like_gum Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Today my wife and I had a long overdue lunch with my niece and her boyfriend. About 3/4 the way through lunch my wife noticed her phone was ringing and took the call. It was her son (my step son). She had what seemed like a fairly long conversation with him at the table, and was quite loud, laughing and so on. He was in some competition and did well so he phoned to tell her. She was annoyed that I wasn't excited about his results. Realistically, I was frustrated with her lack of manners at the table. She made a big deal out of my lack of excitement and it pretty much consummed the rest of the afternoon. I've not mentioned how I feel about the phone call or the long conversation. I've learned from experience that you don't mention any of her errors or anything that may bother me. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 I've not mentioned how I feel about the phone call or the long conversation. I've learned from experience that you don't mention any of her errors or anything that may bother me. That would seem to be more of a problem than the phone call . Right or wrong, the kind of etiquette you describe seems to have gone out the window. Restaurants, theaters, church - they're all open season for talking and texting. And I agree, the world not better for it... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 I dont think you should hold a grudge against her about an ill timed phone call, but let her know how you feel,and i dont think its too much to ask to turn phones off while having lunch.......so you can enjoy who you are spending time with ...drawback of mobile phones would be this...as far as speaking loudly and laughing a lot of people do this not realizing.......just explain to her, exactly how you felt and come to some sort of compromise if she cares what you feel she will want to coem to a compromise.....best wishes.....deb Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 This is a totally normal fight for people in healthy relations to have. If you didn't have these types of fights would be more concerning than if you did. It's simply a lack of communication between what each of you feel is appropriate. Just explain to her in a calm and thoughtful manner why this bothered you. It's normal for anyone to get defensive (especially when it's a conversation with their children). Link to post Share on other sites
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