Did she cheat on me?

[borneric]

Yes, you make a good point..when is enough enough?? I have always been a non tolerance man regarding lying and cheating..I was cheated on back in 2006 by my then american fiancé and I said f...ck you and hung up. No turning back.

 

The thing is, I really love this woman...its something special between us and it could be that she made the biggest f...ck of her life...I have to think about this more.

 

A decision has to be made by me though...in the next week.

 

 

 

 

Seems like once you empty your plate, she fills it backup with another heaping helping lie and bull $h!t and you keep eating and asking for more.

 

Boils down to this. How much is enough? How many lies before you finally realize that she isn't who you think she is.

 

Do the right thing and move on before they have to pump your stomach form all the bs she fed you.

[borneric]

This is the letter I sent to her. I meant every word. Thanks everybody for contributing and taking time to share some great advice. Take care..

 

 

 

Dear .......

 

I really saw you as a honest person and I told myself that it was me that was projecting on you...that the phone call was just you getting emotional with your ex affair...And then I had that horrible nightmare...Maybe is was God telling me that you were a dishonest person who would **** when ever she would feel like it; a future filled with worry and distrust.

 

I KNOW THAT IT HAPPENED MORE THAT ONCE BUT YOU WERE NOT A WOMAN ENOUGH TO TELL ME THE TRUTH...I KNOW THAT YOU MET HIM AND ****ED HIM ONE LAST TIME BEFORE TRAVELLING TO EUROPE. I KNOW IT.

 

I KNOW THAT YOU ****ED HIM MORE THAN ONCE...and I mean, more that just that time in august...but you are to much of a cheater to admit your mistake...if you admit it there would have been chance for redemption..but you just ****ed up big time...

 

if you would have been 100% honest then I could see that you were truly sorry and wanted to be the person that you really want to be: Honest, trustworthy and oral...I mean loyal.

 

Like I told you...I have a non tolerance for cheating...I really love you.. extremely much...but We were together, seriously, I saw a life with you but you decided to **** your ex-lover. We had just decided to be together..I have been faithful to you ever since we got together in the end of June...but you obviously have another life view...

If you feel low self-esteem of a bit crappy or confused anything can happen right?

 

Your excuses about not remembering what really happened is just so pathetic...so childish. The oldest excuse...no body buys that anymore. I have no respect for you whatsoever. You are a cheater and that´s how I will remember you....to bad but you made that bed...literally.

 

hahaha..like you can't remember if you ****ed him once or twice..? Ridiculous...and you think that I would buy that???.

 

Well, Im not willing to take that risk. That you would do that again is very likely because you have already stepped over the line...and the statistics says that you have a lot of percentage against you....next time you would probably have a even better excuse: You know, it just happened...I was having a bad day...and you know, I just wanted to be loved...but it won't happen again...cause I love you...BS.

 

Do you really think that I would forgive you after taking another mans cock inside and God knows what else you did to him...and then you have the stomach to talk to me after you ****ed his brains out and acted like nothing happened..Time doesn't matter...it happened and that shows who you are.

 

Second, There is no statute of limitations for getting mad about cheating. If it was 20 years ago you have as much right to get mad as if it was last night. I wanted answers but your ego and pride kept you from stepping up. to bad.

 

The sad thing is...I had a serious talk with my colleague and your friend ....... and asked him who you were...and he only had good things to talk about you... but you obviously live a double life..and I even think you get a kick out of getting away with things..ITS ****ED UP...not even your family knows about your 1,5 year affair with MR. CHEATER ......... And that you could **** him time after time with his poor wife at home with his kids...its just ridiculous.

 

Yes, I know that this happened one month after we got together..but it feels like it happened last week. This truly shows who you are deep inside. I think you and ....... would be a great couple because you are both cheaters..you could probably make each other very happy and understand each others faults...cause you are, after all, on the same level= CHEATERS and LIERS: A good match. Good luck and God Bless. You will have a great life together...try sleeping good at night knowing that he is ****ing some 20 year old beauty while you then have to revenge and **** the cable guy.

 

We talked everyday...I kept a good communication with you..you had no reason to **** HIM.

 

He was inside you..I can't live with that, that´s how it is. You took his cock and enjoyed it...you drove your own car...you checked in to a motel...you knew what was going to happen...but you didn't give a **** about us...You made so many choices on top of each other. You could have said: No, I can not take your cock, I am together with Eric but you decided to please him. DISGUSTING. YOU DESERVE HIM. GO BACK AND GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR........ I think he will make you very happy, secure and not least...WET. Wet by the tears you will be crying when it dawns on you how bad you screwed up.

 

SECOND: I asked you so many times and you LIED straight in my face time after time...THIS IS THE BIGGEST ISSUE!!!!!!! BECAUSE THIS SHOWS THAT YOU CAN AND WILL, LIE IN THE FUTURE IF IT SERVES YOUR INTERESTS.

 

When we made love in Japan I could literally "feel" that you had ****ED someone else...I asked you about it but you again LIED straight to my face..and you even asked me how I could even think that about you...hahaha. Shame on me.

 

WHY DID You LIE time after time???? You could have told me when you arrived and we could have worked it out..I would have understood..and our love would have been even stronger because we were honest with each other!

 

You chose to be dishonest and build our relationship on a lie. THIS IS THE MAIN REASON.

 

Well, the consequences is that ITS OVER AND I DONT EVER WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN.

 

I wish you the best and I hope that you will somehow become a better decision maker and find peace with yourself and who ever you decide to settle down with.

 

IF YOU **** ANOTHER PERSON YOU DONT LOVE THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH. THATS IT. Period. Because if you truly love someone you don't open up your legs to the cock that you left behind. period.

 

Sure, if you would have told me that you were at a dinner..he was there..you drank some wine and then you just kissed and thats it...sure I would understand...if you told me. BUT YOU ****ING WENT TO A PLACE THAT IS IN THE BUSINESS OF AFFAIRS...you allowed your self to go there...take your clothes of...get runny wet and beg him to push his twisted son of a bitch cock inside you...you probably screamed...GOSTOSO, GOSTOSO...GIVE ME MORE, I LOVE YOU...blabla etc etc. Then you PROBABLY SUCKED HIS SHAMLESS SHAFT and he came all over you. But this you would of course never tell me...to much, right? Not like you, right? You are a good girl...alteast that´s what you want people to think. To bad you fooled everybody...sooner or later your trueself will be exposed.

 

GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR ........ but who would want a cheater? I think he already figure this out and he doesn't want your company....He wants a REAL woman who respects trust and doesn't open up their pussy to a cock that doesn't belong there.

 

I wish you all the best.

 

 

 

 

P.S. I have to add one thing....check out the attached picture...its a girl that I ****ed about 45 minutes ago. Wow, I obviously still have game.... She was great...actually helped me forget you. She is traveling with me to Fort Lauderdale in one hour to check out the surroundings during the week.

 

Oh, it was justified cause I wrote this email before I even kissed her:) So, I already broke up with you...hahaha. Feels good right to know?

 

Well, now you are free and you can call ........... and marry him...cause you really feel like his wife, right? Have a great life filled with prosperity and faithfulness and I really hope that you can be trusted in the future. I really mean that.

 

 

bye bye. Ciao. Asta la Vista baby. It was great getting to know THE TRUE YOU. IT saved me a lot of Bull****.

 

Best Regards, Eric

[SaltwaterHeart]

Hi Eric,

 

So sorry to hear of your story. Seems like you gave it everything you could. I know the feeling of being lied to repeatedly in a relationship and it makes you feel incredibly insignificant, betrayed and helpless.

In the end, I actually think you dodged a bullet. (Lieber ein Ende mit Schrecken als ein Schrecken ohne Ende!)

I know that closure is important but I must say I probably wouldn't have sent that final letter to her. Your thoughts are quite unstructured and you come across as extremely wounded and confused. Why would you give her that kind of satisfaction after what she did to you?

[borneric]

What do you think about the chances of a girl cheating again? I mean, if they already stepped over that line..??

 

 

I do regret now sending the email... I really do. To much wine and emotions at the time.

 

Thank you for your response.

[SaltwaterHeart]

What do you think about the chances of a girl cheating again? I mean, if they already stepped over that line..??

 

 

I do regret now sending the email... I really do. To much wine and emotions at the time.

 

Thank you for your response.

 

 

Sorry, didn't see your reply there!

 

Well, that's what I meant by saying you dodged a bullet. I don't think her behaviour will get any better... worse, if anything!

But to me the alarming thing about all of this was the way she treated you disrespectfully by lying to you. It just makes me think she didn't have genuine feelings for you.

Don't beat yourself up over the email. It doesn't change anything in the end!

 

Hope you're doing better already! Not sure if you've moved on or are still browing the forum. Either way, I wish you well.

[borneric]

Sorry, didn't see your reply there!

 

Well, that's what I meant by saying you dodged a bullet. I don't think her behaviour will get any better... worse, if anything!

But to me the alarming thing about all of this was the way she treated you disrespectfully by lying to you. It just makes me think she didn't have genuine feelings for you.

Don't beat yourself up over the email. It doesn't change anything in the end!

 

Hope you're doing better already! Not sure if you've moved on or are still browing the forum. Either way, I wish you well.

 

Thank you for your reply, I´m still processing this whole thing but I do think, like you said, that I dodged a bullet.