Marriageable men?

[The dot]

Haha. Assumptions, kind of reminds me of a tool that has no function. You have no idea what goes on behind kitchen doors!

 

And nor do you. Didn't stop you making assumptions, did it Trevor?

[The dot]

Ah, that will settle one of them, but if you continue to fail to satisfy your traditional role, you may need to go on quite the killing spree, dontcha think?

 

I doubt he could afford the bullets for that anyway. And that assumes he knows what's going on. The way he's been jumping to conclusions in this thread, he'd probably want to kill about five men who didn't even speak to his wife, and completely ignore the five who f'ed her behind his back.

 

:lmao:

[c57dood]

And nor do you. Didn't stop you making assumptions, did it Trevor?

 

How'd you know my name?! Are you psychic? What's my fortune?

[samsungxoxo]

The key here is the probability of the man cheating will be lower. He can go out and get his dick wet by anyone, but how many women can make those killer meatballs and spaghetti? The food becomes the signature of the woman that keeps him alive. Women still want traditional men, so why is it wrong for men to still desire traditional women?

Well how about having a career and cooking at the same time? I've been used to working and studying too that I can't imagine not being interest in learning either?

 

I can't imagine never going to college and doing nothing in life besides cooking and cleaning the house. I have no problems being the traditional housewife at home but I want a profession too.

[The dot]

How'd you know my name?! Are you psychic? What's my fortune?

 

Your fortune clearly isn't very much, considering your poor attempts to denigrate those of us who can afford to eat out occasionally.

 

Enjoy being poor.

 

Loser.

 

[c57dood]

Your fortune clearly isn't very much, considering your poor attempts to denigrate those of us who can afford to eat out occasionally.

 

Enjoy being poor.

 

Loser.

 

 

I am far from poor my friend and far from a loser. This post reveals much about your character though!

[c57dood]

Well how about having a career and cooking at the same time? I've been used to working and studying too that I can't imagine not being interest in learning either?

 

I can't imagine never going to college and doing nothing in life besides cooking and cleaning the house. I have no problems being the traditional housewife at home but I want a profession too.

 

That's fine, you're perfectly entitled to desire that.

[samsungxoxo]

Be honest. What are your "requirements". If he is a high earner, he does not need to share bills.

 

Secondly, having a family, and raising children from home takes a LOT of work. You do exercise your brain constantly. If your career will come first this will leave you with little family time. Why would he need you? If you already think family life without a career might be boring, then stay single and save everyone from the upcoming drama. What profession do you want? Serving the family should be your number one goal. Days go fast, and if you are getting ready for work, working, driving home 5-6 days a week it will be more or less like stressed roommates.

 

If you are the type that NEEDS a career, then find a guy that needs help with the bills. For many women this is ironically a turn off.

 

It comes down to what you can offer. Why should he pick you?

To be honest, I have absolutely no interest in ever getting pregnant and giving birth. I have no interest in kids and would do great with a childless marriage just like my older cousin Monica. She got married at age 39 and neither of them want kids; they both traveled a lot too.

 

I might married later on in my early-mid 30's probably. I can see myself with a life partner with a similar career to mine, where we're both travelling, sharing bills, etc.

 

I don't want kids. Anything but kids. I'm already 26 years old and felt this way about not wanting them since I was 13. I'm not going to reproduce so I'm not in a rush.

Edited October 12, 2013 by samsungxoxo

[samsungxoxo]

So yes, I already see my major, my younger 11 year-old brother and books as they were my 3 kids.

 

If he indeed is looking for the traditional household wife that never worked nor went to college but will give him lots of kids then we're totally mismatched.

Edited October 12, 2013 by samsungxoxo

[samsungxoxo]

Then why get married? Why not just live together? Most men I know would not marry if they knew they would never have kids.. Unless for some religious reasons

What about my older female cousin I mentioned? She got married at the late age of 39 (now she must be about 42), neither of them want kids, they are professionals and travel a lot.

 

Are you saying there isn't such a thing as a childless marriage?? The world wouldn't exist if everyone had the same exact lifestyles, preferences, deal-breakers, etc.

[Leigh 87]

I want a childless marriage.

 

I don't doubt it'll happen.

[Leigh 87]

Marriageable men? Well, they will just be kind and decent people who fall in love with you and treat you well.

 

You will know when.

 

I suggest you hold off from the sex or even foreplay, and instead, offer to get to know each other before jumping onto dating seriously.

 

Most guys who act thrilled to be able to get to know you, minus the sexual part, will probably not put on an " act" where they pretend to be into you for months, spending most of their weekends and free time with you, if they don't truly like you.

 

I don't think most men who seem genuine and kind, are bad.

 

I have also had guys tell me how hard they are falling for me, only to dissappear at the first sign of a problem.

 

I still don't believe all men are liars and jerks.

 

Really, I think if you only bother with men who seem decent and kind and who seem EXCITED to have the privilege of getting to know you WITHOUT sex, then you're onto something.

 

Good luck. I too, am hoping to find a "marriageable" man one day.

[JourneyLady]

If you're trying to qualify every guy you meet to determine whether or not he's "husband" material, he'll soon move on -- unless he doesn't have any other options, and do you really want that guy?

 

That's a good point, although my last ex was neither... Not a lot of fun and definitely NOT husband material, though he tried to make me think so... at first.

 

Yet I'm not quite ready to take on the one guy I know who is probably husband material and fun, but may not being around long either... That scares me. Besides, it's a long drive and I don't want to go that far just to get a hug, if you know what I mean.

 

I'm just pining for a cuddle, but not desperate.

[thefooloftheyear]

Sex is great and all, but the true way to a man's heart is his stomach. You can please his dick for a short while, but when a man has a steady, full stomach of delicious food his wife makes he's far more likely to be loyal. It really isn't that hard!

 

 

Did you really post this???

 

Makes men sound like animals....News flash...Some men dont give a shyt about whats in the refrigerator...or on the table...Most women cant fry an egg these days anyway..

 

Better bring a lot more to the table....(pun intended)

 

TFY

Edited October 13, 2013 by thefooloftheyear

[RedRobin]

What age range are you look at? And I can almost guarantee you will change your mind about kids once your clock starts ticking. That is how we are biologically designed.

 

Speak for yourself. I had my tubes tied in my late 20's. Best decision I ever made.

 

If I want kids, I can adopt or have a test tube baby. No mistakes that way. No 'ooopsies'.

 

Yes, I'm aware that guys prefer their own biological child. 9 times out of 10, these are also the same guys who whine about what happens to a woman's body after she used it giving birth to HIS kid. Or cheats on her with the women who never had them.

 

*shrug*

[Disillusioned]

Whaddya mean? I don't have the EXACT numbers, but I'm under the impression that around 80% of men want kids, while for women it's more like 90-95%. I'm one of the men who doesn't want kids.

 

Besides, if some woman doesn't like me insisting on doing the cooking, and sewing clothes for her to be comfortable in, then she obviously isn't for me. TBH it really isn't my loss.

Edited October 13, 2013 by Disillusioned

[samsungxoxo]

Did you really post this???

 

Makes men sound like animals....News flash...Some men dont give a shyt about whats in the refrigerator...or on the table...Most women cant fry an egg these days anyway..

 

Better bring a lot more to the table....(pun intended)

 

TFY

I think this happened ever since more options were given and they started realizing there is more to life than just being a maid stuck at home 24/7 whose only purpose in life was to be a reproducing machine that feeds you.

 

With that in mind, I do agree that some women took it to the extreme of not even trying to put an effort in knowing basic household surviving skills. I might not be a Nadia Santini, but can fend for myself in that area. However, I'll be learning more within my major (it also has a culinary arts course).

 

What I've always noticed is when it comes to who are the best chefs in the professional field, there are more men in it than women. So basically the men can also be creative and elaborate dishes. They seem to cook better than the traditional household wife.

Edited October 14, 2013 by samsungxoxo

[thefooloftheyear]

I think this happened ever since more options were given and they started realizing there is more to life than just being a maid stuck at home 24/7 whose only purpose in life was to be a reproducing machine that feeds you.

 

With that in mind, I do agree that some women took it to the extreme of not even trying to put an effort in knowing basic household surviving skills. I might not be a Nadia Santini, but can fend for myself in that area. However, I'll be learning more within my major (it also has a culinary arts course).

 

What I've always noticed is when it comes to who are the best chefs in the professional field, there are more men in it than women. So basically the men can also be creative and elaborate dishes. They seem to cook better than the traditional household wife.

 

 

I think a lot of ther reason you see male chefs is that to work in a busy, high production environnment as an executive or sous chef is very physically demanding.. Few women I know of can handle the heat and the physical stress of a busy saturday night in one of these places..Id like to see Giada De laurentiis:love: pretty little behind killing herself in one of these places.:laugh:..Not happening. Trust me...

 

But I digress...You are right...The new generation of women doesnt even try..If they are full time workers and solid earners, I suppose they have an out..I cant cook worth a shyt, but I can clean a house equal or better than any woman.

 

TFY

[samsungxoxo]

I think it is more of a package deal.

I'm no one's package nor deal to be trade with.

[hppr]

"Marriageable" men will also want children.

 

They may not want them today, or next month, or 3 years from now, but they will want them eventually.

 

If you don't want to have kids then I don't think you are going to meet many men in the same boat (IE, want to marry but not have children) until you are in your 40s-50s.

[Disillusioned]

"Marriageable" men will also want children.

 

They may not want them today, or next month, or 3 years from now, but they will want them eventually.

 

If you don't want to have kids then I don't think you are going to meet many men in the same boat (IE, want to marry but not have children) until you are in your 40s-50s.

 

See post #49 above

[MissBee]

Waiting till marriage?

 

Sounds like the fast track to spinsterhood. And four cats.

 

No smart marriageable man would enter into a long term relationship, without knowing whether his possible life partner and he are sexually compatible.

 

That's where plenty of divorces get their roots in the first place.

 

This is assuming everyone has the same values, which isn't true.

 

Will most men wait until marriage and are such men a dime a dozen, no of course not, not in America esp. But there are men who are Christians or who otherwise belong to faith traditions or even for personal reasons, believe in waiting until marriage. I have 2 male friends in fact who are this way, both are Christians, and my brother, although he isn't a virgin, he is a Christian and his fiance was too and he proposed to her and all of that without having sex. So it is indeed possible to find such men.

 

But to the OP's larger question: Not sure if there is any specific place you can find "marriageable" men, but in dating, keep your eyes and ears open and be honest about your intentions and desires and pay attention to a man's response and his own expression of his intentions, beliefs and desires. I don't find it particularly difficult to tell men who are interested in sex/casual and those who aren't, as their actions and words make it obvious overtime. I personally have opted to have sex within monogamy and don't wait for marriage, but that's also helpful, choosing to not have sex with a man until you're at least exclusive.

[carhill]

Tips, ladies? Or, perhaps even better, gents?

 

Tip: Move to a demographic where available men substantially outnumber available women.

 

Advice: If you prefer to avoid casual/early sex, cover that early, so such men, if authentic, will self-select out. A compatible man in that regard will reflect his words in his actions. That said, don't confuse sexual abstinence with physical distance or lack of affection, as well as emotional neutrality. For success, romance must be in play, even if PIV sex is not.

 

Beware of smooth talkers. Pay attention to men who take a genuine and consistent interest yourself and your life and remember aspects of it. Of course, you share that responsibility.

 

End of advice. Good luck.

[kendallk]

Im almost 30 and I have no desire to marry. The men of my generation are the most shallow, selfish, entitled group of men in awhile. Lots of men I know in their 50's and 60's think the males of my generation are not men but boys...so I aint the only one who feels this way!

 

Finding a man with decent character, good morals and values who doesn't view women either as an extension of his ego or a something to be objectified is rare nowadays.

 

 

 

The fact that men only want to marry when they are fewer women to fight over (like the above poster suggested) speaks volumes about the character of men. Very few men wish to be married. They do it because they feel pressure to, or because everyone else does it, or out of possessiveness. I know very few happily married women.

 

You know how they say wedding cake lowers a womans libido? Marriage turns your nice boyfriend into an emotionally neglectful grumpy jerk.

Edited October 16, 2013 by kendallk

[RedRobin]

LOL.. Many women look just as good after giving birth if not better. Getting huge and fat is just an excuse.

 

So yes, it is completely normal for a man to want his own biological child. If you are one of the rare women who does not want a child, then find one of the rare men out there that does not either.

 

I just find it odd the OP is on a quest for a husband but does not want a family. The thread should be "Where are the marriagable men who do not ever want a child"

 

I dunno man... Google 'Mommy Makeover' and check out the pics.

 

Even better if they breast fed for awhile... Looks like National Geographic.

 

Sorry, not doing that to my body. Both my mom and sis have a little pooch from having kids. Under no circumstances are they fat. But my stomach is flat as a board. No stretch marks. No saggy boobs.

 

Plus it's better for the planet to adopt. Lots of kids need good homes. I keep my nice bod. Win-win for everyone