Just Driving myself crazy?

[HeLovesMeNot]

So I have been with this guy for nearly a month now. He started saying "ILY", so I started saying it back....and whether he knows or not, I am really in love with him. (I know, everyone has told me it's too soon, but whatever)

 

I'm starting to see red flags...I don't know if they are really there or If they are caused by my paranoia about this relationship.

 

I've been hurt before, so I know the signs....but with this one, I'm not sure what's true and what's not.

 

He has KIND of opened up to me about his past. And I reasurred him that I don't thrive on what happened in his past.

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But something inside me says he is still in love with a previous partner.

He's constantly complaining about his ex (baby momma). He comes to see me, and he's complaining. I don't say anything, because I am not about to get in between and get hurt or get someone else hurt. I don't know enough about either sides of the story to say anything anyway.

 

Red Flag #1...Well anyway, long story short, I have him on FB. and I am constantly seeing posts that skew my vision of his "love" for me. Posts about wanting something, and when I ask him if he needs anything, he says no.

or music videos that have NOTHING to do with what is going on between us.

Red Flag #2 He calls his friends all the time, but has never called me...when I ask, he just brushes it off using the excuse of "I don't like phone conversations". And while he is active on FB, I rarely see texts from him. he will randomly text me "ILY". but besides that, there isn't much communication.

 

I can't help but be suspicious. I'm one of those women who refuses to drag someone else's heart around if I fall in love with someone else...But is this happening to me and I'm just not realizing it? Or am I just Paranoid?

[tlegend]

So I have been with this guy for nearly a month now. He started saying "ILY", so I started saying it back....and whether he knows or not, I am really in love with him. (I know, everyone has told me it's too soon, but whatever)

 

I'm starting to see red flags...I don't know if they are really there or If they are caused by my paranoia about this relationship.

 

I've been hurt before, so I know the signs....but with this one, I'm not sure what's true and what's not.

 

He has KIND of opened up to me about his past. And I reasurred him that I don't thrive on what happened in his past.

]

But something inside me says he is still in love with a previous partner.

He's constantly complaining about his ex (baby momma). He comes to see me, and he's complaining. I don't say anything, because I am not about to get in between and get hurt or get someone else hurt. I don't know enough about either sides of the story to say anything anyway.

 

Red Flag #1...Well anyway, long story short, I have him on FB. and I am constantly seeing posts that skew my vision of his "love" for me. Posts about wanting something, and when I ask him if he needs anything, he says no.

or music videos that have NOTHING to do with what is going on between us.

Red Flag #2 He calls his friends all the time, but has never called me...when I ask, he just brushes it off using the excuse of "I don't like phone conversations". And while he is active on FB, I rarely see texts from him. he will randomly text me "ILY". but besides that, there isn't much communication.

 

I can't help but be suspicious. I'm one of those women who refuses to drag someone else's heart around if I fall in love with someone else...But is this happening to me and I'm just not realizing it? Or am I just Paranoid?

 

I can relate to this.

 

He's constantly complaining about his ex (baby momma).

This doesn't necessarily mean he is still in love. In fact, it sounds like he's disgusted about it..... And you being his partner, he feels that he can vent about it to you. I'm not saying this is how it is, I'm saying this could be one perspective.

 

I am constantly seeing posts that skew my vision of his "love" for me. Posts about wanting something, and when I ask him if he needs anything, he says no.

or music videos that have NOTHING to do with what is going on between us.

 

What exactly is being posted? The reason I ask is because if he is saying he doesn't want anything and genuinely seems confused about why you would ask, then in all probability, it's probably coincidence and you are looking for a pattern.

 

He calls his friends all the time, but has never called me...when I ask, he just brushes it off using the excuse of "I don't like phone conversations". And while he is active on FB, I rarely see texts from him. he will randomly text me "ILY". but besides that, there isn't much communication.

 

So now you are saying that because he doesn't spend his every moment on facebook mindlessly messaging you or texting you, then that's a red flag?

 

To be fair, it seems you are a bit insecure, probably because of your last relationship. I see nothing that would denote wierdness in his behavior at this time. I think you are letting your mind wander a bit much, because his responses and actions don't seem to be someone trying to pull a fast one on you.

 

It's ok. I'm insecure as well. I had my heart ripped out, and I haven't ever really recovered from that. That doesn't mean you can't have a relationship. I was lucky enough to find someone who understands me and is willing to help mend some of the bottled up issues I have because of that relationship.

 

I'm hoping the best for you, and who knows, maybe it's very much like my example, except reversed.

[headinthecloud]

Run.

 

Sounds like you're a rebound. If a guy is into you he calls everyday or every other day. Friends are never a priority, you should always be #1. Accept nothing less.

[LibbyListens]

or music videos that have NOTHING to do with what is going on between us.

 

So everything he posts on Facebook has to do with you?

 

It doesn't sound like love. He probably sees red flags as well.