Feeling After a Date Party

[snowman4839]

I'm in a fraternity and I usually enjoy our normal parties but I get kinda nervous when we have date parties and usually don't go. I only went to one freshman year and didn't have a date. They basically kinda just dragged me to it. I just ended up drinking a lot and pissing off a few of my brothers so I didn't have a good track record.

 

But this year, I decided to be a little more active. We had a date party that was supposed to be last week that I just planned on going alone but it got rescheduled to a week later. I ended up helping a girl with her sorority event and she was pretty so I asked her if she wanted to go. She said yes. She had that sorority event that night but that got replaced because they rescheduled her intramural game. She said she would rush home after and get ready (I half expected her to cancel after she told me they rescheduled the game). But I went and picked her up after she was ready, and I cooked her dinner, we watched some game of thrones while we ate, and went to the party. We danced, played cornhole, and listened to the band. She only stayed for like an hour or two and didn't drink because she had to drive home the next morning pretty early for a family friend's funeral. So I called up the DD and rode with her home but went back to the party afterwards.

 

Now here's the thing. That was the first date party I had ever brought a girl to. I actually ended up enjoying the praise from a bunch of brothers for bringing a hot date than actually spending time with her.

I don't understand parties like that. It seems like the whole purpose is a grudge match on who can get the hottest girl. Why would people subject themselves to that? I mean I wouldn't rather brought a 6 that I thought was cool than the 9 I brought that was hard to talk to. But then again I'd rather just hang out with the 6 than take her to a party like that.

And after that party, I just felt kinda bad. The happiness of getting a pretty girl to come with me faded pretty quick.

I just keep coming back to the question if she even had fun or if she was being polite. Then that makes me wonder if I should keep trying to talk to her or just let it go?

 

And the last thing is how do people choose girls like that? I mean I've just waited until I found a girl I thought was cool and pretty enough and that got me one girl last year who I actually liked spending time with for a couple months. I mean pretty girls like my date are a dime a dozen. How do "players" waste their time with beautiful girls who have the personality of a door? To find a girlfriend, do people just date whoever they are somewhat attracted to and figure out their personality compatibility from there?

[FitChick]

No harm in hanging out with her to see if her interest grows. If not, let other women know you dated her in a subtle, not boasting, type of way. Your dating value in the eyes of other women will go up if they know you dated someone that hot. "He must be a special guy."

[snowman4839]

I've been mulling it over for the last 5 days and I tried to talk to her today but it ended up feeling like such a chore to talk with her. I tried asking her if she wanted to come over and play guitar more since she had the night of the date party but I was too busy cooking dinner for us to really enjoy it. I mentioned that it was awesome that she could play and said she should come by this weekend. She just said she was going home this weekend again (which was the reason she had to leave the party early last week). She didn't really offer any alternatives days we could do it.

 

Who knows if it's a legitimate excuse but I just took it as she wasn't interested and I'm kinda relieved because I had it built up in my head that I was the one with problem making it hard to converse but I just don't think we clicked at all.

 

Would she have gone to a date party with me if she wasn't interested? That was something I had been wondering.