soccerrprp Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 It gets worse. Some men ARE the golddiggers these days. True story. Shocking , but even more shocking is that we're shocked when we hear these sorts of stories, because we've been told time and again that "women are the golddiggers." I hear about guys who are unemployed or under-employed camping themselves on the couch of their gf as often as I hear about young ladies looking for the guy with the six figures. As more women have become more financially independent, the "gold digger" reference is hardly exclusive to women anymore. Times have changed! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 So how would you tell someone that? "Hey, I'm just texting you to ask you to text me less, because it's bothering me"? Oh well, bluntness is not my forte, I suppose .lol. I will try it in the future, if I face a situation like that again. Here's an idea: "[insert bf name here], I want to let you know that I really appreciate the texts from you, but please don't be upset if I don't respond to many of them. I'm just not that into texting and I can get pretty busy at times. I don't want you to be frustrated with that. Okay?" Or tell the new interest that you are not really into texting on the first date and that will give the poor guy an idea of what and how frequent the use of texting as a means of communication should be expected. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
robbysurfs Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 My experience with this is i have been dating 2 women. One girl i have had some dates with i like. I txt her she has txted me i know she is interested so i am definetly gonna put in some work for it. The other however doesnt txt me ever i always initiate and really i could take it or leave it. We have been on 2 dates and they were both good. She doesnt initiate any contact and is sorta aloof that is my impression of her. I am not gonna waste my time on someone that doesnt know what they want, I get that impression from her. Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 My experience with this is i have been dating 2 women. One girl i have had some dates with i like. I txt her she has txted me i know she is interested so i am definetly gonna put in some work for it. The other however doesnt txt me ever i always initiate and really i could take it or leave it. We have been on 2 dates and they were both good. She doesnt initiate any contact and is sorta aloof that is my impression of her. I am not gonna waste my time on someone that doesnt know what they want, I get that impression from her. robbysurfs, what if the second woman initiates on occasion? less frequently than the first, but does initiate at times. Would you continue viewing the second woman as being "less" interested w/o regard to the possibility that she may have a different communication style or need? Link to post Share on other sites
Author missmiss123 Posted October 6, 2013 Author Share Posted October 6, 2013 I do believe that the initial stages of dating, the man should be pursuing the woman with texts/calls/dates etc. The woman can initiate here and there, depending on how much he initiates first. Because after all, you do really want to be with a guy who has you on their mind right? Doesn't need to be 20 texts a day, but I'm just saying even one text a day is enough. Link to post Share on other sites
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