Interesting week

[Sparty97]

Not sure how/where to start with this one, but lets just say it ended with an afternoon sexual interlude with my wife.

 

As I have mentioned ad nauseum, I am living in a sexless marriage. Today marks our 5th sexual encounter this year.

 

We have recently moved and we have both started new jobs and are creating a new social circle for the both of us. I think my wife was a little jealous that I am now working with two very attractive women (they are attractive, but I am not attracted)...one is a very skilled/talented colleague who I have nothing but respect for (and she is engaged), the other is much younger than I and I honestly view her as more of a mentee than anything else.

 

Cut to Friday, my department chair throws a party for colleagues and spouses, significant others, etc.

 

A couple of drinks in and another new member of the department (a woman) is hitting on my wife big time...close talking...very forward posture/presence etc.

 

Now I don't know for sure if my wife is bi/les but she has talked about it in fantasy. Oddly this isn't the first woman in our new home that has hit on her in my opinion. She also has a history of women coming on to her, to the point that when we were engaged but long distance while I was in grad school she went out on a date with a women...(she claims it wasn't until well into the evening that she realized it was a date).

 

Thing is, when this happens I know it gets her going and I am likely to have some fun soon. I could tell for the rest of the weekend she was in the mood and I teased her a little about getting hit on by the drunk lesbian.

 

So today she arranges for our son to spend the afternoon at a friends house and she clues me in to what she has in mind.

 

So we get into it and she starts talking about fantasies and stuff...getting pretty wild and kinky (with talk only)...it all had a particular direction.

 

I am beginning to wonder if I won't have a surprise coming soon, or maybe if something may be happening already.

 

Last week she came home from work and hopped right in the shower, something she never does.

[Mr. Lucky]

Is "Congratulations!" the correct response?

 

Mr. Lucky

[Sparty97]

Is "Congratulations!" the correct response?

 

Mr. Lucky

 

Honestly I am not sure.

[Mr. Lucky]

Honestly I am not sure.

When it's only your 5th time this year, congrats feels right.

 

Is there an angle here that could improve your marital sex life?

 

Mr. Lucky

[Sparty97]

Did you get your blowjob?

 

Lol...yeah

[Sparty97]

When it's only your 5th time this year, congrats feels right.

 

Is there an angle here that could improve your marital sex life?

 

Mr. Lucky

 

 

I guess I am worried about the rest of it. I am worried that she is heading towards an affair as a means of exploring her sexuality.

[xxoo]

I guess I am worried about the rest of it. I am worried that she is heading towards an affair as a means of exploring her sexuality.

 

Just last week, weren't you threatening to have an affair?

 

Is your wife's sexuality the reason you avoid counseling? Are you afraid of what you will learn? (that she is not heterosexual?)

 

Strictly on the marital sex front, have you tried introducing lesbian erotica or porn to get her aroused?

[Sparty97]

Just last week, weren't you threatening to have an affair?

 

Is your wife's sexuality the reason you avoid counseling? Are you afraid of what you will learn? (that she is not heterosexual?)

 

Strictly on the marital sex front, have you tried introducing lesbian erotica or porn to get her aroused?

 

 

I was, but I wasn't serious. I have seen the damage they can do.

 

I avoid counseling because I don't trust counselors. For every good one there are 10 bad.

 

Honestly if I learned she was gay I would probably be relieved.

 

We have watched porn in the past, not strictly lesbian but some of the vids had those scenes in them. I don't know that those did anything for her specifically, she certainly didn't hone in on them.

 

I will say that yesterdays session was a little more talkative and she brought up some things we had never talked about before, and even did a couple of new things.

[Mr. Lucky]

I guess I am worried about the rest of it. I am worried that she is heading towards an affair as a means of exploring her sexuality.

As stuck as you are "living in a sexless marriage", I'd think you'd welcome anything as a catalyst for change. Are you really prepared to spend your remaining decades this way?

 

I'd rather explain to friends and family that my wife decided she was gay than spend the rest of my days in a sexual wasteland...

 

Mr. Lucky

[HappilyHopeless]

It's possible. You should talk to her about it.

[Sparty97]

Since sexual encounter that started this thread we have had two more and have been generally more affectionate towards each other, somewhat more playful, etc.

 

When we do have sex, as I said before she discusses being more adventurous about certain things and has widened her "repertoire" in bed.

 

Two big changes in our lives have been a significant geographic move and changes in employment for both of us.

 

She is somewhat happier in her job. She earns less than she used to, but has less responsibility and takes almost no work home with her (as opposed to her last job where work came home every night).

 

The one thing I continue to worry about with her is that she continues to engage (or think about engaging) in office drama. That said, she has openly listened to me when I talk to her about it (how nothing good comes from it, etc.).

 

All in all I would say things are looking up. Still cautious of course.