so it turns out my gf is a bigger liar than i thought

[tiki]

Originally posted by alphamale

Yes E.T.

 

Awwww yeeeah. Game on, EC's got a new nickname.

[tattoomytoe]

Why does it even matter what went on? Is she worth all this crap you are feeling?

[EC]

Tiki tiki tookie...don't you dare start that!! lol

[whichwayisup]

If it didn't hurt so much, it might almost be funny.

 

Hey if you can laugh abit about it, do it! Laughter will help you through this process.

 

Why does it even matter what went on? Is she worth all this crap you are feeling

 

She may not be worth it, but his heart still needs to mend either way. She isn't worth it, you're right though.

 

Hang in the Tan. Keep busy and have some fun. See friends/family as well. Just don't spend alot of time alone.

[tanbark813]

So she finally called back. This is her story:

 

She wanted a weekend away from me so she went up with him. She said she thought it was okay because it was a group of people (all along telling me it was just a weekend with her girlfriend). She said they were just friends but he wanted to take the next step and was telling her that she shouldn't be with me because I'm too possessive and controlling. She got mad at him, they got in a fight, and that's when she called me crying to come to my place.

 

She says nothing happened physically between them. I'm not sure I believe that. She says it's not cheating because nothing physical happened.

 

I told her the bottom line is she made plans to spend a holiday weekend with another man in Tahoe and lied to me about it. Even if nothing happened I still consider that cheating. I told her I have absolutely no tolerance for lies and cheating. She thinks she's not a cheater. I think she is.

 

I also told her I should have known better than to date a cokewh0re. I was mad.

[tattoomytoe]

nuff said... wanna go out!

[savethedrama4allama]

Originally posted by tanbark813

 

 

I also told her I should have known better than to date a cokewh0re. I was mad.

 

You go boi

[EC]

Ouch you called her a coke whore!

 

But anyways..If it was so innocent and nothing happened, then why lie about it? WHy go throught the trouble of telling you that her friend was going through something and she needed to sleepover and console her when she couldv'e just said we are going as a group over there.

 

I think she is lying.

 

And even if she didn't cheat you dont want a liar! She lied and thought she wouldn't get caught so don't even bother with her.

[tiki]

c0kewh0re?

 

Date TMT!!!

[alphamale]

Originally posted by tanbark813

I also told her I should have known better than to date a cokewh0re. I was mad.

 

Good job man! Way to go. Finally, a dude with a backbone...

 

Now, if you want her back make her beg and plead and come to you on her hands and knees.

[tattoomytoe]

Originally posted by tiki

c0kewh0re?

 

Date TMT!!!

thanks Tiki...always lookin out for me!

[tiki]

Originally posted by tattoomytoe

Tili

 

Tili? ET? What's wrong with us today. Sings tune...thank God it's Friday!

[Pocky]

This is the 3rd serious relationship in a row that has ended due to the girl cheating on me. If it didn't hurt so much, it might almost be funny.

 

I always told myself that nothing happened as a mistake and I was experiencing what I needed to experience in order to prepare me for the person I wanted to be. Maybe that's why I have such a hard time understanding the darkest forms of depression expressed when people break up with their significant others. I always saw my break up as an opportunity to find the one I would spend my life with.

 

Remember the optimism you spoke about, adopt my motto and become another "cynical optimist"!

[tanbark813]

Thanks all for the support. It is much appreciated.

[savethedrama4allama]

Man, if I lived closer I'd take you out and get you hammered myself. Then I'd let tattoomytoe have her way with you. Or, Merin. She's hot and single. Or, maybe I would. You're cute. It was the same thing when Merin found out about her man lying. I just wanted to be there for her. Its a human thing, even though we only know one another on this board.

[tanbark813]

Wow, so much love from the LS girls.

 

So, TMT, where do you live?

[EC]

Tanbark lol Leave TMT alone it's only rebound! lol

 

sorry...

 

BUt yeah I know what you mean stdfymama! I want to run a hug everyone when I hear how stuff happens to them. I just feel like if I'm there I can so make them have a good time and forget about it and help them through it. BUt we can't so this board is all we have.

[tattoomytoe]

Originally posted by tanbark813

Wow, so much love from the LS girls.

 

So, TMT, where do you live?

 

the east coast.

[savethedrama4allama]

Yeah we LS girls have a lot of love to give. It sucks because the weekend is here and that is the worst time to sit and stew over relationship crap. Hugs!

 

llama

[tattoomytoe]

i am french kissing my computer screen for all you hot sexy men on the shack!

 

And to the beautiful strong women....a swift smack on the butt ...cause i like to smack @sses!

[tanbark813]

Originally posted by tattoomytoe

the east coast.

 

D'oh.. I'm on the west coast.

[billybadass36]

Tanbark, I had a similar time period in my life when I had like 3 serious relationships in a row all end because of my girlfriends' having cheated on me. While you don't know that this woman physically cheated on you, you have to seriously look at the situation and it's plain that even if you forgive her, you'll never be able to trust her again. In my situation, I took some time to see if I was doing something wrong, and I came to the conclusion that I was dating the same woman over and over again. I was stuck in this rut of dating these attractive yet shallow women. I was meeting these women at parties or at clubs, usually when I'm a bit on the tipsy side. I didn't "date", but I'd "hook up" with them and then date these people. It took some time, but I had figured out that I was trying to date women that I'd met and hooked up with right from the get-go. It was foolish of me to think that these women would change overnight because all of a sudden we'd called each other "boyfriend and girlfriend". So, what did I do? I started looking for women in other places and trying to date women that weren't like the women I'd dated before. I think it's working, but who knows, right?

[savethedrama4allama]

How did the weekend go? Did you talk to her at all? Update please

[tanbark813]

Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama

How did the weekend go? Did you talk to her at all? Update please

 

 

I left from work early Friday afternoon. My gf came down to talk. We spent the rest of Friday, basically, talking about what had happened, and it was discussed here and there throughout the rest of the weekend. The story isn't exactly what I thought at first, but this is basically what happened:

 

My gf and her team were reaching a milestone at work. As a celebration, a select few of them decided to have an unofficial celebration at Alex's family's cabin. Alex is the guy in question in the OP. My gf wanted to go, but didn't want me there for two reasons:

 

1. We had gotten in a few arguments about her spending time with her friends without me. She took it as me trying to cut her off from her friends. I meant it as a request to be included along in outings with her friends so I could get to know them.

2. She wanted attention from Alex. She wasn't interested in him, but liked the attention he gave her since he was interested in her.

 

She knew if she told me she was going without me to that event, I would be upset, so she lied and said it was her friend that had invited her and it would be just the two of them. She even guilted me into wanting to be invited along by giving me some speech about how she needs to spend time with girlfriends and blah, blah, blah.

 

Friday night of Labor Day weekend she got into a fight with Alex. He was badmouthing me, saying she shouldn't be with me, and she was defending me. She also said he had no right to say anything since his sister was marrying a bad guy (based on events earlier that day). Finally Alex got pissed enough to basically tell her to go home. She called me that night crying, and came home very early the next morning. All the while giving me some bull**** story about her friend.

 

So I was pissed, of course, but it wasn't quite as bad as I thought. We worked things out and are still together. The thing that really irks me is that Alex has never met me but can make all kinds of judgment calls about me. Meanwhile, he's some piece of **** in a 12-steps program and has been in and out of drug rehab for being addicted to elephant tranquilizers.

[savethedrama4allama]

Are you sure you believe this?

 

He was badmouthing me, saying she shouldn't be with me, and she was defending me. She also said he had no right to say anything since his sister was marrying a bad guy (based on events earlier that day).