LucreziaBorgia Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 Just a simple thing I've been wondering about after reading so many posts here. For those who cheated: When you reached the point where you decided you were going to go through with it, could anything have stopped you or changed your mind about it? I can't help but wonder. I've been a cheater and a cheat-ee, and it seems in the situations I've been in, nothing short of physical intervention could have stopped it. Then the victim always takes the blame for somehow not stopping it. The question is: could they have? Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly10340 Posted December 6, 2004 Share Posted December 6, 2004 I've cheated once, and at the time nothing could have stopped me. But now, knowing how bad and guilty I felt about it, I would never cheat on someone ever again. I'd break up with them first before it came to that. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 6, 2004 Share Posted December 6, 2004 The question is: could they have? That is a wonderful question and I think every single person would say YES. They would be able to stop it. Every fibre in one's body would tell them to stop. But humans, as stupid as we are sometimes, make horrible mistakes and just don't think. Noone is perfect and because of that you really don't know 100% for sure what the outcome would be. I know I couldn't actually go through with it, but then again I have never been in taunting situation like that. I would hope to hell I would have the strength, thought and desire to know how much a night of passion would ruin my H, and our life together. I would not allow myself to BE face to face and in a situation where that potiental could happen. Just like that saying about smoking! (and Drugs too I guess, lol) JUST SAY NO!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted December 6, 2004 Share Posted December 6, 2004 The difference between the wayward spouse and the betrayed spouse is pretty simple...when tempted to cheat, the betrayed spouse chose not to do so. And, often the betrayed spouse has learned how to keep themselves from as many of those situations as they can (we're all tempted sometimes, but we can minimize our chances to screw up by avoiding them before things get to that point). My wife never learned to keep herself out of that kind of situation until we got into our issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Joyce Posted December 6, 2004 Share Posted December 6, 2004 It is not possible to avoid temptation but whether to act on it or not is a choice. Therefore, it can be prevented. If you choose to cheat and continue you still have a choice to stop. Life is full of choices and decisions it's up to you on how you want to live and who you want to be. Link to post Share on other sites
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