randomwoman Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I've had an EA for a couple of years. We once kissed but other than that, our relationship has been purely via text. He has basically said that he's afraid of what would happen if we are alone together so he avoids interacting with me. Both married. We have a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship.. he checks in with me, tries to make me happy in other ways and we even have reconciled this EA several times and we've "worked on our relationship" Women, have you ever been physically rejected by MM? It just feels like such a rare thing for a man to reject a woman sexually, especially as far as affairs are concerned. Sad to say but it has negatively affected my self-esteem. Why is this situation so rare? How can I move beyond feeling that the rejection says something about me personally? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I've had an EA for a couple of years. We once kissed but other than that, our relationship has been purely via text. He has basically said that he's afraid of what would happen if we are alone together so he avoids interacting with me. Both married. We have a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship.. he checks in with me, tries to make me happy in other ways and we even have reconciled this EA several times and we've "worked on our relationship" Women, have you ever been physically rejected by MM? It just feels like such a rare thing for a man to reject a woman sexually, especially as far as affairs are concerned. Sad to say but it has negatively affected my self-esteem. Why is this situation so rare? How can I move beyond feeling that the rejection says something about me personally? I don't mean this meanly, but spend time with your husband and put less focus on your MM. Your MM is being smart by staying away from you! Respect that! Just shows where his head is at, that he doesn't want to cheat on his wife, doesn't want to hurt everybody and you, by having an affair. Don't him him not paying attention to you enough or not wanting to start an A with you ruin your self esteem! Really, dig down deep and ask yourself why you'd let a man, let alone someone else who is already married ruin you? Are you happy at home with your husband? Does he make you feel good and special? If not, why not? Repair your R with your H, then maybe you won't need another man to fill in needs that aren't being met at home. Fix you by loving yourself. Spend time with your women friends who make you laugh and genuinally care about you! Are you willing to throw away your own marriage, your life as you know it for some MM? Let's say an affair does happen, what then? Are you willing to divorce your H and start over with MM if he divorces his wife? Do you have children to consider in all this? Think long term, not just day to day and in the heat of the moment of having your ego fed by someone who makes your heart sing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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