love or no love Posted January 11, 2001 Share Posted January 11, 2001 My e-boy friend and I we going out for almost a year and just recently we broke up. He says that he still wants to be friends with me and that he still cares about me. We still hang out like everyday and we were still having sex up untill yesterday, (which was okay because if we aren't going out we don't need to have sex) but any other time when i have broke up with a guy we never stayed friends and hung out like we were when we were going out. Well I was going to this party and some guy went down on me, for like 2 min and he found out, not that I was hiding it from him but I knew it was a big mistake and that is why I stopped it. Well now I mean we still do everything like we are going out its just with out the title. he says that he just doesn't want to be in a relationship right now which i don't understand, but I deal with it because I respect his decisions. Well now everytime I go out with someone and he is like who were you out with, he always makes the comment that he doesn't care as long as it isn't that one guy that I met at the party!(the one that went down on me) It is so hard to decide whether I just stick out this hard spot hoping that we will get back together, I mean it wouldn't be wasted time because I love him to death and I love to spend time with him....I just keep getting this vibes that he likes me and that he wants to be with me and then the next day it will be something totally different...do you think that he is using me untill he finds someone to replace me? Please help and give me some imput I am so confused and frustated because I do care and Love him!! Love or NOT LOVED??? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 11, 2001 Share Posted January 11, 2001 The guy broke up with you. People break up with other people because they don't want to pursue a relationship. He has absolutely no right to tell you who to date or who not to date and he has no right whatsoever to the details of your life that are none of his business. I am firmly against these vacation from relationship deals where people need "space"...DUH...whatever that is. Then the one who doesn't needs space just waits around, duh, duh, duh, until the other one is ready...duh, duh, duh. You are wasting your time. If he truly cared for you in a special way, he wouldn't have broken up with you. And, yes, I think he is enjoying your companionship until someone comes along who he is interested in. That used to happen to me ALL THE TIME. I even have the T-Shirt. Continue to be friends with him, if you like, but be firm and let him know he is NOT going to run your life. If he wants that right, tell him you'll sign a contract for a payment of $200,000 a year for one year at a time. If he doesn't have the cash, he should keep his mouth shut. From a romance standpoint, you are wasting your time with this dude. Why would you want to wait around for a guy who has already broken up with you? He had his chance and walked. You are a really sweet lady and you deserve a guy who wants to be with you and be your one and only. Let me also tell you, it may be very difficult to find someone else if this guy is around you all the time. What it really sounds like is that he doesn't want to be your man...but he doesn't want you to have anyone else either. Tell him I said to kiss off!!! Link to post Share on other sites
love or no love Posted January 11, 2001 Share Posted January 11, 2001 Well, I broke up with him over making a rash overreaction to him not telling me that he was staying late to where he was at. I was waiting at his house to give him a ride home from work and he said that it took longer to close...which i was guess was fine and I know that I made the wrong decision as soon as it had come out of my mouth. The thing is if he is hang out with me all the time and then the only time that he is by himself is when he is working or when I am at school or at work too. I just feel like he does care but then again, I just want to so bad tell him to go blow himself. Should I not call him for like a week or two and blow him off when he calls to say that if he isn't going to give me the time of day then I am moving on with my life? And then if he does give a crap he will come around or just go on his way with his life! Love or NOT loved Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 11, 2001 Share Posted January 11, 2001 If you feel you made a mistake in breaking up with him, you should tell him and tell him now. If you are going to blow him off, do it now and don't wait. Why put yourself through a lot of crap. You are learning that actions have consequences. So YOU broke up with him. That sent him a message that he isn't very secure with you. If you want him back, you need to explain that you feel you made a serious mistake, apologize, and ask him if things can go back to the way they were...if that's what you want. Also, let him know you don't appreciate how he's been treating you...although it's perfectly understandable considering that you broke up with him. If you don't want to get back with him, stop this friendship thing. Just go on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
kelli Posted January 11, 2001 Share Posted January 11, 2001 Um when you love someone to death, you don't let other guys peform oral sex on you at parties. duh. i have a feeling you dont have a clue about true love. fooling around sexually with guys at parties makes you look easy and cheap. if your ex doesnt want to go out anymore then leave him alone. and keep your pants on. My e-boy friend and I we going out for almost a year and just recently we broke up. He says that he still wants to be friends with me and that he still cares about me. We still hang out like everyday and we were still having sex up untill yesterday, (which was okay because if we aren't going out we don't need to have sex) but any other time when i have broke up with a guy we never stayed friends and hung out like we were when we were going out. Well I was going to this party and some guy went down on me, for like 2 min and he found out, not that I was hiding it from him but I knew it was a big mistake and that is why I stopped it. Well now I mean we still do everything like we are going out its just with out the title. he says that he just doesn't want to be in a relationship right now which i don't understand, but I deal with it because I respect his decisions. Well now everytime I go out with someone and he is like who were you out with, he always makes the comment that he doesn't care as long as it isn't that one guy that I met at the party!(the one that went down on me) It is so hard to decide whether I just stick out this hard spot hoping that we will get back together, I mean it wouldn't be wasted time because I love him to death and I love to spend time with him....I just keep getting this vibes that he likes me and that he wants to be with me and then the next day it will be something totally different...do you think that he is using me untill he finds someone to replace me? Please help and give me some imput I am so confused and frustated because I do care and Love him!! Love or NOT LOVED??? Link to post Share on other sites
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