Is it right to get beat?

[Rebuilding]

I just got into a talk last night with my seperated wife. After the talk it looks like a divorce is imminent. We were talking about one of my best friends whose girlfriend had just hit him for the first time. She punched him in the eye after they had an argument and he attempted to go to sleep. During the time that we were together, my wife had hit me on numerous occasions and I never hit her back. I can't stand cowards that would turn around and put their hands on a woman. She knows this and I think she took advantage of it. Her justification for it is that every time she hit me, I "deserved" it because I had called her a "b!t@h" or said something out of anger in the course of an argument. I told her that there is never a valid reason for hiting your spouse. Nothing gives someone the right to hit their significant other. And as of last night she still feels differently which is telling me that if we ever tried again, it wouldn't take her long before she starts pounding on me again. So here's the question. Is there ever a reason for domestic violence? And, should I submit myself to the chance of getting hit again?

[JackieQ]

never a reason to hit or get hit....

 

but .. never a reason to call her a bitch either. if she is your wife, respect is a must. Talking thru something takes a lot more guts than starting with the first name that comes to your head or hitting someone.

[shadis]

Call people whatever you will. Name-calling is stupid, and if someone hits you for it they will have to deal with the brunt of the consequences. There is never any call for hitting, even though it happens QUITE a bit more frequently than most people would like to admit. Many a person has wanted to hit his or her spouse before.

[7on]

meh, my sense of touch is a bit weak so I probably wouldn't have a problem with it

[SoleMate]

Is there ever a reason for domestic violence?

Sure. But it's never a good enough reason, IMO.

 

...should I submit myself to the chance of getting hit again?

No, absolutely not. I wouldn't advise you to get back with her until she is genuinely remorseful and working on her anger management. You can even join her in the anger management classes. You can't have a happy marriage until you both treat each other with love and respect. Same goes for your best friend.