Biscous Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 That might sound inherently selfish as I state it, but for a number of reasons my 20s wasn't filled with a lot of dating success. I didn't finally 'get it' until my mid 20s. I had two serious relationships, but didn't do much dating. I am on the cusp of turning 30 and I feel finally at this point my career is in line after several years of having trouble maintaining a job. I have a very good body I take care of, and I honestly feel I'm better looking than I was in my early 20s. The thing is I'm not wanting to settle down any time soon. I want the option to date around, but I feel where I live people settle down very early. I'm honestly not ready. Am I a bit too old at this age to be doing this? Link to post Share on other sites
Sofie2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 If you are not ready then you are ready to settle down and that’s fine. If you still want to play the filed then do so. My husband brother is in his mid 30’s he hasn’t settled down yet and still parties and dates around. As long as you don’t hurt anyone do what makes you happy live your life the best way you can. We only live once so enjoy it while you can. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 Don't wait to long to settle down get married and have kids. Mid 30's would be the max line. It depends. Do whatever you want it's your life. Your intent is not ready yet to settle down and sure you have taken care of yourself too. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted November 10, 2013 Author Share Posted November 10, 2013 Thanks guys. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 IMO, you can 'play the field' at any age. Do what you want. The world doesn't give an award for following their rules when you die. You just die. What you do between now and then is up to you. If that's 'playing the field', go get 'em. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 Why would you feel bad for doing something that you should be doing? If you aren't ready to get married or settle down, then why would you? However, do be honest with women if you choose to date and have sex with other women while you are dating them. I was very open when I was dating that I had no plans to be exclusive because I wasn't ready, and women were okay with it as long as I was honest. When you are ready to settle, you will be more prepared by having really healthy and fun relationships with women you date now, so no drama and no hurt feelings. Be honest, even if you think it will cost you dates or sex. Have fun, Grumps 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 I played the field into my late 40s... And it was MUCH better in my 40s than it was in my 20s and 30s! Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 That might sound inherently selfish as I state it, but for a number of reasons my 20s wasn't filled with a lot of dating success. I didn't finally 'get it' until my mid 20s. I had two serious relationships, but didn't do much dating. I am on the cusp of turning 30 and I feel finally at this point my career is in line after several years of having trouble maintaining a job. I have a very good body I take care of, and I honestly feel I'm better looking than I was in my early 20s. The thing is I'm not wanting to settle down any time soon. I want the option to date around, but I feel where I live people settle down very early. I'm honestly not ready. Am I a bit too old at this age to be doing this? Biscous, I've been to meetups where there were dozens of cougars who looked like Dolly Parton wannabes who were old enough to collect Social Security. 20s-30s is too young to be worrying about that stuff. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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