Dez Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 as the title says, my ex told me she's 'moving on.' does this necessarily mean dating someone new or just does it mean she's done with the our relationship. i was always confused by this saying. Link to post Share on other sites
sniperz Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 as the title says, my ex told me she's 'moving on.' does this necessarily mean dating someone new or just does it mean she's done with the our relationship. i was always confused by this saying. Possibilities... 1. Staying away from this relationship that didn't work and may need TIME to heal. 2. Finding another person takes time or unless some ego boost or rebound which will probably fail her. 3. She just wants to be alone because she loves you much and is hurt. She needs to stay away from relationship again for the time being 4. She hopes you may change in future and might consider. But not now where the breakups just happened and it's gonna hurt her much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 Means she is done. There really isnt many ways to misconstrue this. Done with the relationship and moving forward. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 I don't know, my ex told me he was moving on, but recently told me he just said that because he was struggling. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 as the title says, my ex told me she's 'moving on.' does this necessarily mean dating someone new or just does it mean she's done with the our relationship. i was always confused by this saying. the above posters have valid points in my opinion , it depends though too i guess, on the amount of time you were together,how enmeshed in each others lives you were, how long that moving on period is,the closer you were the longer it takes.....as far as the poster who said rebounds will fail not necessarily...i rebounded straight into a fifteen year relationship.....then it did fail...lol....ok didnt support my point....but it isnt uncommon for women who say they are moving on to move on to someone else mor esuitable or compatible or to date others in other words......depends on the break up, the time ,the reason for the split, and how close you guys were i guess...moving on can mean many things.......deb Link to post Share on other sites
sniperz Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 the above posters have valid points in my opinion , it depends though too i guess, on the amount of time you were together,how enmeshed in each others lives you were, how long that moving on period is,the closer you were the longer it takes.....as far as the poster who said rebounds will fail not necessarily...i rebounded straight into a fifteen year relationship.....then it did fail...lol....ok didnt support my point....but it isnt uncommon for women who say they are moving on to move on to someone else mor esuitable or compatible or to date others in other words......depends on the break up, the time ,the reason for the split, and how close you guys were i guess...moving on can mean many things.......deb Cause the word rebound just brings in tiny wee bit of guilt to me. If you really want a proper relationship, then at least your not finding your EX in real to really go on without cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 moving on is giving up hope for any reconciliation. That means cutting you off from your life completely and living her life as a single woman. Including flirting, dating, sleeping with other people. If she's a more sensitive person, it means that emotionally she does not think about you, she has no hope of reconciliation, it means she is doing all she can you get over you and leave you in the past - from her feelings to her actions. People who have moved on don't tell their exes that they are moving on, though .They shut up, go NC and mind their own business, because it is a full time job. So it may be one final scream for attention. If you want to get her back, I wouldn't wait much further. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Never Again Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 moving on is giving up hope for any reconciliation. That means cutting you off from your life completely and living her life as a single woman. Including flirting, dating, sleeping with other people. If she's a more sensitive person, it means that emotionally she does not think about you, she has no hope of reconciliation, it means she is doing all she can you get over you and leave you in the past - from her feelings to her actions. People who have moved on don't tell their exes that they are moving on, though .They shut up, go NC and mind their own business, because it is a full time job. So it may be one final scream for attention. If you want to get her back, I wouldn't wait much further. For the sake of argument, saying this is true and she isn't REALLY "moving on"...her saying that could be a good thing. Honestly, in those rare instances when people DO come back together...it's because they've BOTH moved on. You need to. You both need to move past whatever caused the split and the pain of the breakup. You need to do this no matter what. There are no downsides. If you move on: - You can get back together in a NEW relationship free of the problems of the old. Or, - You find someone new. If you don't move on: - You stay in pain over something that will never come back Or, - You get back together, in the SAME type of relationship you had before...and the same problems come back and you break up again. The only solution, honestly, is to move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LostOne1 Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 from my experience.. when she says she wants you to MOVE on... it means she found someone else and she has no need for you now. I finally after 1 year understand why my ex used to tell me to move on. She would always say move on I want you to move on with your life and find someone. It was because she had found someone else and she was with him. So in that sense she doesn't need me now. I won't say it means you are in the same boat. But there is a good chance you are. Regardless it basically means game over.... play a new game! Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 oh, if your partner tells you to move on, then that is indeed bad news. Most likely she did, in all the senses of the term Link to post Share on other sites
cristy Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 as the title says, my ex told me she's 'moving on.' does this necessarily mean dating someone new or just does it mean she's done with the our relationship. i was always confused by this saying. Doesn't necessarily mean anything. Words can be tricky. I told my ex I was ok with his decision and that I considered this an opportunity to focus on myself and my projects, meet new people blah blah blah None of it was actually true. I just wanted to act mature and cold because I thought it was the best thing to do. But I miss him every single day since we broke up and I still have feelings for him. Bottom line is: you never know what the other person is really feeling or thinking. Sometimes they dont even know themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dez Posted October 4, 2013 Author Share Posted October 4, 2013 another thing, she said we can't be in each others lives anymore. i don't agree with this because i at least want to be friends, but she insists on cutting me off. Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 You are in utter denial and focusing on the mundane allowing your brain to play tricks on you. She means what she says and she says what she means, there isn't anything further to analyze or dissect here. It's a though one to swallow trust me I fully understand. You are making yourself crazy over this, just don't and as cliché as it may sound you need to simply snap out of it. Don't continue to torture yourself trying to find an answer that will be most suitable for you. There are certain things in life that we just need to gracefully accept, learn from and move forward with our lives. And clearly this is one of those times. I know the feeling trust me. I wanted answers, I demanded answer and got absolutely nothing in return, then I wanted to come up with my own answers and conclusions which lead to more and more pain. Only YOU can put an end to this vicious cycle, only you my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 (edited) another thing, she said we can't be in each others lives anymore. i don't agree with this because i at least want to be friends, but she insists on cutting me off. Dude!!! This is great news. Now you can go NC and dont have to worry about breadcrumbs! She is doing you a huuuge favor. IT IS PURE NC TIME! wooo hooo! time to man up. Just assume she is getting banged by everyone and is soon to be pregnant and married. Kill all hope now!!! Hope will destroy your recovery. Cry for days if necessary ..do whatever but accept that this thing is OVER. Sorry for your loss. Rock on! Cav Edited October 4, 2013 by cavalier99 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 Dude!!! This is great news. Now you can go NC and dont have to worry about breadcrumbs! She is doing you a huuuge favor. IT IS PURE NC TIME! wooo hooo! time to man up. Just assume she is getting banged by everyone and is soon to be pregnant and married. Kill all hope now!!! Hope will destroy your recovery. Cry for days if necessary ..do whatever but accept that this thing is OVER. Sorry for your loss. Rock on! Cav Though love, I dig. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 Though love, I dig. Thanks...Just keeping it real!! lol Link to post Share on other sites
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