roger Posted March 11, 1999 Share Posted March 11, 1999 HELL MY NAME IS ROGER AND I'M COMPLETELY WORN OUT. I HAVE A GIRLFRIEN WHO IS BIPOLAR. BEING BI POLAR IS THE OPPOSITE OF MANIC DEPRESSIVE WHERE SHE CAN BE EITHER A PSYCHOTIC BITCH ONE SECOND OR A LOVING OR DEPRESSED WOMAN THE NEXT SECOND. I AM A VERY PATIENT PERSON IN DEALIN G WITH HER PROBLEM AND AT THE SAME TIME AM VERY UNDERSTANDING, THE THING IS IS THAT LATELY I AM HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH IT BECAUSE A LOT OF OUR PROBLEMS, MAINLY COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS ARE DUE TO THIS. IT IS A PROBLEM BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T SEE THAT SHE IS THE ROOT OF OUR PROBLEMS. I TRY TO BE CALM AND TALK OUR PROBLEMS OUT BUT AT THE SAME TIME OF BEING BIPOLAR SHE IS VERY STUBBORN. MANY OF THE REASONS WE ARGUE ARE VERY POINTLESS BUT GET ESCALATED INTO SOMETHING FAR BEYOND WHAT WE STARTED AT. THIS IS MAKING ME DRAW THE CONCLUSION THAT SHE IS IMPOSSIBLE TO DEAL WITH. I NEED HELP IN FINDING WAYS TO COMMUNICATE WITH HER IN A CALM, PEACEFUL MANOR. PLEASE HELP, SWEATING IT OUT IN NEW YORK. Link to post Share on other sites
Dennis Posted March 12, 1999 Share Posted March 12, 1999 Dear Roger, I don´t know what you should do but I think that you must be a very loving person. Other people may not put so much effort into a relationship with a girlfriend like you have. Even the fact that you are seeking help to overcome these communicationproblems shows that you care for her deeply. If I were you I would go to a doctor of a psychologist who can give you professional advise. I wish you all the best in the future en hope that you will finf a solution for your problem! Love, Dennis Link to post Share on other sites
Thiamine Posted March 12, 1999 Share Posted March 12, 1999 I think its great that you've stood by your girlfriend this long. The only thing I can think of is to get her some help with a doctor..if you haven't already. Good luck! Love, Allison (Thiamine) Link to post Share on other sites
tigger Posted March 12, 1999 Share Posted March 12, 1999 Roger, Actually manic-depressive and bipolar are synonymous. I had a boyfriend who was bipolar and it was an emotional rollercoaster. But there is light at then end of this wacky tunnel. Once he was started on mood stabilizing meds everything was great. Her individual cocktail of neurotransmitters is off balance and she needs a little help from the pharmaceutical industry. IT takes about 6 weeks to work she and her doctor will have to find the right combo of meds and doses that works for her. One caveat - take a good look at what makes you desire her - is it her "exciting" personality? MAny SOs of manic persons really like that side of them and feed off of it. And when the meds start to take effect they often leave because their SO isn't the same "exciting" person. Be prepared for your girlfriend to have a cardboard personality for awhile until she adjusts. GOOD LUCK PS - if she's a student - her university probably has a competent counselling service. Otherwise a "Patient FIrst" or her GP will be able to help her out. HELL MY NAME IS ROGER AND I'M COMPLETELY WORN OUT. I HAVE A GIRLFRIEN WHO IS BIPOLAR. BEING BI POLAR IS THE OPPOSITE OF MANIC DEPRESSIVE WHERE SHE CAN BE EITHER A PSYCHOTIC BITCH ONE SECOND OR A LOVING OR DEPRESSED WOMAN THE NEXT SECOND. I AM A VERY PATIENT PERSON IN DEALIN G WITH HER PROBLEM AND AT THE SAME TIME AM VERY UNDERSTANDING, THE THING IS IS THAT LATELY I AM HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH IT BECAUSE A LOT OF OUR PROBLEMS, MAINLY COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS ARE DUE TO THIS. IT IS A PROBLEM BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T SEE THAT SHE IS THE ROOT OF OUR PROBLEMS. I TRY TO BE CALM AND TALK OUR PROBLEMS OUT BUT AT THE SAME TIME OF BEING BIPOLAR SHE IS VERY STUBBORN. MANY OF THE REASONS WE ARGUE ARE VERY POINTLESS BUT GET ESCALATED INTO SOMETHING FAR BEYOND WHAT WE STARTED AT. THIS IS MAKING ME DRAW THE CONCLUSION THAT SHE IS IMPOSSIBLE TO DEAL WITH. I NEED HELP IN FINDING WAYS TO COMMUNICATE WITH HER IN A CALM, PEACEFUL MANOR. PLEASE HELP, SWEATING IT OUT IN NEW YORK. Link to post Share on other sites
Frannie Brown Posted March 13, 1999 Share Posted March 13, 1999 Is she on medication? Is she in counseling? From what you have said, it seems like her problem with being stubborn and escalating the fights has little to do with her bi-polar disorder. It sounds like it's just her fighting style and her personality, I think she simply has a problem communicating. You can't blame everything on bi-polar disorder. I know this because I was diagnosed manic-depressive a few years ago, treated and then overcame it. Most people out there wouldn't be as understanding as you are, if she can't try to work on treating you with more respect/consideration when the two of you fight.. then I am afraid she will never change. Do you want to live the rest of your life like that...? HELL MY NAME IS ROGER AND I'M COMPLETELY WORN OUT. I HAVE A GIRLFRIEN WHO IS BIPOLAR. BEING BI POLAR IS THE OPPOSITE OF MANIC DEPRESSIVE WHERE SHE CAN BE EITHER A PSYCHOTIC BITCH ONE SECOND OR A LOVING OR DEPRESSED WOMAN THE NEXT SECOND. I AM A VERY PATIENT PERSON IN DEALIN G WITH HER PROBLEM AND AT THE SAME TIME AM VERY UNDERSTANDING, THE THING IS IS THAT LATELY I AM HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH IT BECAUSE A LOT OF OUR PROBLEMS, MAINLY COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS ARE DUE TO THIS. IT IS A PROBLEM BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T SEE THAT SHE IS THE ROOT OF OUR PROBLEMS. I TRY TO BE CALM AND TALK OUR PROBLEMS OUT BUT AT THE SAME TIME OF BEING BIPOLAR SHE IS VERY STUBBORN. MANY OF THE REASONS WE ARGUE ARE VERY POINTLESS BUT GET ESCALATED INTO SOMETHING FAR BEYOND WHAT WE STARTED AT. THIS IS MAKING ME DRAW THE CONCLUSION THAT SHE IS IMPOSSIBLE TO DEAL WITH. I NEED HELP IN FINDING WAYS TO COMMUNICATE WITH HER IN A CALM, PEACEFUL MANOR. PLEASE HELP, SWEATING IT OUT IN NEW YORK. Link to post Share on other sites
Burgess Posted March 25, 1999 Share Posted March 25, 1999 Bag this rotten person before she bags you for some other person for NO reason. Stay focused. She enjoys the games being played. Let her go. You go get a real girlfriend, preferably one who has it together and doesn't need medication to exist. Save youself before you get hurt. Which WILL happen. You are only delaying the inevitable. No matter what you think you like about her. Make her history. This simlar thing happened to me and we broke up 5 x in 9 weeks. Only after we had sex though. which was a GOOD thing,y'know. I wish I had broken up with her and saved myself two months of grieving over why she broke up with me. Then the games began when an attempt to become friends was withdrawn by her. Burgess HELL MY NAME IS ROGER AND I'M COMPLETELY WORN OUT. I HAVE A GIRLFRIEN WHO IS BIPOLAR. BEING BI POLAR IS THE OPPOSITE OF MANIC DEPRESSIVE WHERE SHE CAN BE EITHER A PSYCHOTIC BITCH ONE SECOND OR A LOVING OR DEPRESSED WOMAN THE NEXT SECOND. I AM A VERY PATIENT PERSON IN DEALIN G WITH HER PROBLEM AND AT THE SAME TIME AM VERY UNDERSTANDING, THE THING IS IS THAT LATELY I AM HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH IT BECAUSE A LOT OF OUR PROBLEMS, MAINLY COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS ARE DUE TO THIS. IT IS A PROBLEM BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T SEE THAT SHE IS THE ROOT OF OUR PROBLEMS. I TRY TO BE CALM AND TALK OUR PROBLEMS OUT BUT AT THE SAME TIME OF BEING BIPOLAR SHE IS VERY STUBBORN. MANY OF THE REASONS WE ARGUE ARE VERY POINTLESS BUT GET ESCALATED INTO SOMETHING FAR BEYOND WHAT WE STARTED AT. THIS IS MAKING ME DRAW THE CONCLUSION THAT SHE IS IMPOSSIBLE TO DEAL WITH. I NEED HELP IN FINDING WAYS TO COMMUNICATE WITH HER IN A CALM, PEACEFUL MANOR. PLEASE HELP, SWEATING IT OUT IN NEW YORK. Link to post Share on other sites
Thiamine Posted March 26, 1999 Share Posted March 26, 1999 Bag this rotten person before she bags you for some other person for NO reason. Stay focused. She enjoys the games being played. Let her go. You go get a real girlfriend, preferably one who has it together and doesn't need medication to exist. Save youself before you get hurt. Which WILL happen. You are only delaying the inevitable. No matter what you think you like about her. Make her history. This simlar thing happened to me and we broke up 5 x in 9 weeks. Only after we had sex though. which was a GOOD thing,y'know. I wish I had broken up with her and saved myself two months of grieving over why she broke up with me. Then the games began when an attempt to become friends was withdrawn by her. Burgess I totally and completely do NOT agree with this. The girl is bipolar, which is a serious condition. She herself is not a rotten person; its like 2 different personalitites which she cannot control. She is a "real girlfriend" and if you think people cannot have relationships with those who need medication, you are seriously mistaken. Lastly, I think you should go get some psychological help, especially since you broke up with your girlfriend "5 times in 9 weeks, but only after we had sex which was a GOOD thing" Are you saying you broke up with her those numerous times, then *really* broke it off with her after she slept with you? That is incredibly low. Sex is something experienced after you fall in love with someone, it is not just a gratification toy. Thiamine Link to post Share on other sites
Burgess Posted March 26, 1999 Share Posted March 26, 1999 Thiamine???? Really now! Why do you anger so?? You are probably a very nice person, too. She BROKE it off with me after sex. I was hurt everytime. Mine was bipolar also and I could have saved myself more hurt by breaking it off after seeing it was not going to work. Curb your jets my little sweety, Thiamine. I'm just telling this guy to SAVE himself. He's not bipolar and needs a girlfriend who is not either. That's why there are headshrinks to take care of people like his BP GF. Thanks for understanding, Thiamine. Again BAGGGGGG this BIPOLAR GF and SAVE yourself. Burgess I totally and completely do NOT agree with this. The girl is bipolar, which is a serious condition. She herself is not a rotten person; its like 2 different personalitites which she cannot control. She is a "real girlfriend" and if you think people cannot have relationships with those who need medication, you are seriously mistaken. Lastly, I think you should go get some psychological help, especially since you broke up with your girlfriend "5 times in 9 weeks, but only after we had sex which was a GOOD thing" Are you saying you broke up with her those numerous times, then *really* broke it off with her after she slept with you? That is incredibly low. Sex is something experienced after you fall in love with someone, it is not just a gratification toy. Thiamine Link to post Share on other sites
Thiamine Posted March 27, 1999 Share Posted March 27, 1999 Thiamine???? Really now! Why do you anger so?? You are probably a very nice person, too. She BROKE it off with me after sex. I was hurt everytime. Mine was bipolar also and I could have saved myself more hurt by breaking it off after seeing it was not going to work. Curb your jets my little sweety, Thiamine. I'm just telling this guy to SAVE himself. He's not bipolar and needs a girlfriend who is not either. That's why there are headshrinks to take care of people like his BP GF. Thanks for understanding, Thiamine. Again BAGGGGGG this BIPOLAR GF and SAVE yourself. Burgess Alright, listen. I went off on what information I had; you did not say anything about your girlfriend being bipolar or that she broke up with you after sex. And again, he doesn't have to break up with her; I see your point in what happened in your situation, but it is not all the same in different relationships. Don't get sarcastic with me, you didn't give me enough information. Thiamine Link to post Share on other sites
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