Cabras Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 Wow, I am beginning to realize show much I hate weekends right now. I seem to do well all week long right up until Friday. Then the anxiety starts. I can feel the weeks on the calendar start falling off with no progress. I do stupid stuff like ask my ex if she wants to do something this weekend. I can't believe how much I hate the hours of nothing that go on for Saturday and Sunday. My friends that are married or involved with others all hang out with their signifigant others. My single friends (the few that are left) go to the same stupid clubs weekend after weekend. Before I met my ex I used to go out to those same clubs too. I hated it. I was sick of it. The funny thing was that once we got together I actually enjoyed going out to the clubs, but only when I was with her. More than anything I just want time to pass. I used to dread Mondays. This last Monday I didn't even care. I have a small amount of stuff planned for the weekend. Not enough to occupy myself, but just enough to drag me through the weekend. Why couldn't weekends pass this slowly all summer long? It seemed like Monday was there quicker than I could blink most weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 Get a job on the weekends to rack up extra ca$h, maybe for a vacation! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 tiki's right. That will kill two birds with one stone. You will get extra cash (that's always good) and you will probably stop feeling so down because you have something to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 damn son, I love weekends. How about you somehow give me your weekends. Try picking up a hobby or something. Go take up some martial arts or other recreational activity. Go do volunteer work on the weekend then. Your time will be used and you'll be helping out others...can't lsoe on that one. Link to post Share on other sites
SpaceCoyote Posted December 4, 2004 Share Posted December 4, 2004 I hear you, and totally know how you feel. I am finding myself with a lot of free time since my ex broke up with me, and it's weird....like I almost don't know what to do with it. I guess it's because she was such a big part of my social life, and now that part is gone. This is my second weekend without her... the first was pure torture. This one a little less so but it's still rough. The other posters made good points. A good philosophy is to try to find activities that both fill your time and are good for you. Volunteering is a good start...it can be a fun activity and it helps others. Maybe in helping others, it'll help you feel better about yourself. Or maybe whatever exercise you enjoy...running/going to the gym/sports/etc... it'll occupy you and improves your health at the same time. Good luck. Hopefully you will eventually get to the point where you look forward to more than just the passage of time. I'm not even past this point myself yet, but I'll pass any other ideas if I can think of them. Link to post Share on other sites
aarsky Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 I know how you feel. I used to do so much with my ex and now she's not a part of my life anymore time seems to go very slow especially on the weekends. When I'm out with other people, it's not that I'm not having a good time, it's just that I'd rather be having a good time with her. If I go to a club or to a movie, she is all I think about. It's very hard to get yourself back on track especially when you miss someone so much. I guess the best thing to do like everyone else said is to keep yourself occupied with things that take your mind off of the other. I'm alot bettter at giving advice then I am at listening to it. It's hard to do but it's something you have to do to make yourself stronger and feel better about you. This way if and when someone else comes along they will see a someone that they want to be with and good things will happen. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 Donno but saw a similar post so thot of riting. You guys hate of weekends cause of weekends you had spent with your ex but if u consider me it is better for you all than me .Do you know what all things i hate 1.Yahoo Instant messaging where i m logged in 24*7 2.MSN also 3.I hate emails cuase any mail makes me think might be from hers 4.SMS ,the beep makes me think she might have messaged me 5.Phone ring ofcourse makes me think. 6.The most dreaded thing whenever i type 'S' i think i will type her name and this S always makes me think of her as her name starts with S. Now think of me and weekends wud be a smaller deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cabras Posted December 6, 2004 Author Share Posted December 6, 2004 I know what you mean about this stuff- 1.Yahoo Instant messaging where i m logged in 24*7 (I'm not much of an IMer, but I feel for ya) 2.MSN also 3.I hate emails cuase any mail makes me think might be from hers ( This one is a HUGE problem for me, we emailed all day back and forth) 4.SMS ,the beep makes me think she might have messaged me (This is a double whammy for me. I never get any messages now. She is now SMSing her new fling 24x7 maybe she'll drive him nuts :-) 5.Phone ring ofcourse makes me think. (I have this special ring for her. I hear it in my head. The times she does call it is still magical. Maybe I should just change it) 6.The most dreaded thing whenever i type 'S' i think i will type her name and this S always makes me think of her as her name starts with S. (The letter S is used 6.5% of the time in the English language. Try having a girl with the letter E!! 12.51%!!!) I truly feel for you. It sounds like you are missing her in many many ways. The last couple of replies on this page really echoed how I am feeling. Thank you all. Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted December 6, 2004 Share Posted December 6, 2004 Cabras, get a job. When you have earned enough money, make a fantastic trip somewhere and enjoy it. Sometimes being materialistic can be very soothing and comforting. Greenhorn, pull yourself together and stop claiming your pain is bigger than for the rest of the people here. Your self-pity is not going to bring her back and in fact right now you´re quite nasty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cabras Posted December 7, 2004 Author Share Posted December 7, 2004 I would volunteer before I got another job. I am a single guy with no kids and almost no bills. I have a very lighthearted view of money. I make enough to support a family easily by myself and enjoy spending the extra money I have. I blew so much money this summer taking trips across the US with my ex, yet I never had difficulty paying rent or buying things that I wanted. Outside of my retirement fund I couldn't save a penny without finding a way to spend it. Call me the anti-miser. I will say this weekend went by faster than expected. I alternated between thinking or talking about my ex and just having fun. I go up and down like a rollercoaster, but at least I finding some ups finally. News from friends about her just poured in all weekend long. Not really the best way to spend a weekend, but it gave me some nwew things to think about. Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 Volunteer work sounds like a good idea. Doing something useful surely distracts oneself from dwelling on one´s own supposed misery and end-of-the-world-attitude. I will try to follow my advice next time Link to post Share on other sites
SpaceCoyote Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 I go up and down like a rollercoaster, but at least I finding some ups finally. Yeah you'll get that for a little while, I know I do. The key is that when you are in one of those down points, to remember that it is just temporary and you will be back up again soon. It's hard, but inside yourself, you know you ARE capable of feeling good sometimes. Try to focus on those times. Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 Greenhorn, pull yourself together and stop claiming your pain is bigger than for the rest of the people here. Your self-pity is not going to bring her back and in fact right now you´re quite nasty True Kooky, i am in self pity mode and thot ki if she gets to know it she might come back to me but i know she wont come back to me.. u r true..most true......... Link to post Share on other sites
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