Ex says she hates me, but getting mixed signals?

[ThomasJW]

Alright, to keep the story short I split up with my ex girlfriend of 6 months two weeks ago, we split up due to the mounting arguments and it wasn't helping her depression issues. (She was raped 8 months prior to us getting together, she never fully got over the event), We decided to stay as friends after however so I can help her progress. Her parents also said to her after the second time I met her that it may be best to not see me until she's fully ready next year, which we both agreed to do.

 

However about a week ago I have been noticing some fairly harsh mood-swings from her, I left it around 3 days (two days ago now) to then ask what was wrong, she then responded with quite a angry "..no point talking to me", which I asked why, she then stated that I blamed her over her parents wanting us to wait longer for her to be fully prepared for a relationship, that I hurt her more than helped her and that I kept fighting with her only to bring her down, all of which are not true. I did everything I could for the past 11 months of knowing her to help her each and every day, I know looking back I never blamed her for anything nor fought to hurt her, we only had some fights some times because half the time I was insecure and the other half she caused the fights over petty things like why I never got back online early from college etc.

 

The last thing she said to be was "no tom. i can't trust you. i'm done." which I replied that maybe it's best to give us some time apart, focus on other things and come back in a few months time to try start again as friends, she never responded which I took it as a 'Whatever' on her part. Since the fight for the past two days I have been noticing some erratic mood swings from her in that she's constantly liking some 'teen pages' photo's on Facebook, some have a positive look ("I loved you, I'm sorry.") and some negative ("I trusted you, but your actions spoke the truth.") etc, I've also noticed she has posted a status saying "Trust is very easily lost, but never easy to gain back ...", being some sort of swipe at me I guess.

 

But after all this negativity she liked two of my answers on Ask.FM completely irrelevant to us in any way, one of them was a song ("One Republic - Counting Stars" in response to 'favorite song at the moment?') and the second a picture of two West Yorkshire Terrier puppies, which is both of our favorite breed of dog. (We also planned on getting one westie one day when we a home) but I'm sure if she really did hate me she would have deleted/blocked me by now? or is her emotions just fighting making her say something she doesn't mean?

 

I've planned for two months before I contact her again in hope we can start fresh, I'm still unsure however if this will be long enough to help erase the false negative image of me in her head or if she'd keep in contact with me by then, but I guess I just need to push forward and hope that time will help.

 

Any help or insight will be greatly appreciated, I feel completely confused about all this.

 

Thankyou.

 

*Update* And now a hour ago she posted a string of answers on her Ask.FM profile, some aimed at me and some aren't, she answered the question 'If you could ask any question to who, what may it be?' Where she said "(not saying who) ... and ...... (not saying what)", even some scrapes of little things like the question 'You're given one wish...what is it?' where she responded "To be happy with someone, as there would be no secrets or lies", I'm just ignoring anything she posts but so far no contact towards me, which I'm still intrigued about.

Edited October 12, 2013 by ThomasJW
Posted update.

[ThomasJW]

So, I'm back here again two months on.

 

The situation before was I split up with my girlfriend so she can have some time out of relationships to get over her rape a few months prior by an ex, she's moved back home and went under watch by her parents for the following months. I posted my previous thread when we split and just after our last fight.

 

We kept in LC, (Low Contact) for the past say 4 months. We talked sometimes, like say 1-2 a week until say about a month ago. She met a kid online and in a few days they were to go on a date, I sent my regards 'hope it goes well' etc and went NC. 4 days later she messaged me, she said this guy turned out to be a dick and he upset her, I comforted her and from there we became somewhat closer.

 

That was about a month ago, we're still talking and I feel we're closer with eachother than what we have been for the past few months. About 2-3 months prior she said she's moving back into her place in February, I asked if I can start seeing her again and she said yes, however she needs to sort her head/feelings out first. She's currently under therapy right now also.

 

Today however, was different. she somehow got word that I wasn't feeling too good (I was feeling slightly down, nothing that serious) and messaged me asking what was wrong, I responded where she gave quite a blunt reply. I asked what was wrong and she said "Just miss someone, distance shouldn't occur", this puzzled me as I'm the only guy that lives quite far from her while I'm the closest friend-wise to her, she's isolated herself from all male contact aside from me and a few friends so I really don't think there's a another guy.

 

As the conversation went on she said she's currently crying into her pillow, we never said all too much about this 'guy' but when I said 'he' in the conversation she joked "It could be a girl ;)" I joked back, and then left the conversation on a high note as she went off to bed.

 

What could this mean?

 

I did check my old dating profile and as I had thought she deactivated hers prior, she reactivated it from what I know after we split but took it down two months back, just as we started talking more.

Edited December 5, 2013 by ThomasJW