aybc123 Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Hi All, Broke up with my ex back in july who i was with for 2.5 years, did the whole stay friends thing for a while, she told me she had started to go on some casual dates with people again at the start of sept and i realised that i hadnt actually been moving on myself. Things got a little messy, i said i needed to take some time away from being friends to move on but that i was glad she was happy and that i hoped we could have a healthy friendship after I spent some time away and then somehow we ended up in a situation where shes refusing to talk to me/ not friends on fb etc. Anyway, I've just noticed that she has untagged herself from 2 photos of us together from one of my albums of one of our holidays, they were fairly romantic pictures and the only 2 in the album that were. That period of our relationship was also probably the best and that holiday in general for both of us had some very good memories. She has left herself tagged in all of the other photos in that album and in all the photos from my other albums, even ones that show us together. She also hasnt deleted or untagged herself/ me from any of her own photos so im not sure what is going on. She also never deleted herself from any of her /her 2 exes photos from when they were together (i was never bothered by that btw, i do the same, i think it's really sad that some people try to delete someone from their lives who was at one point a major focus of it) Anyway im just kind of confused, is she trying to hurt me (she has been successful if so)? do the photos hurt her/ she doesnt want to be able to go look at them? or does a new guy want the photos down? (she doesnt seem like the kind of person to capitulate to those kind of demands). From when we were together she knows that one of these photos in particular I'm very fond of so i dont know whether she's just trying to hurt me as she knows ill probably look at it now and again and notice. It makes me feel like it just meant nothing to her or shes embarassed to be seen with me now or something, it's a really ****ty feeling and i dont understand why someone would do something like that. All i want is for us to get along and be able to be ok, not close friends but still you know happy we met the person and had our time together kind of thing. But im really not into people trying to intentionally hurt me or acting like children, and i'm not sure what to do. She is currently living in another city for the next couple of weeks (has been there a couple of months whilst all this went down) but will be coming back relatively soon. I'd like to sort everything out still but she obviously doesnt want to talk to me by not picking up/ replying to texts i sent a month ago when this all happened. Any advice or insight wouldbe welcome. I have been semi successful in moving on from this btw, i actually do not feel bad about the breakup anymore and have started dating again myself but i still feel like i've lost a big part of my life with her basically pretending i dont exist. Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 my ex deleted his photos with me too the day after the dumped me.but left the ones with his previous gf (the one before me) which were taken mayve 2 or 3 years ago. I dont know why. it looks pretty bad. to make it weirder he still tried to talk to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author aybc123 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 my ex deleted his photos with me too the day after the dumped me.but left the ones with his previous gf (the one before me) which were taken mayve 2 or 3 years ago. I dont know why. it looks pretty bad. to make it weirder he still tried to talk to me. sounds like a similar situation except im getting NC'd too. I took a look on a friends facebook and shes left the rest of our photos, several of which its pretty obvious we're together, up there unhidden and still tagged it's just 2 photos, one of which she knows is my favourite of us and another of which i know she really liked. Maybe she just didnt want to look at them and upset herself/ be tempted to reply to me with her NC thing? She's probably on this bloody forum being advised to ignore me by you guys!! Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 My GF broke up with me last week and I unfriended her and deleted her photos from my Facebook page that night. Yeah, I was mad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 maybe they just deleted some recent ones and cant be bothered to go through all the photos to delete the old ones Link to post Share on other sites
hinatticus Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 You guys realise it's just fb right?!? Who gives a sh*t what anybody does on fb, especially an ex! Social media post break up causes more unwanted pain than ever before. Remove yourself from it or at the very least, don't give a sh*t what an ex does on fb. It's just freaking fb!! Seriously people, get a grip, better yet, don't give a sh*t what anybody does on fb. Anytime anybody posts something about fb I cringe. Maybe it's just me, but seriously, f*ck fb!!! Broken record anyone?!? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
supaflyz Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Mine did the same thing man. It got confusing a little at first too, but then it is just facebook. Perhaps you meant a lot more to her than her other exes so she was pretty angry about the breakup hence she deleted or untag your photos. Anyways it's not something you should worry about and waste your brain cells on. Link to post Share on other sites
Turnandcough Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Hi All, Broke up with my ex back in july who i was with for 2.5 years, did the whole stay friends thing for a while, she told me she had started to go on some casual dates with people again at the start of sept and i realised that i hadnt actually been moving on myself. Things got a little messy, i said i needed to take some time away from being friends to move on but that i was glad she was happy and that i hoped we could have a healthy friendship after I spent some time away and then somehow we ended up in a situation where shes refusing to talk to me/ not friends on fb etc. Anyway, I've just noticed that she has untagged herself from 2 photos of us together from one of my albums of one of our holidays, they were fairly romantic pictures and the only 2 in the album that were. That period of our relationship was also probably the best and that holiday in general for both of us had some very good memories. She has left herself tagged in all of the other photos in that album and in all the photos from my other albums, even ones that show us together. She also hasnt deleted or untagged herself/ me from any of her own photos so im not sure what is going on. She also never deleted herself from any of her /her 2 exes photos from when they were together (i was never bothered by that btw, i do the same, i think it's really sad that some people try to delete someone from their lives who was at one point a major focus of it) Anyway im just kind of confused, is she trying to hurt me (she has been successful if so)? do the photos hurt her/ she doesnt want to be able to go look at them? or does a new guy want the photos down? (she doesnt seem like the kind of person to capitulate to those kind of demands). From when we were together she knows that one of these photos in particular I'm very fond of so i dont know whether she's just trying to hurt me as she knows ill probably look at it now and again and notice. It makes me feel like it just meant nothing to her or shes embarassed to be seen with me now or something, it's a really ****ty feeling and i dont understand why someone would do something like that. All i want is for us to get along and be able to be ok, not close friends but still you know happy we met the person and had our time together kind of thing. But im really not into people trying to intentionally hurt me or acting like children, and i'm not sure what to do. She is currently living in another city for the next couple of weeks (has been there a couple of months whilst all this went down) but will be coming back relatively soon. I'd like to sort everything out still but she obviously doesnt want to talk to me by not picking up/ replying to texts i sent a month ago when this all happened. Any advice or insight wouldbe welcome. I have been semi successful in moving on from this btw, i actually do not feel bad about the breakup anymore and have started dating again myself but i still feel like i've lost a big part of my life with her basically pretending i dont exist. Dude no matter if your the dumper/dumper you both try to move on after the BU! You think she wants all the other single people in the world to see he photo and be like.... OHhhh so your in a relationship? No your not so I would expect her to delete them! Stop over analyzing and holding on to her shirt tail and stand up and walk the other way. One day she will realize your not a weight on her anymore! Sometimes that hit people so hard and they are so scared to be alone they will sprint back! Maybe she will find another dude!? Who knows the point is you have no more claim on her. Walk your life path. Nothing is more attractive tho a girl than a guy that has an established plan that is going to happen with or without that girl. It makes them feel safe and like they are apart of something bigger than themselves. It's the chase. Stop following her path! Link to post Share on other sites
Author aybc123 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Share Posted October 4, 2013 (edited) Dude no matter if your the dumper/dumper you both try to move on after the BU! You think she wants all the other single people in the world to see he photo and be like.... OHhhh so your in a relationship? No your not so I would expect her to delete them! Stop over analyzing and holding on to her shirt tail and stand up and walk the other way. One day she will realize your not a weight on her anymore! Sometimes that hit people so hard and they are so scared to be alone they will sprint back! Maybe she will find another dude!? Who knows the point is you have no more claim on her. Walk your life path. Nothing is more attractive tho a girl than a guy that has an established plan that is going to happen with or without that girl. It makes them feel safe and like they are apart of something bigger than themselves. It's the chase. Stop following her path! She hasnt deleted most of them showing us in situations only couples would be in, nor any from her previous relationships, just two that were special to both of us so it isnt just not wanting people to think shes in a relationship. They are also not recent photos. Also i am most definitely moving on, like i said i have 2 dates this weekend and i haven't contacted her since we fell out a month ago, im just upset that we parted on bad terms and confused why she would bother to delete two old photos out of literally hundreds of us. So whilst I appreciate the advice and agree with you im not sure it really applies (or it does apply but im already doing it). Edited October 4, 2013 by aybc123 Link to post Share on other sites
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