FriedRice Posted October 6, 2013 Share Posted October 6, 2013 (edited) Well its been 6 weeks since the break up of my 2.5 years relationship with my ex girlfriend. She said she wanted to be close friends, but i realized that it was bull**** and she only said it to lighten her guilt i guess. Met up with her last Saturday to return her stuff back and we grabbed dinner together. She acted very cold towards me on that Saturday and act as if she didn't want to be there at all and wanted to go home right after we had dinner. i didnt force her to have dinner with me, she came up with the suggestion to grab dinner when I texted her to ask her if i could drop her stuff off at her house. at the end of dinner, i gave her a hug and told her that i still love her and that i will always be there for her. if shes okay then i will be okay because i know she will be happy. then i gave her a slick cheek kiss when i pulled away from the hug, which was probably a bad idea. Anyway, after last Saturday, i decided to delete her out of my life until today, where i had a lecture at work and she happened to be there also...There weren't many seats left, but stupid me decided to sit in the empty seat next to her instead. The lecture lasted for 4 hours and during those 4 hours, she didnt say a single word to me, nor did she look at me at all. I said hi to her when i first sat down, but i didnt hear a respond from her(maybe she said it too soft and i couldnt hear it or something). She completely ignored me the whole time. i knew that she didnt want anything to do with me, so when the lecture ended, i got up and just left with my co worker without saying goodbye to her...She has been hanging out with a lot of her guy friends, but i am not sure if there's any relationship going on between any of them with her. Not really quite sure what is going through her mind. Should i give her a call and ask her whats going on or should i just ignore it and move on? Most of my friends told me to just move on since it doesnt really matter anymore. what do you guys think? Any help would be great! Edited October 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted October 6, 2013 Share Posted October 6, 2013 Read the No Contact Guide in my signature. You really need it. And you really need to DO it, too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted October 6, 2013 Share Posted October 6, 2013 Big mistake sitting next to her, even bigger mistake caring what she thinks. I know how extremely difficult it is, trust me. Block/delete/erase! Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted October 6, 2013 Share Posted October 6, 2013 Move on. You are NOT ready to be "friends" yet and she doesn't seem interested in that anyway. Forget her. You don't go from dating for 2.5 yrs to friends over night. You need a lot of NC before there is even a chance of being friends. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mikei880 Posted October 6, 2013 Share Posted October 6, 2013 Its her life and she'll act how she wants within it. You have that option too. You two broke up. Its over. Do not look to her for validation, you are not going to get it. Be polite but back away. Once all your stuff is separated just do NC. You don't owe her anything and vice versa.move on, find a way........ Link to post Share on other sites
Bandito Posted October 6, 2013 Share Posted October 6, 2013 your story sounds exactly like mines. said she still wanted to be friends. i had dinner and a movie with my ex, she hardly said a word. mutual friends had a get together, she sat next to me, but gave the cold shoulder the whole time. i told her i can never be "friends" with her because it would be too hard, she began to cry, and agreed. i realized i made a mistake though. here i am now, and my ex cut me off completely, and hates my guts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FriedRice Posted October 6, 2013 Author Share Posted October 6, 2013 your story sounds exactly like mines. said she still wanted to be friends. i had dinner and a movie with my ex, she hardly said a word. mutual friends had a get together, she sat next to me, but gave the cold shoulder the whole time. i told her i can never be "friends" with her because it would be too hard, she began to cry, and agreed. i realized i made a mistake though. here i am now, and my ex cut me off completely, and hates my guts. yeah its really hard to tell whats on their mind. Sometimes i just want to call her and ask what is going on, but i feel like that will just be a waste of my time as i probably wont even get an aswer to it and she will probably lie about it. its best if we just ignore it and move on, even though we really want the answer to why they have been acting like it. I guess they probably know that we still have feelings for them and theoy dont want to show any mix signals...just sucks that after all these years of being together, suddenly my existence doesnt exist to her anymore... Link to post Share on other sites
Author FriedRice Posted October 6, 2013 Author Share Posted October 6, 2013 yeah i will leave her alone from now on...there is nothing that i can do anymore, since the only person that can change her feelings is herself. she had intentions for giving me the cold shoulder and i probably know the answer to it. i guess she just wants me out of her life right now, and i should respect her decision and remove myself from her life... Link to post Share on other sites
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