Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 So you mean to say she is not thinking about me at all? Like she don't miss whatever we had at all? Like she will never give a ****? I know her past she dated guys at 20 years age difference. I am pretty sure, I mean pretty sure that no one would ever have showed her that much love and affection in her life. How cannot she see that? Like how cannot she miss how nice I was to her? As a boyfriend, no, she is not thinking of you as a boyfriend. Does she think about you in any way? Probably. She probably wonders how you are doing and she probably does miss you in some way. BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN SHE WANTS YOU BACK. And if your love and affection were enough to her, she wouldn't have broken up to you. For whatever reason she feels like she wants something else. And you pouting and crying about her "not realizing" how nice you were to her would just turn her off more. She wants a man. Right now, in her view, you aren't a man. You are a wounded puppy. She might feel bad for the wounded puppy, but she doesn't want to date the wounded puppy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 So you mean to say she is not thinking about me at all? Like she don't miss whatever we had at all? Like she will never give a ****? I know her past she dated guys at 20 years age difference. I am pretty sure, I mean pretty sure that no one would ever have showed her that much love and affection in her life. How cannot she see that? Like how cannot she miss how nice I was to her? I'm not sure how old you are but it's pretty cocky to think that while no one ever gave her the love and attention you did, I'm sure there will be others that will come into her life in the future and give her what SHE wants and needs. How can she not see your worth? It happens all the time. Every dumpee will ask that same question. Sadly, when what you provide in a relationship isn't sustaining the other partner for whatever reason, you can be the best that you can be and it won't change their feelings. You being nice and all isn't important to her now because she is not emotionally invested in you anymore. That is why it means nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 Also that is not the reason she gave me when she was breaking up with me. She gave me whole bunch of other reasons about why she is breaking up with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Also that is not the reason she gave me when she was breaking up with me. She gave me whole bunch of other reasons about why she is breaking up with me. She can give you 4768 reasons, and whatever they may be, true or false...end result, she broke up with you. That's all you need. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 I have seen people patching up from extreme cases, All I want to know is can someone come back from that point? I really know how to make it right this time. Trust me guys, I do. She needs a man she will get a man. I am not going to contact her but all I want to know is, is there anyway it can get restored at any point in future? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Also that is not the reason she gave me when she was breaking up with me. She gave me whole bunch of other reasons about why she is breaking up with me. Who cares? Point is that she wasn't feeling it anymore. There's nothing you can do to change that -- it's on her. I mean, reread what you are posting. You are trying to convince us that a girl who broke up with you who has you blocked on social media is secretly pining for you. If you were watching this from the outside you'd think it's as absurd as we do. I get it, you are hurting and this whole thing sucks. We've all been there. But sitting here bargaining and spinning and pining doesn't do you any good -- just makes you look weak and spineless. She's gone, both in the relationship and in the fact that she lives somewhere else. It's time for you to become a man again. It's time for you to take control of you, which is the only thing you can control. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I have seen people patching up from extreme cases, All I want to know is can someone come back from that point? I really know how to make it right this time. Trust me guys, I do. She needs a man she will get a man. I am not going to contact her but all I want to know is, is there anyway it can get restored at any point in future? Not if you continue this same emo crap attitude you have right now. THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO BRING HER BACK. Nothing. It's up to her. You have to become a better version of yourself for you. If she comes back, then awesome. If not, then her loss. That's how you have to approach it. But dude, you have to break out of your little cocoon of denial and delusion. Nothing good will happen for you until you do. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I have seen people patching up from extreme cases, All I want to know is can someone come back from that point? I really know how to make it right this time. Trust me guys, I do. She needs a man she will get a man. I am not going to contact her but all I want to know is, is there anyway it can get restored at any point in future? Patching comes when two people want to try again. It doesn't come with one running and the other chasing. She will get a man? You're going bonkers on here. A man knows when to stop and step back. Regain his self-respect. Accept an ending. You're acting the obsessive fool. If there is any chance of restoring this, she will be the one to approach you. It's her move to win you back. Until then, you move on and accept the break-up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 Alright man, this whole thing shook me psychologically and I just cannot get all of this out of my head. Like breaking up with someone is one thing but the whole thing shook the man inside of me. I feel like I am not man enough anymore. That whole sexual thing is treating me really hard to be honest. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Alright man, this whole thing shook me psychologically and I just cannot get all of this out of my head. Like breaking up with someone is one thing but the whole thing shook the man inside of me. I feel like I am not man enough anymore. That whole sexual thing is treating me really hard to be honest. It was a low blow for her to verbalize that. But if anything, that should galvanize you to stay away from her, not mope and pout and beg for her. By doing that, you are just reinforcing how unattractive you are. Be a man, get your balls and prove that you are a catch, don't act like a punk like you are right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 Alright, next time if she ever tries to contact me. I would ask what are her intentions behind contacting me? If she just saying hi or stuff like that. I would say I am sorry this is not working out for me and it hurts me even more. So if you ever decide to give it another shot and in the mindset of talking about that maybe we can talk. Does it sound like something good? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Alright, next time if she ever tries to contact me. I would ask what are her intentions behind contacting me? If she just saying hi or stuff like that. I would say I am sorry this is not working out for me and it hurts me even more. So if you ever decide to give it another shot and in the mindset of talking about that maybe we can talk. Does it sound like something good? No. You say nothing. None of that sounds good. You are way too available, which is ridiculously unattractive. You don't answer at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 but in that case she will give up on this no? the thing is I want to get her back, don't you think it will push her even far? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 but in that case she will give up on this no? the thing is I want to get her back, don't you think it will push her even far? No, not at all. If anything, it might make her take you more seriously instead of thinking that you are some lovesick chump. It might actually get her wondering about what you are doing because you aren't there sucking up and being hopeless. And you have to remember, she pushed herself away from you. What you posted shows exactly why she has no attraction to you. You are a pet, a lap dog, not a man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
forgetmenot75 Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 If you seriously want her back, and if you want to feel better, all you have to do is this: -NO CONTACT FOR 3 MONTHS -IGNORE HER -IGNORE HER -DID I SAID IGNORE HER? Became unavailable for her. Let her feel what she's lost. Let her suffer (wow! ) for what she's lost. Do keep yourself busy. do not reply. do not contact. do DISAPPEAR from her radar. If she really wants you back, she'll let you know. I doubt if, after she telling you she is not turned on by you, but at least you'll feel better after the 3 months period. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I mean, if you continue to respond and be weak, you might be able to be platonic friends with her some day. She'll tell you about her day, about guys she is interested in, about problems with guys she's dating/hooking up with, etc. Is that really what you want? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 Alright! Time to get them on their toe now. I am more than 100% sure I am catch. I am 26 and I already have made enough money that I can retire right now. I am 6 feet handsome and good looking (this is what she used to say as well). I can get whatever I want. Its just that I am a person who invest himself emotionally into someone. Time to go on the way to be a superior man. I will keep you guys posted if anything. Link to post Share on other sites
forgetmenot75 Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Alright! Time to get them on their toe now. I am more than 100% sure I am catch. I am 26 and I already have made enough money that I can retire right now. I am 6 feet handsome and good looking (this is what she used to say as well). I can get whatever I want. Its just that I am a person who invest himself emotionally into someone. Time to go on the way to be a superior man. I will keep you guys posted if anything. Go online and find some hot chick, at least as a distraction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 Go online and find some hot chick, at least as a distraction. I will give it a shot Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 Online dating never work out for me. Coz I always look for something real. Hooking up without any emotions disgust me to be honest. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Online dating never work out for me. Coz I always look for something real. Hooking up without any emotions disgust me to be honest. Because everyone online is looking for that lol Link to post Share on other sites
Never Again Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 No, not at all. If anything, it might make her take you more seriously instead of thinking that you are some lovesick chump. It might actually get her wondering about what you are doing because you aren't there sucking up and being hopeless. And you have to remember, she pushed herself away from you. What you posted shows exactly why she has no attraction to you. You are a pet, a lap dog, not a man. Seriously this. You need to HEAL first and stop being desperate. I just started taking baby steps to see if my ex is interested...I don't know if she is, but I took a lot of good advice from these forums, so I'll share: Step 1.) Find myself again. Everyone suffers after a breakup. I was no exception and neither are you. I needed to start being ME again, not the sad guy I became because of the breakup. Step 2.) Move on. It's the only way to heal. It's the only way you have a chance to attract your ex back and it's the only way to find someone new. It's also the only way to be happy on your own. You HAVE to do this. Step 3.) No contact, or at least severely limited contact, for a long time. You both need the space. Make the most of it. Step 4.) If/when you interact...do not pursue. You will creep your ex out. If they're attract to you, they'll come to you. They broke up with you, they need to come back on their own. Anything you do will push them away further and will hurt you all over again because of renewed rejection. The most you can do is be yourself and not give them special attention. Step 5.) Do not read into their actions. If they want something, they'll be clear. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SheWillComeBack Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 hows your ex responding to those baby steps that you are taking? Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Alright! Time to get them on their toe now. I am more than 100% sure I am catch. I am 26 and I already have made enough money that I can retire right now. I am 6 feet handsome and good looking (this is what she used to say as well). I can get whatever I want. Its just that I am a person who invest himself emotionally into someone. Time to go on the way to be a superior man. I will keep you guys posted if anything. I suggest checking out this book. I just finished it and was a great read. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Never Again Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 hows your ex responding to those baby steps that you are taking? She's shown signs of the beginning of interest, but we were in a wedding together...and weddings (especially ones with alcohol) and make people act funny. No idea where it'll go from here, but I'm not stressing over it. My focus is on me. Link to post Share on other sites
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