're trying to get your ex back (if that's what you really want to do),there's a right way to do it and a wrong way to do it.

 

What I suggest you do is think carefully whether you want her back or not. If you do want her back, you got to go about it the right way. This website will help you get her back the correct way without making you look needy etc, IF that is what you want to do..

 

GetYourXBack.net | Make Them Want You Again...

 

If you decide you don't want her back, spend as much time with your friends as possible - don't look at things that will remind you of her - consider coming off facebook for a while if you need to etc... basically... do what you got to do. I actually knew of a really good website which specializes in getting over your ex but i cant find the link for it sorry bro. if i come across it i'll let you know. But you also got people in here for help.

 

But just whatever you do, don't keep chasing her/messaging her. You absolutely DON'T want to give her the impression that you NEED her. You told her how you feel - it takes a man to do that and if she has half a brain she will recognise it - but for now step back and be cool about it.

 

 

 

thanks for the wise words. is that website legit, or just another commercial to buy a BS product?

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

I'm sorry to hear that man. You need to think very carefully whether you want her back or not.

 

But as a word of advice from previous experience (i was in a similar position once too), and 99.9% of the time this is how it is... try not to appear 'weak' or that your 'begging'.

 

It might sound harsh, (maybe you already know this i'm not sure) but attraction for men and women works very differently. It's OK to be upset, but try not to show too much of that in front of her. You told her how you feel, and it took courage to do that, believe me... it's not easy when you think they might reject you/say no etc. But now, she knows how you feel - you've put the ball in her court basically.

 

I'm not sure about the nature of how your spoke to her (what you said etc), but when you're trying to get your ex back (if that's what you really want to do),there's a right way to do it and a wrong way to do it.

 

What I suggest you do is think carefully whether you want her back or not. If you do want her back, you got to go about it the right way. This website will help you get her back the correct way without making you look needy etc, IF that is what you want to do..

 

GetYourXBack.net | Make Them Want You Again...

 

If you decide you don't want her back, spend as much time with your friends as possible - don't look at things that will remind you of her - consider coming off facebook for a while if you need to etc... basically... do what you got to do. I actually knew of a really good website which specializes in getting over your ex but i cant find the link for it sorry bro. if i come across it i'll let you know. But you also got people in here for help.

 

But just whatever you do, don't keep chasing her/messaging her. You absolutely DON'T want to give her the impression that you NEED her. You told her how you feel - it takes a man to do that and if she has half a brain she will recognise it - but for now step back and be cool about it.

 

Hahaha are you kidding me?

[reddragon588]

thanks for the wise words. is that website legit, or just another commercial to buy a BS product?

 

It's a commercial for Text Your Ex Back, which is a book written to take advantage of vulnerable heartbroken people.

[Bandito]

It's a commercial for Text Your Ex Back, which is a book written to take advantage of vulnerable heartbroken people.

 

that's f*cked up, tricking ppl when their most desperate to get their ex back. you never see success stories from those types of programs.

[alex007]

Bandito everyone goes through breakups... I went through one that was really hard on me because I really liked this girl and she acted like and said she wanted to share her life with me and we were talking about future things like how many kids... what we will be doing in a few years... I thought she was the one. I was 99% sure we would be having kids within a few years and that this is who I was going to be with for the rest of my life.

 

Her family liked me a lot and I would do a lot for them. Shocking that a few days after telling me she loved me that she didn't want to date me anymore but still wanted to be friends. But you know what... It just was not meant to be... I can not force her to love me and want to be with me, and there is something better out there for me and it will not come instantly. Good things are worth waiting on. You will find someone again its just a waiting game... Just think.. most people in relationships are not happy and fight a lot... at least you don't have the bad parts of the relationship that a lot of people do.

 

By the way how are you doing? And emotionally how do you feel?