How did you meet your husband/wife?

[tinktronik]

We met at a dinner. He was in the booth behind me and listened in on a conversation I was having. Then he introduced himself. We were friends for a while and then roommates for a year. Then we got it that we actually liked each other more than anyone else.

[central]

She found me on match.com 14 years ago. We had a few great dates, but she was very unsure of herself, being newly back into dating. I, however, knew what I wanted, and she was as ideal a match as I could imagine based on what I knew from the time we did spend together. She freaked out and broke it off to figure out what she wanted and to learn to trust her judgment. Six months later, she wanted to give it another try, and I was very glad to do so.

 

We have been inseparable since then and eventually got married. For each of us, it is our ideal concept of how a relationship should be, so it is working very well for us both.

[2.50 a gallon]

After the breakup of my marriage, I came to the conclusion that I liked living alone a woman's only purpose in my life was as a bed partner. Even though I was successful in the dating world I was always on the lookout for new blood to score with.

 

Fourteen years later, on a very hot July night, after getting off work near midnight I stopped in a convenience store for a cold soda. She was working the register. She had one of those rare faces, that upon meeting my first thought was this was a face I could kiss good morning to for the rest of my life. The store's AC was on the fritz and in order for her to keep a little cool, she was wearing cutoffs, My second thought was "O WOW, look at them legs". And the rest of her is fantastic, I've got to meet the woman.

 

So on the way back to the cooler, I am wracking my brain for something to say that will get me noticed and coming up with Zilch. Failing to come up with a first line, thirst overcame me, and I finally headed toward the register.

 

Upon reaching for my old wallet, it proceeded to embarrass me by exploding, bills, notes, cards, coupons were scattered every where.

 

The Gods looked down in favor with me that night, as from out of nowhere I looked her in the eye and said "I know you have been wondering what you can buy me for Christmas! It would appear that I could use a new wallet."

 

This cracked her up, the ice was broken and thereafter she still thinks that I am funny. And 20 years later still remembers the first words that I ever said to her.

[2.50 a gallon]

As I suspected, with her great looks there had to be a man in her life. And I was right, a couple of years after her divorce she had met the love of her life and had been living with him for several years.

 

My only chance was to not push, and wait for him to make a mistake. That chance came about 2 years later.

 

Tonight, is our 18th anniversary of our first date.

[pink_sugar]

Chance encounter...we met at work. Wasn't planning on having a boyfriend anytime soon, but it just happened.

[Johnsmith1003]

She was in my old friends Criminal Investigation class. My old friend was trying to get strangers together at a local park here because she thought it'd be fun. I reluctantly obliged, but only when I REEEAALLY didn't want to do schoolwork. I got there, notice some familiar faces. Among those were some new faces of course, and one of them became my wife. I poked fun at her shortness and the way she laughed. She also decided to join us in playing hackey sack. And she sucked. But then it started to weave from there.

[mrs rubble]

I met my fiance at a nudist club. We were both naked.

[Quiet Storm]

In weight training class. I was in 10th grade, he was a senior. He never wore socks with his tennis shoes. I thought that was cute.

[Emilia]

What a lovely thread.

[Solcita2]

I met my F through Facebook... After meeting my ex through Facebook too and thigns ending up to be very fuc*ed up (he was married) I never thought I would let myself meet anyone new through that again...

 

He sent me a message asking me if I knew a Japanese writer (I'm Japanese descendant)... of course I had absolutely no idea who the heck he was talking about. But he was so nice when he wrote that I decided to write back in a very polite way, and I asked him why he was interested in that writer (it was very weird for a Latin guy to be interested in a Japanese writer after all).

 

We started talking through Facebook message. He used to write very large messages (like myself). Then we discovered I was working in a studio of the same field of his career and I was interested in his speciality (even when my career was very different, it was a summer job for me).

 

We decided to meet in person 10 days after starting to talk, I had no intentions to waist my or his time at all... We met and I liked him, althought I thought I had a new friend and he fell hard for me!

 

I did try to end things because I felt it was not fair for him, but he did push me to keep seeing each other... He loves to cook (I'm suck at it) so he would bring me lunch to my office... very delicious food and all the girls were very very jelous! That did help him a lot... he won me through my stomach LOL

 

Things progressed really quickly after that... even when we both said to each other we didn't have any intentions to have a serious relationship (like introducing families or anything like that) I think that 2 months after that he was having dinner at my house and I met his mom a month after that...

 

We've been together for 5 years now, 4 years living together... Now I'm living in JAPAN! (which I never ever thought about) and having a LDR... he'll be coming for visit next year and maybe moving for good the year after that

[JamesM]

Was it a chance encounter?

 

No, not totally. Initially, her friend tried to set us up, but I had just partially (but not totally) broke up with someone (and we got back together again). We met a few times at some youth outings, but while my eyes looked at her with interest, I wasn't ready to ask her out. Six months after our first meeting in July, I saw her come down some stairs wearing a light blue dress. Her skin was tanned and her blue eyes sparkled. I have never in all my life before or after that day had the feelings of "wow!" that I had when I saw her standing there. I have never been smitten by anyone like that. Even still, that image of her is as vivid in my mind as my heart can still flutter and my heart races. I can remember who I was sitting next to and some of the details. The girl I was with even asked me, "Are you okay?" Nope, I wasn't....I stuttered. And so we did meet again later that day and were with each other until evening. A couple of days later was July 4 and we were together again. Some say we saw fireworks in the sky that day, but I know I felt them in my heart. And I think my eyes could hardly keep off her bright eyes and happy smile.

 

Did you start dating right away?

 

Six months after our first meeting. One week after our "fireworks" meeting.

 

Did you just "know" that it's special?

 

Yes on that day in July, because I had never felt that way for another woman before or again. I just knew that this was the something that people always talked about when they said, "Don't worry. The day will come when you will just know." And I did. Two days later, I told a colleague at work that I just met my wife this weekend. She said I was crazy...but I was right. She was too.

 

I could tell the whole story because it is pretty cool, but the details would really give me away if someone I knew read this. About a year and a half later we married.

 

That was more than twenty five years ago, and despite all that we have gone through and will probably go through, I never thought that there is/was someone better out there for me. I simply thought that this someone could be a little bit better for me. I truly wish that I could take away all of her pain, stress, and frustrations in life. The once happy wife and girl I had has so many issues to deal with that it breaks my heart sometimes when I really think of it all.

 

Honestly, no regrets. She is still the most beautiful woman to me. She is still the most passionate and mischievous woman that I have met. I love her humor and sparkling eyes. I adore her smile and kiss. Her wit and intelligence amaze me at times...even if they irritate me at other times. Her impulsiveness is a good balance to my cautiousness. And I could go on and on.

 

Besides, she is the mother of our wonderful children.

 

Wouldn't it be cool if I could go back to that day and knowing what I know, say to her, "Do you realize that one day we will have some neat kids together?" I would love to have seen the look on her face! I know she would have called me crazy and ran!

[serial muse]

We met online. I remember our first date - he's very quiet, not at all like my usual type (I'm a moderate introvert who tended to date really rambunctious extroverts) and I couldn't tell if he really liked me because he wasn't particularly effusive or flirty. There wasn't much sexual tension or light-hearted joking around; instead he was clearly an intense, driven sort of person. But I was intrigued; he was smart and handsome and interesting, and when the date was over he didn't just take off, even though he had his bike and it was a daytime date - he walked with me for about 20 minutes to the metro just because and to continue our conversation, which seemed like a good sign that he was interested in me too.

 

I liked him but I still wasn't sure about our personality matchup, and as it happened we were both about to leave the country for extended trips; I was traveling overseas with a friend for a few weeks, and then he went overseas for work, so it could have just ended there. But while he was gone he started emailing me these long, thoughtful letters (which I now know is really out of character for him!) and we struck up a correspondence.

 

Then, finally, about two months after our first date, we were both back in town and we met up for a second date - and the rest is history.

 

Edited to add: For those who don't know my story, we've been married about 2 years (we met back in 2006) and I'm about to have our first baby. Aaaaaany day now. (Actually due in a couple of weeks)

Edited October 28, 2013 by serial muse

[JamesM]

Edited to add: For those who don't know my story, we've been married about 2 years (we met back in 2006) and I'm about to have our first baby. Aaaaaany day now. (Actually due in a couple of weeks)

 

Side not and not intended to t/j.....congrats on the baby! It should make for some exciting times....good and maybe not so good. Seriously, enjoy every minute of each day even when you don't want to. It will go so fast.

[ThomasD]

. . . But while he was gone he started emailing me these long, thoughtful letters (which I now know is really out of character for him!) and we struck up a correspondence. . . .

Sounds similar to my experience (back on first page of this thread). Writing can be a great way for two somewhat quiet-and-shy people to get acquainted at a rather personal level.

 

. . . I'm about to have our first baby. Aaaaaany day now. (Actually due in a couple of weeks)

Congratulations! I recall our first pregnancy as being an especially exciting, loving (and sexy) time. Having a child, like getting married, is a statement of faith in your future together.

[serial muse]

Thanks, guys - we're very excited and also rather nervous! :bunny:

 

And yes, Thomas, I think you're right - the letter-writing was a good way for us to create intimacy, as it turned out (as it happens, we both write for a living too).

[GorillaTheater]

Wouldn't it be cool if I could go back to that day and knowing what I know, say to her, "Do you realize that one day we will have some neat kids together?" I would love to have seen the look on her face! I know she would have called me crazy and ran!

 

Hahahaha! "Hey baby, you just met the father of your eight children. Give me some sugar."

[serial muse]

Hahahaha! "Hey baby, you just met the father of your eight children. Give me some sugar."

 

I seriously LOL'd at this.

[Valen]

Met through introduction of a military colleague who was her brother-in-law at a baseball game I was playing in. When I first saw her my heart did a flip and a flop and I thought, "Damn, she is a military wife or she wouldn't be here." Then her brother-in-law comes up to me after the game and introduces his wife's little sister. It was HER. I invited her for a beer and we talked non-stop for four hours. I was hooked when she pushed me up against the wall and gave me an amazing kiss when she said goodbye.

We had a summer fling where we pretty much were glued at the hip, but she was just visiting her sister so she said "No relationships, I am toooo young. I do not want anything but fun."

I knew this one was an anomaly in the land of women. I was crushed that she didn't want anything more, but I respected her because not to would have violated her opinion on the matter. It took all of my willpower not to fight to the death for her, but I knew she was used to men fighting for her/over her and acting nuts over her so I just reigned it in. In fact after three intense months of a whirlwind courtship, and her reluctance to have anything to do with me long-term because she didn't want to get married and that is the way we both knew this would end, she left me to go home to another state.

However, I gave her her space. I just told her this before she left. I said, "You will be back because you are in love with me. You may not figure this out tomorrow or next month or next year, but we are meant to be together. I am the man you will marry one day. I am as sure of this as I am that I love who you are and what you feel like in my arms."

A week later I get a knock on the door. I had been respectful of her request for no contact, but internally I was crushed that I hadn't even heard form her.

I open the door and there she stands with her suitcase and tears in her eyes. I just wrapped her in my arms and said, "What took you so long?"

We married 1 year and 3 months later, but I was married as soon as she showed up on my doorstep.

Grumps

 

 

Grump, you are da man!

[d0nnivain]

We met at a business card exchange. We were both there to drum up business. Neither of us got a new client that day but . . .

 

I thought he was gorgeous from the moment I laid eyes on him. I also thought he was a player because he looked like one but he's the farthest thing from a player.

 

After the event I sent him a note saying I was glad to have met him. When he called me and asked me to dinner at a low end restaurant for the following MONDAY I was devestated because I thought he didn't like me but wanted to get together so he could pitch me what he was selling.

 

It took him 3 dates to get up the nerve to kiss me.

 

About 1.5 years later he took me on a cruise & proposed at dinner.

[jimmytwowheels]

Sisters friend. She and I commented on something online, and eventually messaged each other. We lived a few hours away but talked constantly. So my sister invited her to thanksgiving dinner (at my parents who live in the same city as her). She was wearing a beautiful red dress, looked absolutely radiant, most gorgeous smile ever. We talked all dinner and after.

My mom told me to walk her home. I declined. Didn't want to pressure her.

 

After that I hounded her for a date (even though it meant a 2 hour drive). She was really nervous and put me off a few times but I finally got it. First date I showed up on my Nighthawk and threw her a helmet. We went up to the escarpment, down to the wanterfront, and drank a bottle of Deus Brut des Flanders at a beer bar. We kissed once.

 

Getting married next year.

[down hearted]

i met my husband at a friend's house (she was dating this guy there and my husband was this guy's friend), so one day i was over my friend's and this guy brought his friend (my husband) and we just clicked right away (i swear it was meant to be), we just talked and talked and we were deeply interested in each other and ever since that day we became absolutely inseparable, he still sends me flowers and chocolates and surprises me like if it were our first date , when he was away for his first deployment he called me every single day and sent me flowers even to my job even though we were worlds apart love him so much, he is so romantic and all mines

[SimplyMeee]

Was it a chance encounter?

Did you start dating right away?

Did you just "know" that it's special?

 

Me & mine met in High school.. it was the year we both entered a new Vocational school .. we met at the Lunch table...

 

When a few of his friends didn't show up that day...a girlfriend from my table called him over feeling bad he was sitting there alone ..... we got to talking...and we've never stopped.

 

He asked me to be his girl within a week.. .when he did this in the hall going to classes...I didn't know what to say, I ran into the bathroom thinking to myself.. "I hardly know him!"-- standing in the stall / or sitting (I forget)....thinking... "well he is cute enough without those glasses!" ...so I came out and said "Yes"... and our journey began.

 

I was 15...he was 18

[ThomasD]

... and our journey began.

 

I was 15...he was 18

I'm sure many people said it wouldn't last, but I know several couples who met in High School and have now been married for decades.

 

I kept that in mind as my own kids started dating in High School. It turned out that their High School relationships lased a few weeks to a couple of years but didn't lead to marriage. I'm glad the relationships where I thought there wasn't a good match eventually broke up but I still wonder if some of the others might have turned out like you two.

[Valen]

Me & mine met in High school.. it was the year we both entered a new Vocational school .. we met at the Lunch table...

 

When a few of his friends didn't show up that day...a girlfriend from my table called him over feeling bad he was sitting there alone ..... we got to talking...and we've never stopped.

 

He asked me to be his girl within a week.. .when he did this in the hall going to classes...I didn't know what to say, I ran into the bathroom thinking to myself.. "I hardly know him!"-- standing in the stall / or sitting (I forget)....thinking... "well he is cute enough without those glasses!" ...so I came out and said "Yes"... and our journey began.

 

I was 15...he was 18

 

 

Aweeeee that's so cute.