Online relationship direction?

[swordsmen121]

I was in an online relationship with a girl for 3 years. I mean she was everything I wanted we video chatted and everything too. And yes she was no catfish I knew the person completely both physically and emotionally and I know she was authentic. At one point we wanted to marry each other. But due to some circumstances on my part I wasn't ready. Its mainly due to financial and academic reasons.

 

We called it off. Now she is interested in someone else. And I support her to be with him in everyway. However, now she mentioned it clearly that when she gets married to him she will stop talking to me completely. And that the only reason shes talking to me right now is because she wants to make it easy on me. She's not interested in being my friend when she settles down.

 

At this point I feel like its completely one sided. I mean I chose to see her as a close friend now despite everything and I would still want to know her strictly as friends. I feel like its completely one sided on my part and that she doesn't feel the same about me or would want to have me around in any way whatsoever.

 

At this point I'm wondering if I should just stop talking to her completely. I don't want people to be around just cuz of my feelings or 'want to make it easy on me'. I can handle on my own. For her sakes I think its best I should stop talking to her so she can get to bond with this guy completely. Is that a good decision? I would be interested in being her friend but shes made it clear that I won't exist down the road because she wants to be 'loyal' to her new love.

[petall]

Yes, it's best to cut ties. She's made it clear that is what she'll do anyway when she gets married. Why prolong matters? It's not fair for you when you still have feelings.

 

Have you ever met this girl in real life? Take note your attachment could also be some kind of fantasy bond. Actual life interactions can be very different to having purely online communications. Perceptions are a very strange thing and your mind could form a view of someone who is not completely what you think.