Gisss Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 Just can't live without him... Need him in my life! I'm addicted to him... Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 You can live without him. You lived before him, right? You will go through withdrawal. It will be horrible. You will be in so much emotional pain. But the only way out is to go through it. There is no way around it, no short cuts. It's a process. Drugs feel good in the moment, but eventually they become self destructive. Attention from him will make you feel better temporarily, but continuing this will damage your soul. You will lose yourself. Instead of losing yourself- love yourself. Love yourself enough to let go. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 Just can't live without him... Need him in my life! I'm addicted to him... Yup. No Contact is Cold Turkey for the heart. Trust us, it does pass, but if you succumb to the addiction, you're lost, once again. And you'll have to go through the whole thing, once again. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
SarahJames Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 Just can't live without him... Need him in my life! I'm addicted to him... I know exactly how you feel and I think most of us do. Just please remember, this whole thing is a downward, never-ending spiral if you don't take the appropriate steps right NOW to get this toxic man out of your life. When he's not speaking to you, you feel alone. You feel like there is nothing to look forward to; no text, no call, no e-mail. You miss having something, someone, there. But he is NOT the one for you. As soon as you get back to him, you're setting yourself up for the same bull****. You're allowing him to give you so much less than you deserve. You will feel so happy once you finally talk to him again, but it will be followed by tears and loneliness and hurt ALL OVER AGAIN. Stop sooner, rather than later. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ConcreteHeart Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 The first days and weeks of NC are the worst for sure. Cry, let it all out but don't share it with him. It just puts you in a masochistic position where he can do whatever he wants to you. He will torture you and he will make sure that he is in control of everything...every interaction....every word or moment shared. You will feel horrible about it. Protect and take care of yourself and every time you want to contact him, come here for some support. It has helped me... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
C00kie Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 Just can't live without him... Need him in my life! I'm addicted to him... Feels like that sometimes. We can and, if we have to, we WILL, we'll manage, we'll fall, we'll rise, we'll get there girl (sometimes I don't really believe myself, BUT the only way is up!) 3 Link to post Share on other sites
C00kie Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 Just can't live without him... Need him in my life! I'm addicted to him... I don't know about OP, but it's a lot harder letting go when MM is not a complete a*ss*hole and is what you would consider to be a good person (considering the "good person" parameters when you're talking about an MM having an affair, you know what I mean). The situation makes me feel awful, but I don't think he's a bad guy and that makes it harder, because it's easier to hold on to his words (in spite of lack of action), it's easier to blame myself (for not being patient enough, for ruining it with my lack of understanding etc etc) Afff...I just wish there was an easy way out. There's not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 I don't know about OP, but it's a lot harder letting go when MM is not a complete a*ss*hole and is what you would consider to be a good person (considering the "good person" parameters when you're talking about an MM having an affair, you know what I mean). The situation makes me feel awful, but I don't think he's a bad guy and that makes it harder, because it's easier to hold on to his words (in spite of lack of action), it's easier to blame myself (for not being patient enough, for ruining it with my lack of understanding etc etc) Afff...I just wish there was an easy way out. There's not. Yes, but sometimes- even if they are good people, even if we love them-they are not good for us. I think it's hard for some people to understand that you can love someone, but still not want to be with them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
brittanyanderson Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 i can relate Link to post Share on other sites
n1BB1t Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 Yup... I am dying to contact him too but too bad I had deleted his contact number since no contact day started. My ex mm is a stubborn person so once we agree no contact he won't go against it. He is not a good person to me too towards the last few months but I do still miss him and everything about him. Worst of all I had to see me smiling happily everyday in office resume his life like I didn't exist. I am just 4 days of no contact already feel like dying. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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