The one day i get to be alone with him, friend butts in

[TazzieMarie2013]

So i've posted here before, the guy I told you about advanced our relationship to the next level. Things started happening a few weeks ago. he came over to my house and we had our time together. We cuddled, talked, watched a movie and read a book together. It was amazing <3. i look forward to spending time with him alone. We have a mutual friend and he knows something is going on only because everyone has told us they can "see" we love each other. Well, this mutual friend likes me. Now, he's making it a point to hang out each friday with us. Him and i hang out the rest of the weekend together. I don't get saturdays and sundays with the MM I am seeing because his wife is home. I don't even get every friday with him because sometimes his wife is home on fridays. What can I do? i'm not sure how to be able to be with him alone without our friend. Also, when we do hang out, the other guy will put his arm around me (which i'm okay with, as friends and i tell him that in front of my MM,so he knows ) I have to play along so he doesn't suspect anything more than he has, but what can I do? My MM is very passive and shy so he wouldn't like, come into the other room with me to hug me because his self esteem is so low (but he's an amazing person) and seeing some other guy put his arm around me makes him go back into his shy shell (not possessive) and he'll just let me be (which is why I love him) but sometimes I want him to come with me and I have no way to tell him, ya know? Any tips, what can I do?? I can't tell our friend I can;t hang because he'll ask him, or me what we are doing and he will find out if we lie.

[ScienceGal]

I've never heard of a "passive and shy" way to cheat on your wife. What do you hope to gain from this relationship? Also, I wouldn't let a male friend put his arm around me, especially if he has feelings for me. Doesn't sound like you have many boundaries.

 

You're setting yourself up for a world of hurt, my dear.

[unicorn farts]

Take a look through this forum.

 

Out of hundreds of posters, very, very few (probably <5) have wound up "happily ever after" with their MM. Even those few happy endings came after a lot of turmoil and grief. There is only one regular poster that seems completely happy being the other woman and she's almost certainly a troll.

 

You are at the beginning stage of your relationship with this guy. You can get out easily with no more than a few minor regrets.

 

You are setting yourself up for a world of hurt. Either wait for this guy to become available (I did ) or find someone currently available.