Teknoe Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 I always thought I was just a guy without luck... never saw myself as "undesireable." Felt like I have good qualities and can offer a bit to the opposite sex. Also feel like I got a pretty solid personality backed up witha good sense of humor, and while I'm no 8, 9 or 10 on the looks scale, I don't think I am by any means "ugly." Well, I went speed dating this past week and freaking a, I checked all 16 girls, and only had 1 match (1 girl who checked me back) and she wasn't even someone I was attracted to in the least. So, 1 for 16. Ouch. My ego and self-image admittedly has taken a hit. Am I destined to be the nice guy friend girls use for emotional support, but never anything more? As the years go on, I wonder more and more if maybe, just maybe, I'll be a bachelor for life. I at least thought I would get 2-3 more matches, so I'm feeling a little down right now Link to post Share on other sites
Polak Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Tek, chill out! This was ONE event. 16 girls is a grain of sand in the world's beaches... You could have gotten 0 matches and it shouldn't be a big deal. Those 16 girls aren't representative of the entire population of women that's left for you to date! Here's how I see it. You did well by actually going out and participating in the event. Props! Now that you know how it works, go try another time. Maybe in a different location. Go just for the hell of it (without a hopeful goal) and see if anything changes. There are bound to be more females that are compatible if you go several times. And of course, don't limit yourself to finding someone at an event like this, since not all girls go to them. It's way too early and unnecessary to think of yourself as a bachelor-for-life. Be persistent! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teknoe Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 Tek, chill out! This was ONE event. 16 girls is a grain of sand in the world's beaches... You could have gotten 0 matches and it shouldn't be a big deal. Those 16 girls aren't representative of the entire population of women that's left for you to date! Here's how I see it. You did well by actually going out and participating in the event. Props! Now that you know how it works, go try another time. Maybe in a different location. Go just for the hell of it (without a hopeful goal) and see if anything changes. There are bound to be more females that are compatible if you go several times. And of course, don't limit yourself to finding someone at an event like this, since not all girls go to them. It's way too early and unnecessary to think of yourself as a bachelor-for-life. Be persistent! Thanks Polak. Before I read this, I had your perspective in mind, but reading yours after only reinforces the point home, so THANK YOU. I agree, it was one event, and 16 ladies. On the bright side, the one girl that matched me was my one and only dance partner. At least she liked my moves enough, lol. But seriously, I had time to think about it, and the evening was VERY activity based. I much prefer small group "campfire sharing." I think I'm more of a talker anyway than a doer. And the activities they had... Hungry Hippos? Sorry, I don't see how you can get to know someone through Hungry Hippos compared to sharing through provocative icebreaker type questions! But yeah, brushing it off and dusting myself off. It's not a reflection on who I am as a person! I refuse to let it define me! Link to post Share on other sites
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