are we over for good or is he just lost at the moment?

[the_opposite_sex]

we've been split out for about 3-4 mts now, after 3.5 yrs together. Since then, we've done stuff like hold hands, kiss, hug, etc. We fought alot in our relationship b/c i was so jealous and other such problems, but now when we talk, we get along great! We have soo much fun together!! So i mean, i dont know whats goin on. Is this just something where i'll have to just wait n see? A g/f of mine said that he's "watching" me, to see if i'm still jealous and unhappy like i was. In other words, he's "testing the water to see if its safe to come back in", is how she put it. This is a very long story short, so im sorry if im not goin completely in depth here....but goin by what i've said, i'd appreciate as much help as you can give me. Just to let ya know, i'm happy and i'm goin about my life in a positive way. I'm not necessarily waiting on him, but i still love him and wouldn't mind being w/ him lol Since we broke up, he's told me that he's scared...and i asked him of what, and he said everything. So i'm lettin him figure things out for himself. He's been drinking alot more too since we split up and that kinda scares me.

[Barby]

I'm soooooo sorry to hear that you two broke up, I remember some of your other posts, I'm sooo sorry and I hope that either you two can work it out or maybe it happened for a reason. Jealousy is an ugly ugly thing that makes people act very unattractive (i broke up with my now ex bf over it then we got back together and broke up again) but anyway it isn't something people like having to deal with.

 

I say use this time of being seperated to work on your self esteem and figure out exactly why it is that you continue to feel jealous and feel that you're not enough (another words you may feel that since you're not enough he needs to look else where).

 

It's hard but maybe focusing more on you and less on him will help you heal and in the end it may help you heal your relationship with him.