anomynon Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 I don't seem to have a problem finding guys who are interested but I have no idea how to KEEP them interested. It seems like I have a good conversation/date whatever maybe once or twice and after that... nothing. Or I get along great with someone... we have sex... and then its awkward? I know all these couples that get like... lovestruck after sex. After the first time they're both just looking at each other with THAT LOOK. That never happens to me. They just... keep their distance or conversation just dies away. It has to be me I guess. I'd like to think it's not the sex because I've had FWB and long term relationships and they have nothing but good to say but now I'm trying to find someone new and it's just been... discouraging. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sum12Luv Posted October 5, 2013 Share Posted October 5, 2013 Have you ever asked the guys what's wrong or what you can do to help change the dynamic? Have you ever "started over" and did something to mix it up(park dates,etc)? Do you hold out the sex until you know them a little better? Such as,their middle names at least,fears,dislikes, family,etc? Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted October 6, 2013 Share Posted October 6, 2013 Focus on common interests. Do a lot of the things he likes to do. If you're one of those pleasure-centered people, rethink the things that are "fun" to you. I say this because my idea of fun is very different from things most women would think of as fun. Link to post Share on other sites
tenspoons Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 I can relate to you. I seem to have great charm and blessed with the extra something to drive women insane, but after a date or 2 and a few nights under the covers, it fades away like a disinterested child. It's almost as if my face personality is fantastic, but when they stick around for a bit they realize I'm a quiet and somewhat reserved individual which leads them to wonder away without a word. It never fails either, I have never had a real girlfriend in my entire 21 years, just flings here and there. It's very frustrating because all I want is to be with and love someone. I know there is a lot of BS that comes with that, but I just want someone to call mine, and to be someone's man. Not in a desperate way, but genuinely together with someone mutually attracted. is that too much to ask these days? It's silly because I know plenty of men that would have the time of their life and would call me lucky for what I can get women to do without getting attached, but that is not my nature. I can't deal with one night stands or meaningless meet ups. it just doesn't do it for me. The only thing I have learned so far is to let the person know what your intentions are straight up. It has not worked for me yet, but it weeds out the individuals that don't want anything more than friendship or just sex. that saves time and frustration in the long run. Good Luck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 I can relate to you. I seem to have great charm and blessed with the extra something to drive women insane, but after a date or 2 and a few nights under the covers, it fades away like a disinterested child. It's almost as if my face personality is fantastic, but when they stick around for a bit they realize I'm a quiet and somewhat reserved individual which leads them to wonder away without a word. It never fails either, I have never had a real girlfriend in my entire 21 years, just flings here and there. It's very frustrating because all I want is to be with and love someone. I know there is a lot of BS that comes with that, but I just want someone to call mine, and to be someone's man. Not in a desperate way, but genuinely together with someone mutually attracted. is that too much to ask these days? It's silly because I know plenty of men that would have the time of their life and would call me lucky for what I can get women to do without getting attached, but that is not my nature. I can't deal with one night stands or meaningless meet ups. it just doesn't do it for me. The only thing I have learned so far is to let the person know what your intentions are straight up. It has not worked for me yet, but it weeds out the individuals that don't want anything more than friendship or just sex. that saves time and frustration in the long run. Good Luck You're normal. After awhile when you figure yourself out and what you want from life then relationships will make more sense. Same for the OP, it seems like she's going for attraction but doesn't really know what she wants or where she wants it to go. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 Trust is the difference. You probably behave in a way that no guy in their right mind would trust. Link to post Share on other sites
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