maybemine Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I've separated from my husband now, but he's still sending flowers and telling me everyday he wants to be with me. I've moved into my own apartment. My kids are adjusting. MM still contacts politely to check up on me. Today he called and came by the apartment. He said he doesn't want to lose his family, but that he can't stop thinking about me. He said he knows its not fair to me to keep coming around. We agreed to have NC. Cried. Then as he's about to leave we had sex. Passionate love making not just sex. He joked that this may complicate things but we agreed to have NC. Its so hard. I've picked up my phone several times to dial his number today but have forced myself not too. I'm hurting and I could just really use some comforting words, as my family and friends have all but shunned me for my A. How can I get through this and just finally move on? Link to post Share on other sites
rae_lana Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Love yourself more than him. Just try to be alone for a while and force him out of your head by doing other things. I guess I don't know if I want to be over this guy yet.. I would just like to think about it with a clear head so I want a clear slate. I want to be happy alone before being with someone more than a friend I guess. I have young kids. When they are awake it's easier to keep busy.. :/ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scott Thomas Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Strict NC at all costs. This is your chance. Maintain NC for at least a year. The MM doesn't want to destroy his family but is happy to sleep with you? You really think he means what he says? Put your kids first and focus on them. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts