BettyBoo Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 My ex husband and father to my adult children was a deadbeat Dad. He never visited them, gave them presents, financially supported them and completely denied their existence. I worked three jobs to rear them. He remarried and had two more children. He never told those children that he already had other children. My eldest daughter started to make contact with her Dad a few months ago and invited him and his wife to her wedding. I accepted her decision and my husband and I were courteous to his side of the family i.e his brothers and sisters. When I met my ex husband at the wedding I remarked how beautiful our daughter looked , he snarled at me and said he wasn't interested in chit chat with me. His wife then came up behind my back and told me I had a cheek to speak to him. I did not respond to either of them as it was my daughters day and I wanted no unpleasantness. However it was very upsetting as I feel they should have been so grateful and appreciative to have been included considering their past behaviour. I feel so angry about it as it really upset me and I felt it tainted the day . I have written to my daughter since as she lives in another city that I would not attend any future events if he and his wife where there as they cannot hold a civil tongue in their heads. Has anyone else gone through this? please share Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 Some men like your husband might close off his previous family because it's too painful to be reminded of. This doesn't make it right, but that is why some men do it. It's hard for women to understand this because women have primary custody and so they don't suffer too much of a loss in custody to the point where it's a painful reminder of what you can't have. As far as him doing the silent treatment, again, men are different. Some people are of the mindset that if nothing needs to be said, nothing needs to be said. He doesn't sound like he cares about "saving face". Link to post Share on other sites
Author BettyBoo Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 It really has nothing to do with saving face. A man who abandons his children has done a little more than lose face. However its just so sad when a parent who is given a most generous invitation to the most important day in a families life can be such a jack ass. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 It really has nothing to do with saving face. A man who abandons his children has done a little more than lose face. However its just so sad when a parent who is given a most generous invitation to the most important day in a families life can be such a jack ass. The biggest issue in my opinion is him not wanting any part of your children's lives. Him being an ass at the wedding is minor. Sometimes when people are asses, it's simply due to personality conflicts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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