Guitar Girl Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 So there is this guy that I have a mad crush on. He works as a driving examiner, and I seen him when I drove my friend to go get her drivers test done. He looks like he has a nice personality. When I was sitting in the car by myself when my friend went inside to use the washroom we locked eyes as he walked by, then when I went into the building he looked at me and smiled when I passed him by the doorways. I drove there today, this is two weeks after, and wrote a flirty note to him. I told him that I am attracted to him, that he is hot, and I can't stop thinking about him. That I want to get to know him. I did not say who I am on the note or give myself away. I left my number and told him to call or text me. I drove away awhile after. I am not a stalker and I don't go there everyday to see him. I would never do that. The last time I saw him besides today was two weeks ago. I don't think that he seen me at all today. Hours have gone by and he has not contacted me at all. I am not sure why. I told him in the note that I am not a freak and that I never did this before. I am just wondering if I freaked him out, or if he is not interested. You would think he would be curious. A guy did this to me a couple years ago, and I actually called him. That is how I got this idea. Does anybody have any insight on this or is he not interested. If he does not contact me I will just move on. Any advice will help. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 (edited) lol.....umm yep freaked you can freak a guy easily without any real effort if he doesnt know you very well...believe me been here and done that recently..phone call though..how would you feel if you received a note like that...that is what i ddint think of before i kamikazed myself......i was actually a bit in a schizo affective episode at the time so yeah freaky......my schizo affective side has no logic......smilin... he probably isnt going to contact you and has no way of knowing it was you it could be a guy for all he knows....i would not call if someone left this note on my car...if i had a car that is ...i dont drive ...lol...ahem......just move on every one makes mistakes...maybe next time you see him strike up a conversation when and if he ever mentions a note that some freak left on his car dont show any recognition make sure you dont take a sip of a soda or eat anything...it will without doubt come out of your nose when he says freak that or you will choke on food if you are eating not attractive.......... save the tell all for the wedding night..like this hey babe remember that note you thought some freak left...guess what?.its like charades mixed with a truth or dare game for a wedding night you can add hand signs and everything...should be fun...nah ..stick to making love......good luck ...dont stress...talk to him nexttiem you see him.....deb Edited October 12, 2013 by todreaminblue 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Keke1 Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 Orrrrrrrrrrr he could have a girlfriend/wife and don't want to go down that road 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 (edited) i was a goofy teen......who made whole planets of mistakes..in fact i still make them including bad grandma i mean gramma...i am also grandma who makes mistakes and a mother who makes a universe of them ...i call them learning experiences........as unfortunately we all have these moments and regrets.....uggh mistakes suck huh.....i think you are being a bit harsh on her........thats my opinion.....she made a mistake she isnt childish or silly.....she is pretty eloquent actually.....gave good advice to another poster and now she wants some compassionate advice not too much to ask for really...my reply was actually goofier/silly/childish more than her opening post........cheers....deb Edited October 14, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 you didn't even say who you are?! who would respond to that? he probably thinks it's a friend playing a joke on him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 For all he knows, you could be a dude. Then again, if he see that it was written in girly handwriting and he hasn't called, maybe it's because you're not a dude. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Criticality Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 You probably should left your name. Or some way to remember you by. How is he supposed to known youre not the 16 year old jailbait or the 500 pd late fourties divorcee he drove with last week? Don't be surprised and don't take it as a rejection if he doesn't call. You basically asked him to take a spin on the roulette and see if he gets to be lucky and go home with something nice. Link to post Share on other sites
ConstantVoyager Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 I wouldn't contact someone who left a random note on my car. It would creep me out. You should have waited to speak to him. Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted October 12, 2013 Share Posted October 12, 2013 woah....stage 5 clingon . Not saying you ARE that, but that would definately be my impression.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Guitar Girl Posted October 13, 2013 Author Share Posted October 13, 2013 Whoa, what's with the rude responses. Like I said some guy did that to me before, and it did not freak me out. He did text me tonight. He said that he was nervous and thought it was somebody from his work. Yes I do have girly writing, but it's nice and bubbly. He told me that he is going through divorce and that I made his week. He even wants to meet me for coffee, and said why didn't I come talk to him. I problaby will not be bothering with him. I dated men going through divorce and split ups, it does not really work out. He also has kids. No he was not freaked out, he was just nervous. But please wtf is up with the rudeness. I thought that this place was for support and advice. I would never be rude to anybody that ask me for help. A homeless person once came up to me and begged for food, and I got that person a sandwich and pop from the store. I am not a rude person and try to help others. Everybody else should problaby do the same. BTW who cares about my grammar everybody has bad grammar. My teacher told me when I was in high school that Ihave a high spelling level of grade 12 and that is rare. Anyways thanks for the advice I mean insults! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConstantVoyager Posted October 13, 2013 Share Posted October 13, 2013 I definitely didn't mean to insult you. I would legitimately be creeped out if someone left a note on my car. My thinking would go... They did't want to approach me, but they know my car, are they going to follow me home....? I live in LA though. My radar is highly tuned and very sensitive. It might be different if I were in a small town or something. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted October 13, 2013 Share Posted October 13, 2013 Regardless, it is kind of cool that he contacted her... Link to post Share on other sites
LuvsTrucks2 Posted October 14, 2013 Share Posted October 14, 2013 Many years ago, I had the same thing happen to me with a note being left on my car at the commuter parking lot. It did freak me out because obviously someone was watching me that I didn't know about. Needless to say, I did not contact the person. I was paranoid for a few weeks after that. Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted October 14, 2013 Share Posted October 14, 2013 The worst of the non-collaborative and/or off-topic postings were removed/edited as a result of moderation browsing this thread. Carry on. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted October 14, 2013 Share Posted October 14, 2013 As a guy, this would make my day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted October 14, 2013 Share Posted October 14, 2013 Tough call. I would be both flattered and also nervous. The fact that you didn't give him a clue as to who you are would make me nervous. If you told him who you are, left your name, then I would be stoked! Link to post Share on other sites
tlegend Posted October 14, 2013 Share Posted October 14, 2013 As a guy, this would make my day. I agree. If I were to go out to my car only to find a note that compliments me.....I think that would make my day as well. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 15, 2013 Share Posted October 15, 2013 So there is this guy that I have a mad crush on. He works as a driving examiner, and I seen him when I drove my friend to go get her drivers test done. He looks like he has a nice personality. When I was sitting in the car by myself when my friend went inside to use the washroom we locked eyes as he walked by, then when I went into the building he looked at me and smiled when I passed him by the doorways. I drove there today, this is two weeks after, and wrote a flirty note to him. I told him that I am attracted to him, that he is hot, and I can't stop thinking about him. That I want to get to know him. I did not say who I am on the note or give myself away. I left my number and told him to call or text me. I drove away awhile after. I am not a stalker and I don't go there everyday to see him. I would never do that. The last time I saw him besides today was two weeks ago. I don't think that he seen me at all today. Hours have gone by and he has not contacted me at all. I am not sure why. I told him in the note that I am not a freak and that I never did this before. I am just wondering if I freaked him out, or if he is not interested. You would think he would be curious. A guy did this to me a couple years ago, and I actually called him. That is how I got this idea. Does anybody have any insight on this or is he not interested. If he does not contact me I will just move on. Any advice will help. Thank you. OK, generally, it was impressive that you were as proactive as you were, but time will help you realize that the best things come to those who are even more bold. As it stood after this first post, there could have been any of a million reasons why he didn't reply: Chief among them would be that he's seeing someone. (an even more direct approach, by the person in your shoes, would at least afford themselves the comfort of knowing his 'reason' was not related to YOU-you) I think the main understanding that will help you the most in the future is that you really can be more bold and direct than you were and you will live through it if indeed you are rejected. (but bravo for your having at least been proactive to that degree) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Guitar Girl Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 I won;t bother with this guy because he is going through divorce and has baggage. Even though he wants to have coffee I know that I would be wasting my time. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I won;t bother with this guy because he is going through divorce and has baggage. Even though he wants to have coffee I know that I would be wasting my time. Guitar Girl, why not just have coffee with him? He was courteous enough to respond to you so why not respond to him and go for coffee? Just be safe. Meet and park in a public safe place! Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Awww go and meet him for coffee! What have you got to lose? Come on, live a little lol U put a note on his car. He actually called! That's great haha. It doesn't have to lead to anything. It's just a rather cool situation. Link to post Share on other sites
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