Texting frequency

[hkh8871]

Well his ex got the boyfriend waaay after him and i got together - not sure if that makes a big difference

[Solcita2]

Ok... I have a new answer now.

I had a very difficult week myself, very busy, long days (going out at 7, coming back at 10).

In the other side of the world, my F has been busy himself by helping a friend... he hates waking up early but he's been going out at 8 and coming back around 5/6.

 

That been said, we kept speaking twice a day.

 

Even when he was already out of the house we would speak when I was coming back (me from the train, he at his friend's house) until I arrived home.

Then in the morning I would wake up earlier to be able to speak with him as soon as he went back home.

 

And today while I was coming home he said something and I kept thinking I had to post it here. He said:

"I love you more and more each day... I don't know what's up with me...!"

To which I said "the distance makes wonders!"

And he said: "No... BECAUSE SOMETIMES I DO FEEL WE SPEAK TOO-MUCH... sometimes I'm too tired, sometimes I'm just not in a good mood or too busy... sometimes i just don't feel like talking... but anyway if I don't speak with you, I feel I lost a day of my life! I don't idolized you... at all, I just miss you."

Then he said "It's not the distance... at all. I really love you. No matter what happens. Together or not. If I ever lose you, I think I will feel that you were an unique love... the kind of love you carry with you inside and you have to lie to yourself to keep going... I love you, just that!"

 

So... there you have. If he loves you, he will make time to speak with you... I'm not saying you should speak twice a day... but enough...

[hkh8871]

So just in case anyone was wondering- I wanted to update a bit on how my LDR is. He just left back to America today after a week together- it was not perfect but it was nice and fun and I think exactly what we needed to get back on track and find our ways back to each other. I mean there was definitely a bit of distance but I think that it's probably for the best- mainly on my part because he was becoming too much of my "whole life" instead of a part of my life that is making me happy- which i guess was a source of one of the problems. He did admit to me that he before we were "officially" together had kissed another girl and even slept with her but after he had had sex with me for the first time he didn't have sex with anyone and that after we were "officially" together that nothing ever happened- so I was a bit upset but in the end he didn't "break any rules". When he left this morning I cried like I usually do and he wiped away my tears and held me and kissed me and said that its only 6 weeks til we see each other and that he had fun with me here. It'll get easier with time I know but the first few days of being apart are always difficult. I'm hoping our communication will get better now that we both have let go of a lot of resentment and are happier to be in this relationship together. He still hasn't said I love you, but neither have i so I guess that will come on it's own time. I'm hoping that the texts I saw were just flukes because we weren't clicking so well and he thought that I was going to break up with him...I guess I will have to take a leap of faith on that one.