Proto Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 Well my girlfriend and I are of course in an LDR and it's been 5 months so far of pure awesomeness. Well I'm flying to see my mom for christmas on the 18th and while I was out there I also wanted to fly out to see my gf on the 29th and stay there through Jan. 5th, so that we could have a blast with each other for New Years. Well it turns out that I may not be able to come out there because plane tickets for that week are $400!! Now I've tried everything possibly imaginable to get out there. Flying into a closer airport, taking a train, flying into Vancouver (BC) and taking a train down from there, even asking my dad for help, and I couldn't come up with anything. So I tell my gf that I may not be able to come out there and she's just like "ok". And that's it. And then a day later I told her that I probably won't be able to come out there and she's still like"ok". No signs of sadness, letdown, or anything like that at all. Like I said in the post title I hope I'm not overanalyzing the situation but it just seems to me like I cared a lot more about coming out to see her than she cared about seeing me. I've seen her once a month every month we've been going out and we live 2 hours apart by plane (I'm in Denver, and she's in Salem, OR). I feel a little hurt by this because I would've thought that she would've seemed much more upset that I'm not coming out to see her than this, after all the work I've been putting in trying to find a solution. So I ask the question, should I tell my gf about how I'm feeling, or am I just really overreacting to this and brush it off? I don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill, know what I'm sayin? Link to post Share on other sites
mewbomb Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 hey i read your post i felt the need to reply... Ive been in the same situation.. where it seems that the GF doesn't want or seem caring AT ALL! well.. most likely man.. she doesn't!! Its unfortunate the games these girls play, it really is!! My advice ( as if u asked) is to stay away.. act the same dumb way she does when she calls... try not to break down!! ( like i did!) i made that mistake and it makes things ten times worse... U can be straight up and ask... most likely she will lie... U may be paranoid, u may not be! regardless... u have these feeling and they are they for a reason.. its your body telling u to TAKE A GOOD LOOK! LDR's dont really last... ive been there too... feel free to message me if you like.. .i have a STRANGE feeling i will be on a while! My post will be here somewhere about the hell im going through now! Ive had another few posts about my relationships a few years back.. they are still on here...one of the posts... WAS THE WORLDS LONGEST POST!! hahaha... take care... stay strong and good luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Proto Posted December 2, 2004 Author Share Posted December 2, 2004 Originally posted by mewbomb hey i read your post i felt the need to reply... Ive been in the same situation.. where it seems that the GF doesn't want or seem caring AT ALL! well.. most likely man.. she doesn't!! Its unfortunate the games these girls play, it really is!! My advice ( as if u asked) is to stay away.. act the same dumb way she does when she calls... try not to break down!! ( like i did!) i made that mistake and it makes things ten times worse... U can be straight up and ask... most likely she will lie... U may be paranoid, u may not be! regardless... u have these feeling and they are they for a reason.. its your body telling u to TAKE A GOOD LOOK! LDR's dont really last... ive been there too... feel free to message me if you like.. .i have a STRANGE feeling i will be on a while! My post will be here somewhere about the hell im going through now! Ive had another few posts about my relationships a few years back.. they are still on here...one of the posts... WAS THE WORLDS LONGEST POST!! hahaha... take care... stay strong and good luck!!! UPDATE: Well, I decided yesterday to bring up New Year's but I asked her what her plans were gonna be, just to see how she would respond: Me: "Well babe what are you gonna do for New Year's?" Kayla: "Hang out with Nancy I guess (her friend)" Me: "I'm sure you two will have a blast!" Kayla: "Not really" Me: "Huh? Why not?" Kayla: "Because you won't be here with me" Me: "I know babe and I'm sorry but I know you'll have fun without me..I wish I could be there too." Kayla: "I may have a little fun but it won't be anywhere near as fun as I would've had with you here to party with me" Sooo.....I think I'm in the clear now! After she said that then I didn't even bring up what I was thinking earlier because I realized that she really is sad that I won't be coming to see her. On top of that, she took Feb. 11,12,13,AND 14 off from work, so I'm flying her out here to Denver so we can spend Valentine's together! On top of the fact that I'm planning on flying out there after New Year's in January too before spring semester starts! Everything is all good now, thanks for listening though! Link to post Share on other sites
mewbomb Posted December 6, 2004 Share Posted December 6, 2004 in the clear is good! wel.. personally.. .those LDR's... nahh.. take care man Link to post Share on other sites
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