Author nasc88 Posted October 24, 2013 Author Share Posted October 24, 2013 It's been about 2 months for me...I can't believe these feelings are still this strong. I am just heartbroken and missing him so much. I want to email him so badly and just say hello. I know in the long run it wouldn't help but I am STRUGGLING today. Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 I'm sorry you're hurting, OP. Would it help to vent in the "Post here instead of contacting your ex" thread in the Coping section here? Sometimes just writing out your feelings to the ex, but not sending them, can be a relief/release. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/117844-post-here-instead-contacting-your-ex Sending good thoughts, M. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 It's been about 2 months for me...I can't believe these feelings are still this strong. I am just heartbroken and missing him so much. I want to email him so badly and just say hello. I know in the long run it wouldn't help but I am STRUGGLING today. The two-month mark is tough -- probably the toughest mark after the first few days. Gotta ride it out, it will get better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nasc88 Posted October 25, 2013 Author Share Posted October 25, 2013 Thank you for your post. I just want to move on and feel better and I can't. I'm so hung up on him and hoping he will change his mind. I don't know how to undo those thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 Thank you for your post. I just want to move on and feel better and I can't. I'm so hung up on him and hoping he will change his mind. I don't know how to undo those thoughts. In order to really be able to move on you have to let go of hope. You have to stop thinking about how he'll change his mind. I guess this is the hardest step? My advice is to start focusing on yourself, think about you only, not him. There's no "us" you know you and him. I think you're doing all the right things just start letting go of hope and you'll be over him soon! Link to post Share on other sites
Author nasc88 Posted October 25, 2013 Author Share Posted October 25, 2013 I think you're doing all the right things just start letting go of hope and you'll be over him soon! How do you do this? How do you give up hope? Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 I think you're doing all the right things just start letting go of hope and you'll be over him soon! How do you do this? How do you give up hope? Telling yourself that it is really over, that he's not coming back, that he won't change his mind. You really really have to understand and accept this, no more wondering when he'll change his mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nasc88 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 I just don't know how to believe it...it's terrible and eating away at me. I think about him all the time and wonder what he is up to. I know it is unhealthy and I won't be able to move on until I move past him but I just can't stop. It's like an unhealthy nonstop loop in my head... Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 I just don't know how to believe it...it's terrible and eating away at me. I think about him all the time and wonder what he is up to. I know it is unhealthy and I won't be able to move on until I move past him but I just can't stop. It's like an unhealthy nonstop loop in my head... Welcome to the club! That used to happen to me, well it still happens every now and then... I used dream about him all night. Thank goodness that has changed. Time, time, let time do its thing. Don't be too hard on yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
lylat333 Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 I just don't know how to believe it...it's terrible and eating away at me. I think about him all the time and wonder what he is up to. I know it is unhealthy and I won't be able to move on until I move past him but I just can't stop. It's like an unhealthy nonstop loop in my head... I was there too, for a long time, so don't worry you are NOT alone. Now I don't wonder so much about what she's doing, I've been able to pretty much let that go. Now it's more about how she feels towards me and the relationship we had. She makes me feel like it meant nothing, it was something she could drop overnight without a second thought, and that's something my brain cannot wrap itself around or bring itself to accept. But, today I was thinking about how it's almost a blessing I'll never have to deal with regret towards the breakup. I can move on with a clean conscience, whereas the dumper runs the risk of regretting it someday whether it's months, or even years down the line - but perhaps never. I've been doing the hard work of confronting all the emotions head on. Link to post Share on other sites
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