tiki Posted December 4, 2004 Share Posted December 4, 2004 We had a Luau two weeks ago for our wedding and received lots of gifts, mostly money. We plan to write the thank-you notes when we return from Hawaii and that way we can tell them about our marriage ceremony and trip all in one letter. Question: Is is terribly impersonal to type a thank-you note? It'd be soooo much easier. Tell me what you guys think!!! Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 4, 2004 Share Posted December 4, 2004 it is a bit cheesy, most prefer the hand written ones but i f you have like 700 to send out then i'd type them and sign each single one by hand, that may be good compromise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted December 4, 2004 Author Share Posted December 4, 2004 Okay, cool. We've got this beach paper and it would look so much better with type on it, and it'd be so much easier. I just don't wanna piss somebody off, but SURELY not. We're also sending pics of everyone dressed up at the luau if we have photos of them, and we're sending a pic of all of us (me, fiance, my son, his daughter)...that should make it more personal, eh? Typing would be soooo much easier, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 4, 2004 Share Posted December 4, 2004 Right, if you do decide to end up hand writing them let me remind you that you have up to 1 year to send them. That is the rule for wedding thank you notes. It is assumed the newly married couple will be busy with more impt things such as setting up a new household, getting adjusted to a new life, having sex 4 times per day, etc..... so they get one year. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted December 4, 2004 Author Share Posted December 4, 2004 LMAO, 1 year? No way! I sent a wedding gift in June and never got a thank you card....guess I need to get my panties out of a wad until June 2005...lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted December 4, 2004 Author Share Posted December 4, 2004 Originally posted by alphamale having sex 4 times per day Okay, I fold. Link to post Share on other sites
gridiron Posted December 4, 2004 Share Posted December 4, 2004 I would go with handwritten notes if at all possible, even if it takes a little longer. One year seems a little long. I would say within three or four months would be preferrable. Maybe one card after every lovemaking session? That'd be close to a hundred cards in a few months, by alphamale's projection? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 Originally posted by gridiron One year seems a little long. I would say within three or four months would be preferrable. Maybe one card after every lovemaking session? That'd be close to a hundred cards in a few months, by alphamale's projection? Grid: Do you ever read Dear abby or Miss Manners? The rule for wedding thank you notes is ONE YEAR FROM TIME OF WEDDING. Link to post Share on other sites
gridiron Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 Alpha-I have better things to do than to read what abby or miss manners has to say. This just came up with a friend of mine who got married a month ago and she had a couple of books that discussed everything about wedding etiquette and she said they advised to send preferrably within 3-4 months, and do not go over 6 months. If I got a thank you card from someone a year after the wedding, I would not be impressed. It does take some time, but it's not a monumental project to send out a bunch of thank you notes. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 I think it's rude to send a type-written thank-you note. You should mention the persons gift in the note. If you're going to do an "update" letter, you could include it as an insert to the handwritten note. Just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 Do you ever read Dear abby or Miss Manners? The rule for wedding thank you notes is ONE YEAR FROM TIME OF WEDDING. The excuse that it's Miss Manners' fault: "My son was married in April. He quotes you as saying it is all right to wait as long as a year before sending a thank-you note. I don't believe you said that. Did you?" Oh, thanks a lot, folks. Miss Manners doesn't know which is worse -- citing her in support of blatant rudeness, or blaming her for imposing the terrible burden of expressing gratitude where gratitude is due. And when it is due: What she really said was that you have 20 minutes after receiving a present to write a letter of thanks. And that people who find they are being generous to ingrates should cut their losses and stop. http://www.s-t.com/daily/08-00/08-06-00/zzzadman.htm Link to post Share on other sites
Author tiki Posted December 5, 2004 Author Share Posted December 5, 2004 Originally posted by magda If you're going to do an "update" letter, you could include it as an insert to the handwritten note. Ok, this is an idea. Thanks you guys for all your replies. We went and made a bazillion reprints of pics to send with the ty cards. I hope that this makes it more personal too. Link to post Share on other sites
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