My Girlfriend left because we fought to much in the past month

[lonley man]

Hi, my girlfriend has just broken up with me because we fought tooooo much in the past month. She says that we will be toget her if it's ment to be. But she wont call or answer me ever. It has been a week and I am devastated. and she wont talk to me i don't know what to do. It started when i yelled at her when we were driving home from the mall of America. I yelled because I asked her to go to the mall with me to find some stuff for the wedding we were going to go to. But we ended up looking at all here stores and didn't step foot in any of the stores i wanted. The mall closed and i was out of luck. She did things with friends for the next 2 days and broke up with me on the Friday after Thanksgiving. I was went into a tail spin and had two presents for her that i had made that Thursday. A CD and a cut out thing i had made telling her how sorry i was. She just looked at then and said they were nice. We had been going out for now 13 months. I need her back. I realize she is what i need. She says she is tire of fighting and wont even give me a second chance to show her that i can change and stop losing my temper. I've never hit her or abused her in any way. She's tired of fighting. She promised me forever and she is just giving up on it after a few fights what should i do?????

[Sweetie_Spra]

hello. i was in the same spot but my b/f dumped me. It is hard but just leave her alone for a while and let her think about what she lost. She may not talk to you right now but she really is thinking about you!! Don't Worry Be Happy!! SWEETIE_SPRA

[EC]

13 months..a year and a month huh?

 

Thats a long time..was it fighting the whole relationship? Because that does get tiring.

 

I think you should give her some time as well, to sort her thoughts and give her a chance to miss you and if still nothing then I think maybe she just wants out of the relationship and is using the fighting as an excuse. I know that sux but it happens sometimes. Peoples feelings change and they look for any excuse or fight to end the relationship.

[Cabras]

Sounds similar to our situation as well. My girlfriend and I really started arguing more over our last two months. I have come to realize it is so much more than that. I think she picked out one thing to focus on, but there was probably a combination of things.

 

I personally laid everything out for her and have now moved out of the picture and have given her space. Others suggested that I don't even put myself out there like that before giving her space and I do see that there may have been some value in doing that. By just giving her space I could have sped up the time she waited before looking at possible reconciliation. I also felt I risked reinforcing her ideas that I didn't care about her. So I chose to lay it all out and now I am struggling every day with being apart from her.

 

It seems like you had something good. Figure out what changed to make it take a turn for the worse. Why were you chosing to yell at her instead of talk about things? Me personally, I just got tired and worn out of my ex's constant need for assurance. I was having emotional problems and I finally couldn't keep it up like I had for years.

 

This is our 2nd breakup. The first was much shorter and about the same point in our relationship as yours. After three weeks of little communication she just decided not to throw it all away. I think breakups at holiday times are painful, but for the party that wants to reconcile it may work to your favor. If she is having second thoughts, being without you in happy times may not seem as easy as she thought it would be. We got back together a week before Christmas last year. It was the best Christmas we could have had.

 

Good Luck